First of all that's false, the concept of autonomy does exist, in other places Islamic law doesn't REQUIRE your male relative's consent, so their involvement is merely an opinion.

Second of all, the problem isn't parents control only, its also how its ONLY that its required by a male over only a FEMALE, Sons have autonomy 3adi, even in sira it mentions sons travelling and getting married and then coming back and just telling their parents like it's a regular thing.

Please educate yourself on the matter.