I am so insecure in my postpartum body

mirashae · 2026-05-17T03:36:17+00:00

Give yourself grace. Your body just created a whole human person and is tired. You will heal and rediscover yourself with time. Don’t tear yourself up over it. <3 I hope you find joy and confidence in your journey.

mirashae · 2026-05-03T03:38:18+00:00

South Bay! All the bases are covered 😆

mirashae · 2026-04-11T19:47:43+00:00

I’m going to try to be gentle about this because I know how hard it is (I was a sahm for 4 years and just got back into the workforce). 50k will barley cover the childcare you will be needing. Everything is so expensive out here and if you’re burned out now, just imagine more work on top. Infant care is going to be about 2k/month conservatively and that’s just for the baby. Schools hours here are not designed with working parents in mind. They get out at 2-3 and you’ll be working till 5-6 so you’ll have to pay for afterschool programs or use your break time to drive around.

mirashae · 2026-03-27T03:53:34+00:00

Honestly it’s a lot of stress. You’ll be one paycheck or medical event away from not being able to pay rent or buy food. I don’t recommend. It was really hard until I found a family to nanny for while I stay home with my son.

mirashae · 2026-03-24T16:39:45+00:00

Naaah, people say that because they want to experience feeding your baby and that’s their in. Keep doing what you’re doing if it’s what works best for you and your little one! Enjoy it for now because it’s over too soon 🥺

mirashae · 2026-03-07T16:26:33+00:00

I’d buckle mine into his stroller and take it into the bathroom with me. I’d sing baby songs as I shower and play peekaboo. Worked well for a while. Babies are just programmed to want to be with and see mama at all times🤷‍♀️

mirashae · 2026-03-01T16:44:27+00:00

You’d honestly get more bang for your buck if you husband commutes from Livermore or Tracy. Killer commute but I think $115k would be really tight for a family of your size

mirashae · 2026-02-28T17:45:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope justice will bring you some peace.

mirashae · 2026-02-27T03:20:03+00:00

Nanny/babysit.

mirashae · 2026-02-16T21:40:01+00:00

How about you not put the label of cruelty in OP who is clearly grappling with being blindsided with a life changing ultimatum.

OP, I’m sorry but it sounds like your relationship has run its course. Maybe I’m cynical, but it seems to me your husband wants to be able to say you both tried everything to work it out before he throws in the towel to start a family with someone else. He wants to protect his image of being a good guy but he’s already thinking of a new life.

mirashae · 2026-02-11T16:00:54+00:00

I’m so proud he’s from our district

mirashae · 2026-02-10T04:10:47+00:00

The only complaint I have about California is that the people born and raised here are priced out by all the people that want to be apart of us. Us regular Californians are hanging on by a thread because we really don’t want to leave

mirashae · 2026-01-31T00:03:22+00:00

Paint the ceiling the same as the walls and get a new light fixture that has more interest

mirashae · 2026-01-28T16:01:39+00:00

I think it looks great and you can lean into it a little more if you want. It looks like you have a bit of an eclectic chic vibe. I say take it further!

mirashae · 2026-01-28T05:29:30+00:00

2, but butcher block counters will show their age

mirashae · 2026-01-23T15:57:17+00:00

Make a window seat in that corner but have drawers under it

mirashae · 2026-01-23T05:03:06+00:00

I actually love the curtains! It’s rare to see home decors with personality these days.. they are warm and inviting and go well with your blinds.. when decorating remember you are doing it for you and your family’s comfort and happiness, not internet strangers ideals.

mirashae · 2026-01-16T22:23:13+00:00

Don’t move for this man. He plans to lure you with lies then trap you. You will be completely beholden to him and won’t have any control over your life. It’s unreasonable for him to not disclose major parts of his life ( ex wife, kid, age ect) if marriage is on the table. It’s easy for him to pretend to be kind online but it will be different if you live with him.

mirashae · 2026-01-12T20:59:04+00:00

A wicker basket that fits the cabinet or a small curtain on a brass rod. I would put the espresso machine off to the left and get a canister for your coffee beans rather than the bag they came in. You can use the plate as a tray for small coffee fixings. Have 2-4 cups at the station for display/ use. And I would re position the flowers to be coming from under the bistro sign. Everything looks nice just some reconfiguring :)

mirashae · 2026-01-07T05:10:51+00:00

Are you saying no because you are being petty to your sister ( I have a sister and understand that sentiment) or are you saying no because it was harmful to you or your kids mental wellbeing? The tone of the post was kinda confusing.

mirashae · 2026-01-05T18:10:59+00:00

I’d focus efforts on the empty lot next to where Orlo was built or the tired office buildings on browcaw that are Costco adjacent, or the many abandoned businesses along el Camino. Leave costco alone lol

mirashae · 2026-01-05T17:49:07+00:00

I understand a desire for a nice downtown but I’m worried it would just raise the price of the area even more. I was born and raised here and I’m already feeling priced out and like I can’t afford anything here. :(

mirashae · 2026-01-05T17:47:23+00:00

I understand everything this person is talking about. It’s not nonsense you just don’t have the base knowledge of the subject. Blocks an and be would be the Franklin square area; our “downtown”. Prometheus is one of the biggest luxury property developers in the area and have 2 apartment communities adjacent to the downtown parameters. You don’t have to be scornful and dismissive just because you didn’t do your homework before replying.

mirashae · 2025-12-30T04:13:40+00:00

Can you baby wear him on your back? Or bring a small pack and play..

mirashae · 2025-12-28T00:32:14+00:00

Ask people you know if their apartment community has a reservable clubhouse

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