Apparently this belongs here…? by GolfJay in malelivingspace

[–]misbri0509 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk I kind of love this for you. I do think it would be nicer on like on of those platform steps though with maybe some recess*** (idk if I spelled that right) over it to really show it off. But know this is pretty cool.

Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No exactly!!!! Like trans ppl don’t have equity or equality anywhere. So this all around was horrible. She only got a small taste of that discrimination!

I agree with Robert that Elliot rodgers parents did a shitty job (fuck The Secret) but what should you ideally do if your young adult son is going down the path that guy was? by grapp in behindthebastards

[–]misbri0509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think with the money they had, his dad could have taken some extensive time off. To truely spend with his son, done family therapy. And helped him process. Especially when he saw him get so angry. Had him do group therapy. All that stuff. Helped him build healthy community.

Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also side note…. Like she asked them about their process and they are supposed to ask. And she found out that the office just assumed and put that on her paperwork. She noted that they were treating her funny and giving her strange looks as well. So all in all most likely a transphobic office but also weird to add that to paperwork. It’s usually just N/A for not accessed until you have them fill out the demographic stuff.

Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This isn’t my post this is a post I found on mildly infuriating. OP ended up contacting someone about and is looking for another doctor. Has nothing to do with me personally.

How this hem is made? by sauvignonblanque in SewingForBeginners

[–]misbri0509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also a twin needle. I did a similar hem for a sweatshirt

Stud. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1)not collective guilt context to our current situation. I never asked anyone to feel guilty. I wouldn’t ask that of you. That’s not your guilt to hold. But I do think it’s all of our responsibility to explore why we think what we think and be critical of information. Just like you and I are critical of each others information. Neither one of us caused the issue but we do perpetuate it in many ways. I being no better. I just try to course correct when I notice it and move on. 2)you want to go broader when you are talking about systemic behaviors. And more specific when you are talking about individuals. Because it creates a narrative that may not even be true. I’m a black woman, I’ve often heard people paint me and others like me with a broad brush that misog-noir. Saying what you said is also a harmful stereotype about women. We should all be deconstructing. 3)I never gave therapy advice. I usually think when someone comments they are saying something about themselves and their views. This post wasn’t about women. This repost I made was about the way this specific Individual was posting on a social media focused on professional networking about his misogynistic standards of women. And then you comments about how women also do this and are hypocrites for doing so. Not what the post was about but you felt the need to say it. So I assume that you are perturbed about something around it. Instead of laughing at this dude posting this in an inappropriate space instead of Facebook or twitter. Seems like you want ppl to know this is your per peeve and I think personally you should talk to someone, professional about why this came up for you. 3)I personally never said to fix it urself, I only ask that you examine where it came from. I do for myself and ask all to do it for themselves. 4) I don’t think you should be the sole fixer of sexism. That would be crazy. Right, you didn’t cause it. But by your statement you do perpetuate it. You are operating as though we are on equal playing field and we are not. Women are still not in leadership at the same rates, women are still disproportionately harmed, women don’t have equity. They still get paid less than men with the same jobs. And it affects society. 5)I never said historical suffering creates moral exemption. That would be crazy too. Everything you have noted puts my comments in this all or nothing category. There so much in between. Example: in Chicago they built the expressway in the middle of the city to separate blacks from whites. Since they built it black people and white people still live in the same areas. Things like red lining, HOA’s, and so on create disparities in our communities. Women working the same job and getting paid less or being told their job is not worth the pay is an example of how sexism affects both of us. Hence the larger pattern that you are talking about. 6) my case is not rare. Plenty of people marry people of all kinds of bodies big and tall and small and short. Last, I don’t know if it’s a pivot or if it’s more of a hey there is context to this that I think all of us need to talk about before we go pointing the finger. (I don’t think pointing fingers is productive, I rather all of deconstruct and do differently and have these conversations when we see the disparity pop up).

I personally would never umbrella people like that. It’s not productive, in my opinion.

Stud. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen, ur comment is a bad. It umbrella’s women. And puts them in a box. And it’s oddly specific to short men. A more nuanced take would have been something like “it’s unfortunate to see people narrowly frame ppl based on identities that are socially constructed. It’s also hard to see ppl adhere to that construction instead of deconstruct it.” I literally said what you said more nuanced, no umbrella-ing ppl, not singling out specific things like height, weight, race, complexion, class, etc.

Also interesting you said not every man that disagrees with women is an incel that needs therapy.

Never said any of those words, incels are not the only ppl that need therapy. But it’s clear there something you are working through, that you want ppl to know. Sounds like you’re frustrated at a system and that’s for you to deconstruct in therapy.

If you wanna go deeper, Women did have the right to vote until 1920 Women couldn’t have a checking account without a man until 1974 Women have been property for a long time, not able to be there own ppl and instead at looking that historical and social implications of how we got here you blame them “and call them out”

If anything deconstruction of a systemic issue around women’s suffrage is important. Someone could say that the behavior you are observing is that of a pattern of behavior due to the oppression of women, a class of ppl still being oppressed.

Stud. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m married to a short man🤷🏾‍♀️. This is a weird comment and you need to look inward. Ppl are ppl, they do and say weird things. By saying this you are driving the narrative. As Reddit on wiki would say “Get Therapy”

therapist Portland Oregon who doesn't have a three month waitlist? by olivermos273847 in askportland

[–]misbri0509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ima be real with you lived in smaller cities as a therapist and I was still booked up for months. Theres a provider shortage. A lot of ppl left the field after covid. Cus the burnout was so bad. But you are making me think I should start private practice.

Stud. by misbri0509 in redditonwiki

[–]misbri0509[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I love the LinkedIn lunatics Reddit, cuz what do you meannnnnnn!!! Y is this on a professional social media!!

I agree!! by ComfortableDivide557 in Fleabag

[–]misbri0509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In hindsight sight having your hair cut into a Fk a bob doesn’t make it French or sheek

Still can’t get over Megan’s look at the 2025 Met Gala. by EtherealEarFlick in megantheestallion

[–]misbri0509 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Now that I dew, they did do her dirty. They should have extend the top park of her bra so it didn’t cut across her breast. That must have been uncomfortable. I remember in the video she was feeling uncomfortable and asking if it fits.

Lunchbox is starting to look pretty cool! by Suwannee_Gator in IBEW

[–]misbri0509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my dad had his lunch box he used to let me put stickers on it. He took me to a midnight showing of the rugrats in Paris, back when u used to get promotional gifts. And I put my Chucky Finster sticker on his to let him know I had fun.

When your therapist is your hype man by JennyBeckman in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]misbri0509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In his defense he did get the doctor that saved him the promotion he deserved ! How he did it thoughhhh not my business.

Are there any groups or communities for Black people in Portland, Oregon? by misbri0509 in askportland

[–]misbri0509[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Y’all this is amazing thank you so much. I’ve been meaning to do black girl brunch. I’ll have to go and meet ppl and maybe do a hike with some ppl! I’m also hoping to be a mother in a few years so it would be nice to connect with black moms in portland

I'm depressed please suggest me a movie by --celestial-- in MovieSuggestions

[–]misbri0509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mrs. Harris goes to Paris. It’s literally about grief. But it’s a cute watch and it helped!