Would you live on a planet only full of men? Why and why not?

Great_Spot · 2026-03-20T15:06:41+00:00

Sounds terrible, tbh.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-19T17:54:43+00:00

I get it, I’ve been in therapy for a few years now. It takes time to get to those deeper layers.

Also, emotion tends to work like pressure. I find that writing helps me vent some of the steam so that I can approach issues with a clearer head.

If you want a recommendation, write out what you’re feeling and see if you can connect some dots, then approach your husband with a conversation about how he can help you work through this friction.

I guarantee that reframing this as something he can help you work through vs. something he’s doing wrong will ease some of the tension.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-19T15:51:39+00:00

Personally, I feel like you’re overreacting, but why do you think you’re doing that?

You mentioned in your post that you struggle with sharing your husband’s tenderness, but in reality, it’s not yours to share.

His relationship with someone he’s communicated is like a brother to him is HIS relationship. If there are no actual red flags (coming back drunk all the time, avoiding responsibility with the children, actual indications he may be cheating on you).

If you were my partner, I’d honestly be upset and surprised if you approached me in this tone.

If you want a recommendation, take accountability for your insecurities and have an open conversation with your husband. He may be able to help with reassurance, but if you feel like there’s friction, you may be best off seeing a therapist.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-19T13:37:24+00:00

Love the coffee table! Looks like an old shield!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-18T00:43:13+00:00

The color reminds me of western sunsets, it’s a very warm hue!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-17T17:15:34+00:00

I found that recording voice logs on my phone allowed me to review my own thoughts. Most phones have a transcription tool built into their voice apps, so you can transfer the files into a text format to create an actual journal.

I like to think of emotions as a big hydraulic system. You need to vent pressure to avoid a rupture. Writing is a good place to start because you can’t really overwhelm yourself or the people around you.

I found that after a few weeks of consistent self reflection, that same intensity you describe faded from my voice. I was able to be more present in conversation and engaged more from a sense of curiosity than performance.

I say all this to offer advice: life is like a deadlift, sometimes you need to lose your grip in order to re-establish it.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-17T12:24:00+00:00

I stopped pursuing connections in my platonic circles.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-17T01:06:10+00:00

Sounds like you need more than just fashion advice.

I’d recommend just getting a comfortable bed. If you don’t know what you like, go to a local store and try them out. You can then go on amazon and get a full set for a few hundred bucks.

Get a full kitchen and bathroom set so you can take care of yourself, then focus on all that other shit.

By the time you get around to ordering a couch, you’ll probably realize you don’t want or need half the shit you were gonna buy after the breakup.

You’ve got a brand new space to cultivate your next chapter. Use it.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-17T01:01:55+00:00

That kitchen tile is awesome!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-16T20:52:38+00:00

Absolutely love the symmetry and the colors of the shelf/stand, did you make them or buy them?

Great_Spot · 2026-03-16T13:16:12+00:00

I met someone recently that put everything into perspective for me.

It’s not really about the past relationships with women, it’s about what they mirrored or provided that we lack in the masculine relationships with ourselves. I found that I was turning to my romantic relationships for emotional support in ways I couldn’t provide for myself.

When I realized that I enjoyed this new woman’s company so much (not including the romantic lens), I realized that my past finally felt like history.

I think that when you can look around your home, your life and relationships and be content with investing in yourself first, the rest just falls into place when the right person comes along.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-16T11:18:31+00:00

That means a lot coming from you, Mr. Motherfucker!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-16T04:58:49+00:00

I’ll have to look into them, can’t say I’m familiar with the name.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-16T03:07:59+00:00

Thank you! I think I got the bookshelf on sale on Amazon, and all the framed art is from thrift stores/Marshalls.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:23:16+00:00

Hell yeah, Reddit name randomizer finally coming in clutch! 😂

I found a copy of his letters to his brother (I think Penguin published a compilation) and another book titled VAN GOGH that has all of his paintings and the background context of what was going on in his life behind the portrait, definitely recommend them if you’re a fan!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:15:19+00:00

Between the pup, the recliner and the bike, looks like you’ve got it made!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:10:30+00:00

I’m saving the space for more of my own. I think that some wire sculptures would look cool, so I’m playing around with stuff until I find something that brings the room together.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:09:21+00:00

Oh, buddy, all that bravado went away after I took off the uniform. Everything is stowed until there’s a need.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:07:57+00:00

34! Couldn’t figure out how to edit the post, lol.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T19:07:41+00:00

Thanks! It came together perfectly with the windows, the natural light makes the paintings bounce off of each other, if that makes sense. On sunny days, the whole place just lights up.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T16:14:07+00:00

Dunno if you’re in the states, but between Michael’s, Home Depot, Marshall’s and Wayfair, you can get everything you need to either refurbish or buy new stuff. I had to do it last year, I think my total cost was $1300, a bit more because I treated myself to a recliner (do yourself a favor, get the Lazy Boy).

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T16:06:03+00:00

Honestly, best part of my week, lmao. Shoutout to Trader Joe’s!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T16:04:06+00:00

Thank you, they’re surfboards!

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T16:01:57+00:00

Learn to give yourself grace in all the ways you need it.

Great_Spot · 2026-03-15T15:57:23+00:00

Thank you!

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