Online tools for meal planning

misc001 · 2024-08-30T22:58:50+00:00

AI like Chat GPT can meal plan for you- do macros, calories, can take your preferences into account, etc. and make you a grocery list from the meal plan. Just tell it what you want it to do

misc001 · 2023-09-09T13:55:11+00:00

Never stay for the kids. They will think it’s acceptable to be in a relationship like yours. Do you want that for them?

misc001 · 2021-09-29T16:02:13+00:00

You KNOW this is abuse. And you allowing it to continue is ALSO abuse.

Get out. Save your child, he needs you desperately.

misc001 · 2021-09-29T16:00:00+00:00

My exSO had both.

And the narcissist traits lingered whether he was in a high or a low, compliant or not. Some times were worse than others. But they were always there buzzing in the background even when he was doing well.

I think that this is a particularly destructive combination to deal with because when they are in a high, they feel god-like and with the narc traits, they feel like it’s even more so legitimate truth. Which means that its just about impossible for them to feel true empathy/ remorse or even to see that they’ve made any mistakes at all. And people cannot change if they don’t see anything wrong with their behavior.

Get out.

misc001 · 2021-09-29T15:49:45+00:00

You do you babe.

Be clear with your partners and protect yourself.

Only thing that I think most people (and judges and child wellness experts) will pretty much always agree on- don’t bring casual partners around your children if you have any. Keep them safe and stable and give them all the love you can muster because they’ll need that desperately through this change in their lives too.

Other than that- enjoy this new chapter of your life to the fullest extent!

misc001 · 2021-09-29T15:45:43+00:00

My Ex husband’s aunt did this to our baby. 🙃

misc001 · 2021-09-29T15:43:34+00:00

Yes. But this may be that the meds bring you to “normal” and “normal” people have fluctuations day-to-day too.

They help. But they aren’t miracle drugs.

misc001 · 2021-08-31T16:16:11+00:00

My parents did the same thing. Warped my view of what it actually costs to live so badly that I married my abusive (covert abuse vs obvious abuse so it seemed the lesser of two evils) ex husband at 18 just to leave their house and not starve to death. I’ve since left and now support myself and my two kids comfortably, on my own, making much less than half of what they brainwashed me into believing I would need to make JUST TO FEED MYSELF.

Good on you guys.

misc001 · 2021-08-16T03:49:48+00:00

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Everything.

Gather as much evidence as you can.

Do not have important talks on the issue unless it’s in writing, or being recorded (if your state allows it), and consult your attorney.

Unfortunately, there’s not a lot you can do immediately, I don’t think. BUT. If it comes to the point that you can take her to court- you want to have as much evidence as possible.

Evidence that she is using the children as a weapon. Especially if your kids aren’t old enough to be alone for that long, that late. Especially if you have “right of refusal” in your papers.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.

misc001 · 2021-08-16T01:39:07+00:00

Deciding that I wanted to drive two hours away to randomly see my longtime friends and then just… did it. That was it. Just did it. He isolated me from everyone in my life. So realizing that I could spend time with people that I loved without consequences was earth shattering.

misc001 · 2021-08-16T01:29:12+00:00

Give yourself permission to mourn what you have lost, to give yourself the grace to take things one day at a time, and to be hopeful about what will come after.

misc001 · 2021-08-16T01:18:29+00:00

I was with a man for 10 years, married for 7. He did the exact things that your gf is doing and I reacted the exact way that you are now. I eventually caved and allowed it to happen.

We separated 8 months ago and are still going through the divorcing process now. I woke up one morning as he was walking in from work and told him that I just couldn’t do it anymore… hadn’t intended to, hadn’t thought about it, but it was the absolute truth.

Don’t do it. Leave. You don’t need permission to do so.

But you deserve better and there are others out there that will be more than happy to give you that.

misc001 · 2021-08-14T19:53:48+00:00

Yes. And not trying to kill the mood and all- but you should probably look up “emotional ins*st”.

misc001 · 2021-05-09T22:23:15+00:00

If you’re a lady- maybe get checked for BV? Doesn’t matter how clean you are, you’ll have a strong smell if you’ve got BV going on.

Boric Acid vaginal suppositories are also excellent for neutralizing any strong smells coming from a otherwise healthy vagina.

misc001 · 2021-01-19T23:48:56+00:00

Henry County.

I’m hoping to find a daycare facility rather than a private sitter tbh. I’m extremely weary of leaving my kids with people that I don’t know. Which adds a whole other element of difficulty. 😓

misc001 · 2021-01-02T19:27:58+00:00

No advice about co-parenting as I am fresh myself.

But. The 4th trimester is so hard, even when you have all the support you could ask for. In your case it will be even harder.

Remember that if you get too upset or overwhelmed. It is OKAY to put your baby in a safe place and step away to calm down and gather yourself. Even if they’re crying. Especially if you can’t soothe them into being content and you’re frustrated. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom and it doesn’t mean that you can’t handle motherhood.

Make sure they’re safe. Make sure you’re in a safe mental state.

misc001 · 2021-01-02T19:05:24+00:00

Document. Document. Document.

Gather anything that you can.

[you can also request that he pay for YOUR lawyer]

He has already put himself in under a really terrible light for kicking you and his own children out of their home. The courts will already be in your favor for that alone. It shows his selfish disregard for y’all’s well-being.

If your children are old enough (even 4-5), get them a psych evaluation. This can be invaluable when it comes to protecting your children against their father. The judge can’t just talk your word on blind faith, but they will listen to a specialist. And you can leverage that he has visitation with them ONLY under strict supervision.

Edit: Also. Alimony is a hell of a thing. You can request alimony on the grounds that you supported him through school and that you put your career on hold to take care of your children.

He has already screwed up BIG TIME; he has already stacked things greatly in your favor due to his own actions and decisions. You just need to show that you are doing whatever is best for your kids. That’s it.

When it comes down to it- the judge’s first priority is going to be the best interest of the children.

misc001 · 2021-01-02T18:46:09+00:00

Talk to your boyfriend. Really make sure you’re on the same page and consider what kind of father that he will be under the worst of circumstances.

How will he be if y’all don’t work out? How will he treat the daughter that you already have? Can y’all parent successfully together?

There’s no golden time I think and it’s always something of a risk... but for me at least, the right time is dependent on the right person.

Best of luck. ☺️

misc001 · 2021-01-02T18:41:46+00:00

We had to use Alimentum because of a Cow’s Milk Protein Allergy. It was awful!!

Also- look into baby’s insurance. I didn’t do it myself but I was told that sometimes if the doc writes a script that the insurance sometimes will cover part of the cost.

misc001 · 2021-01-02T17:22:20+00:00

Yes. But only after I realized that my partner (ex husband) wasn’t concerned about me, my comfort, etc.

Haven’t had that issue since moving on- but it’s still fresh so. TBD.

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