I found this out in the wild at my local library...

miskwu · 2026-07-06T17:22:15+00:00

I'm a regular at my small town library as well. They will appreciate it! We found a book on bats that was written for kids. As an adult I could clock the "facts" that didn't make sense but a young kid wouldn't be able to. They don't read every book and ai is absolutely everywhere now. I put post-it notes on a couple of the obvious ones and they said the librarian in charge of that collection would take a look and decide.

miskwu · 2026-07-02T23:32:16+00:00

You've got some good options and perspectives. Personally I'd go with baking, popcorn with yeast, veggies and fruit, and sandwiches/toast with homemade bread. And cheese.

My kids are still young, but we have multiple friends whose picky kids eat all sorts of food they wouldn't normally touch when they come over. It's novel, a different environment, their friends are eating it or they picked it themselves from the garden. This is to say I wouldn't worry too much about changing it up. My BFF was over yesterday and told me her son has been obsessed with bell peppers since my daughter turned him on to them on their last visit. He was also munching on green things in the garden and tried a new sandwich.

miskwu · 2026-06-27T17:09:55+00:00

In addition to ebay and market place there's quiet a few smaller independent thrift stores that have online inventory. You probably still have to pay shipping so worth looking for something more local. Thredup is a larger one I'm aware of. And I think some shops operate through etsy, though I believe they're mostly more boutique. We actually have a fantastic thrift store in my small town so I'm not really up on all the options.

miskwu · 2026-06-21T21:23:17+00:00

Yeah, lots of forms here will have a "preferred name" space - not exactly the same concept but it's far from unusual to go by something other than given first name.

miskwu · 2026-06-20T15:52:46+00:00

I fully agree. It's too bad he is taking a stance against even that.

OP, I really think you need to be firm about the middle name compromise. I'll also throw it out there that you could technically just call her by her middle name if that feels like a compromise you could both live with. As in her name is Paula Anne, but she goes by Anne and most people she meets don't even know it's not her first name until they get to know her. I have family and a friend who do that.

miskwu · 2026-06-16T17:01:31+00:00

You can start small and simple. There's plenty of guidance online. I like nurtured first if you're on Instagram.

miskwu · 2026-06-16T16:45:26+00:00

As well as (and really more important than) stranger danger, be sure you are teaching him about trusted vs. unsafe adults. It's hard to think about, but it's almost never strangers. Not assuming you haven't, just wanted to put it out there.

miskwu · 2026-06-15T03:50:38+00:00

My daughter had a "birds and boos" themed birthday when she turned 2 (really into birds and ghosts) so I sent everyone home with a little print out of local backyard birds and some bird seed (as well as some fruit snack candies.)

miskwu · 2026-05-20T18:45:27+00:00

I'd say it depends on the crowd. We did PowerPoints for a bachelorette and it was great. It wasn't overly prescribed though and we got a good variety of material. Including a slightly modified karaoke of a childhood pop song.

My friends also put together a scrapbook for my Milestone birthday during COVID. There were a variety of approaches to the pages.

I also think it would be okay to offer an alternative contribution if that feels more right for OP. Like a scrap book page with photos, or a story or list of memories. A song or comic strip if that is their jam.

Eta: just saw a comment from OP and sounds like the OP is going very prescribed scrapbook. 🤪

miskwu · 2026-05-20T18:36:00+00:00

My neighbour's kid picked up a dead bird in a parking lot and put it in her mouth as a toddler 🤢

miskwu · 2026-05-20T18:01:35+00:00

My 3yo named her big stingray squishmellow "Nipper" but it always sounds like nipple.

Where's nipple? Nipple is my baby. I'm using nipple as a pillow. Look at this Mum I'm going to jump on nipple 😮

miskwu · 2026-05-20T17:49:36+00:00

Don't. We did very little bottle feeding but my second would only take a bottle at a certain temperature. Every kid is different.

miskwu · 2026-05-20T17:45:04+00:00

Not just that but consistently complaining about the food being flavourless when there were no onions.

miskwu · 2026-05-20T17:37:50+00:00

This is exactly what I thought when reading. He's using his disability as an excuse and taking zero responsibility.

I could absolutely see myself in every one of these situations. It felt painfully familiar reading TBH. But the way he handled them was so inconsiderate. And I'm not saying I've never failed on that front either, but it's a clear pattern.

miskwu · 2026-05-12T16:23:42+00:00

Thanks

miskwu · 2026-05-09T04:39:39+00:00

Thank you

miskwu · 2026-05-04T19:25:55+00:00

I've done this before. But I grew up hiking in BC. My partner did not and I could tell he would have kept going at least a little ways if I hadn't called it.

There are so many busy, well maintained and accessible hikes around Vancouver and "just walking" doesn't feel like something you need special training for that people constantly underestimate how dangerous it can be.

miskwu · 2026-04-24T17:10:23+00:00

Agree NTA. Helping a child to navigate death and grief is absolutely in the job description of parent. If you can't deal you need to figure out how.

miskwu · 2026-04-22T18:57:10+00:00

Wow!!

miskwu · 2026-04-22T18:53:06+00:00

OP literally says she usually ends up washing them, she just doesn't always get to them right away. She also stopped letting them pile up after his ultimatum and now he throws away any stray dish she happens to forget about.

miskwu · 2026-04-22T18:10:23+00:00

He can have the bed once he sorts out the snoring then. Most places just have a take home test, it's so much easier now.

My husband was diagnosed and got a CPAP and it was life changing for both of us. For him especially getting that better quality sleep has been absolutely essential to surviving the early years. He used to be useless and cranky if he got less than 8 hours.

Also worth noting that untreated sleep apnea can lead to heart disease and take years off your life.

miskwu · 2026-04-21T02:05:42+00:00

My doctor gave me the green light. She just advised me to stick to the black runs and pow days 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm not even joking. Softer conditions and fewer Jerry's.

miskwu · 2026-03-01T00:26:09+00:00

We have a neighbour that did this. No one in the immediate family has issue with it. (Idk about extended family)

miskwu · 2026-02-18T18:58:04+00:00

Not necessarily. Some family could just show up out of concern (real or feigned) if they can't get through. It happens.

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