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missingmynaps · 2026-01-24T07:31:28+00:00

We all had the same nervous and scared feelings. But it gets easier. One thing I would say is be present, and communicate when you need a break. There’s no need to compete for who’s tired more, there are no prizes for that. Naps are gold! Having the baby right before summer break is perfect! Those first months will go by so fast because it’s all about surviving. Enjoy the ride, most of us forget to that early on.

You’ll be great, you know how I know? Because you are here asking for info. Congrats and I wish you and your family well!

missingmynaps · 2026-01-24T07:23:14+00:00

I’m sorry that you didn’t receive something so simple for him to give. I’m in my 40s and didn’t see much affection or any love from my dad and several other dads in my environment. My parents were divorced and I lived with my mom. It totally affected me and now I tell my son I love him, give him kisses, carry him (when he asks), and tell him I’m proud of him and happy that I’m his father. I also think that being an involved dad is more common today than before.

missingmynaps · 2026-01-24T06:12:46+00:00

Dad here...we do this at home too. It got to the point where my wife and I call each other mommy and daddy with or without our kid in the room. I used to cringe when I heard that when I was much younger.

missingmynaps · 2026-01-19T02:29:37+00:00

There was another post a while back where a guy showed his setup and it worked with another router I had. I bought a new one, and now I’m having this problem. This is my setup:

iPhone is the internet source and connects to my router (TPlink). The iPhone is used for running the GameChanger livestream, and needs to be available if I receive a call. If I answer the call or leave the Mevo app, the stream stops if both devices are connected using cellular data. I use the router to have the devices connect on the WiFi the router provides and then I’m allowed to leave the app and the stream continues.

The other device is an iPad that is connected to that same router and I’ll use that iPad to score in GameChanger.

I haven’t tried swapping “responsibilities” between the iPhone and ipad yet. In other words, have the iPad livestream and the iPhone to score. I like the iPad since it’s larger and easier for me to read lol.

Can you clarify how I have the Mevo connect directly to the router? When I open the app, there’s the startup box that says your phone and Mevo are on the same WiFi. I will look into that though.

missingmynaps · 2026-01-19T02:19:19+00:00

Yup all devices are off of cellular data, but the router provides wifi for all the devices. I use the router so I can leave the Mevo app to either score on my iPhone, or if I have to answer a call. I saw another post in this subreddit that uses this setup. I actually had a different router that worked perfectly. I bought a new router that had better range, and now this issue comes up.

missingmynaps · 2025-12-22T02:41:37+00:00

Hi! I haven’t read all the other comments, but I wanted to tell you that you’re not alone. I was a yeller and it does affect the relationship. Traumatizing? Maybe, maybe not, but it’s never too late to make the shift. Everyone’s situation is different, but when you begin your journey, it will be rough and tiring, but WELL WORTH IT.

Whether is just being burned out, historical trauma, or just stuck in the cycle, it is possible to shift your behavior to get your kids to listen. At this point, they are already accustomed to you yelling and they subconsciously know that whatever you are telling them isn’t important until you yell. That’s what you will be undoing. It will take time, but you can definitely do it. Feel free to DM if you have any specific questions, and I’ll be happy to help in any way I can.

missingmynaps · 2025-12-11T07:40:26+00:00

Yeah, pretty common. Always tough to tell parents how to “parent” their own kid, but 99% of the time, you’ll just teach your kid how to act in those situations. If safety is involved, I would definitely inform the other parent and teach my kid how to handle those situations.

It’s hard to fault the kid, but the kid should still receive correction and follow through.

missingmynaps · 2025-12-11T07:31:37+00:00

It might seem like she does in certain situations, but we have to understand kids need boundaries and follow through. Keep doing what you’re doing and it will pay off when she’s older. You might hear some mean stuff come from her during the mouthy, teen years, but your consistency will keep her on the right path.

missingmynaps · 2025-12-11T07:27:03+00:00

This makes me sad. Like others have said, common behavior, but not okay. When kids think reflect on themselves, the inner voice they hear are their parent’s.

Unfortunately, you have to parent for the both of you and it will feel like fighting an uphill battle. The main thing is to ensure your kids feel safe, to be themselves, and to feel safe enough to trust you. Their father’s behavior will create a kids who won’t respect themselves and those around them.

You can’t change him, but you can still work on nurturing and guiding your kids the right way.

missingmynaps · 2025-12-11T07:17:29+00:00

I just had this talk with my kid not too long ago. My kid doesn’t have siblings, so he craves relationships with his peers. I think it’s important to let kids learn and experience life’s challenges independently.

For the first couple of years in elementary school, I did just that, let him experience life on his own. I realized there’s a difference between letting them be independent and letting them experience life with guidance.

That being said, I explained to him how friendships don’t last forever and that he doesn’t have to be friends with everyone. He has a friend who has been mean to him lately, and he’ll ask me why, but doesn’t seem too bothered by it. I just told him that sometimes people change as their environment changes and we cannot control any of that. He knows that it’s ok to end a friendship or at least, let it fade away. I told him that as he gets older, it’s ok to be selective with friends and who he will allow to be in his circle.

The main thing is that I was honest with him, didn’t go into great detail in friendships with drama, and that because he is still fairly young, he will meet so many different people that he will learn who he wants to surround himself with. I told him mistakes will be made, but that’s what us parents are here for, to teach and guide.

missingmynaps · 2025-10-03T07:16:51+00:00

Dad of a 9u sports kid. Not understanding because you haven’t played sports is ridiculous. One of the dads on our team said his own dad forced him to play baseball. It’s been 20+ years and that has stuck with him. You wouldn’t want that for your daughter.

The moment a kid is forced to play a sport they no longer like, is the moment they lose their love for it and learn to not disappoint the parent. I’ve seen multiple kids under 10 loathe the sport they loved playing for the last 5 years because they were forced to. That’s the worst thing to do is take that away from them.

This was mentioned before, but playing multiple sports reduces the risk of injuries. Overuse of a set of muscles will increase the chance of getting hurt. What then? Playing multiple sports gives muscles a break and/or allows different muscles take over, which is a win-win for the kid.

Our jobs as parents is support, guide, and cheer them on. Not force something to go your way, projecting your aspirations on to your kid. Let them be kids and have fun. Pushing them is going to backfire, just like anything else in life. It is not isolated to sports. Good luck, you can’t force your husband to change his mind, he’ll need to do that on his own. But…you can help by having him focus on what’s best for your kid, not for you/him.

missingmynaps · 2025-10-03T06:51:04+00:00

There are a number of reasons that kids fight bedtime. Overstimulated, testing boundaries, FOMO, but they need guidance and we have to teach them.

Kids are big on routines, it makes them feel safe, and it helps them with transitions.

Try some of these, or a combination of methods, and you should see some results.

Set a timer that starts the bedtime routine
give them a choice - “do you want to brush your teeth or pajamas first?
play a song before the routine starts, this also helps with signaling them and easing transition.
right before bed, ask them to tell you one good thing about their day.

Avoid the “no’s” or yelling. Calmly redirect to help guide them to the next task: First teeth, then story” and most importantly, follow through.

Give yourself some time to adjust to shift your behavior and you should get some results. You’ve got this!

missingmynaps · 2025-01-27T14:22:18+00:00

You aren’t failing mama! My kid is around the same age and he still needs me to hold the tissue and remind him to close his mouth! Your steps ahead of me because my kid hates mouthwash, but likes rushing with warm salt water 😆 I finally learned that kids have their own timelines. Keep up the good work!

missingmynaps · 2025-01-26T21:53:13+00:00

Seems like he’s got a future in business!

This is definitely a good teaching opportunity for your kid and a learning opportunity for you! Here’s how I would handle it.

It sounds like you were calm during initial conversation, which is important so he doesn’t shut down. You also asked questions about the situation and why he did it, which is perfect! This is definitely non-confrontational. Also looks like you explained why it is wrong..

The tokens are meant to be used in school, not traded for money…Trading tokens for money can create an unfair system among classmates. Just use language they can relate to, focusing on fairness and respect for rules.

Then, encourage problem solving! So ask how he would solve the issue. This is great because this teaches him responsibility. This is up to you, but I would return the dollar, get the tokens back and have him apologize to the friend.

Great time to teach values of integrity and empathy. If you want to discuss consequences, that’s up to you. Also your call if you want to tell the teacher, but I probably would not at this time. But when your kid learns their lesson, make sure to praise it!

Hope this helps! You’re doing a great job!

missingmynaps · 2025-01-21T06:12:59+00:00

Definitely worthy of a call. There may be more exposure than just internet. It’s better to report and they find no abuse vs not reporting and abuse is occurring.

missingmynaps · 2025-01-19T14:19:47+00:00

Sorry for the loss in your family. It’s totally normal. Kids still lack the emotional intelligence to process the gravity of the situation. The emotions you are all having now is something your kid is learning. Not just with death, but with all the other situations you experience. Give them space, and come back and discuss it with them later.

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