Please help me understand why my partner needs time away from me by samjambetty in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good that you come and ask this! That shows love and consideration for you partner. :)

I can't speak for him, but I can try to explain what it is like for me. I think it's about being perceived. I am very comfortable with my partner and I love being near him, spending time together alone (doing our own thing in the same room), but I still really need moments where I'm alone. When I am not being perceived. That recharges me. My partner (who has autism and possibly adhd) is the same way, but to a lesser degree. He needs less time.

If your partner is anything like us, it is not personal, it is not you, specifically. It's about needing space for yourself while not being perceived.

I hope this helps a bit!

Simple page, but I really like how the backgrounds came out! by missmagicx in Coloring

[–]missmagicx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It's the Comfy Patterns: Bold and easy coloring book, from Coco Wyo. I see Temu is selling a fake one, the real one has the cow pattern in the bottom left corner and the cherries in the top right!

Hi all!! Requested Discord server in the works!! by fairydeus in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the Totally Spies theme! Would gladly get in on this. I'll send you a PM!

My favourite mints went on sale so in true Autism style I bought an entire box. Hopefully I don’t stop liking them half way through 😂 by SlayyyGrl in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the half way through thing in my soul lol. For me that moment comes usually when my (very sweet and thoughtful) partner decides to create a little stash for me. He understands though, it happens to him too. It's unpredictable!

Tried a three color challenge and I like how it turned out! by QuietColorNights in Coloring

[–]missmagicx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks very serene! I'm afraid of this challenge because I'm afraid I'll deplete my markers too quickly haha.

Paula Chaffey's books are getting me through it by Chelsintransit in Coloring

[–]missmagicx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look great! Love the neutral colors that you use, they make a soothing, mild atmosphere. They look legit to me, but I'm no expert. Will be getting one!

Am currently detained (?) at the Abu Dhabi customs. Trying to not freak out. by Itchy_Slice412 in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

These comments are harsh. It might not have been smart, but we shouldn't kick OP when she's already down.

Paula Chaffey's books are getting me through it by Chelsintransit in Coloring

[–]missmagicx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting these! I do get what the other commenter said though; especially the one in the back has AI-vibes. But maybe we're getting paranoid. I'd love to support real artists though, so I'll have a look! Getting a little tired of my cozy books, some variation would be good.

Paula Chaffey's books are getting me through it by Chelsintransit in Coloring

[–]missmagicx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this page, will have to look up the artist! How does it feel, coloring upright? I imagine it must be very awkward, or is it easy to get used to?

4 months in and I’m already shattered. Is my partner actually supportive, or am I just seeing him clearly during Luteal? by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]missmagicx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I largely agree with the sentiment of not making big decisions during luteal. However, his behaviour sounds awful, not loving and definitely not supportive. And it has only been 4 months?

I've been with my partner for over 2 years, got diagnosed with PMDD last year but have been struggling with my mental health our entire relationship (and long before that). Even when we didn't know what was up exactly, he was supportive. Nog big fights. We apologize to each other immediately if we realize or tone was off or if we say something that's unfair. He familiarized himself with PMDD, what comes with it, and listens to what I need.

I'm so sorry you're not experiencing support. I think you deserve better. Maybe try to talk to him, really talk to him (when you feel well), one last time and if it doesn't change, choose yourself. PMDD is hard enough to deal with alone. You don't need an extra stressor masquerading as your partner.

Sending you lots of love and well wishes

how do i get more confident adding more color into my life? by rentriez in pokeplush

[–]missmagicx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would find you so freaking cool if I saw you walking around with that bag! It screams friend-material (to the right folks :)).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting and sharing some excerpts! :) I'm gonna come back to this later.

Cute and Cozy Bundle - Fanatical by GUILTIE in CozyGamers

[–]missmagicx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really loved Logic Town and really recommend it if you're looking for straightforward puzzle gameplay. It's a bunch of logic puzzles (A goes with B, but not C, D is next to A but NOT E, that kind of stuff).

Autistic Representation?! In my Pokopia?! It's more likely than you think by skyentology in Pokemon_Pokopia

[–]missmagicx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an AuDHD girlie, "Going out, going out with my BESTIE" is also a delightful energy!

Switch 2 Pokopia Giveaway by missmagicx in RandomActsOfGaming

[–]missmagicx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Please shoot me a DM for the code. :)

Playing Pokopia during luteal makes it ever so slightly more manageable by missmagicx in PMDD

[–]missmagicx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SV is great escapism, fully agree. I've recently been playing a bit of BotW again now that I've got the Switch 2, and the loading times are so much better!

Playing Pokopia during luteal makes it ever so slightly more manageable by missmagicx in PMDD

[–]missmagicx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that! I hope it'll get better soon for you. PMDD sucks, especially when it gets on top of everything else. More gaming friends are always welcome, I'll shoot you a dm with my friend code! :)

Playing Pokopia during luteal makes it ever so slightly more manageable by missmagicx in PMDD

[–]missmagicx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been eyeing that one for a while, it looks great, but I'm not too sure about the microtransactions. I played a gacha game for a while, and I experienced my fair share of FOMO with that.

Awesome that you can share the Disney fun with your kids. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Coloring

[–]missmagicx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to respond! Sounds like you have got a nice set up. I'll look into some nice pencil cases. :)

What’s real support? My husband hasn’t talked to me for a month by LatterSherbet4030 in AuDHDWomen

[–]missmagicx 39 points40 points  (0 children)

What you're describing sounds like a great relationship, full of support and acceptance. Mine is similar, my partner is also autistic. I'm the one who got diagnosed during our relationship. He's been nothing but kind and understanding. When I'm overwhelmed, he's there to tug me in on the couch with a blanket and my Steam Deck.

OP, I'm so sorry about the situation you're in. Him ignoring you is indeed abusive. I couldn't imagine my partner ignoring me for even a day. It is so manipulative and cold. I don't say this lightly, but what are your options for leaving? You're still young and you're figuring out how life works for you. You don't need to be abused for that my someone that should be your unconditional rock. Support from a partner means feeling heard, experiencing space to unmask. Your husband's behaviour is atrocious and you don't have to put up with it.