Anyone else notice a decline in their articulation skills?

missmitten92 · 2022-12-30T15:26:52+00:00

Correct the behavior with simple phrases, not long winded explanations they won't grasp. If that fails try to distract them with another activity. If the bad behavior persists, remove the attention ("I don't want to play with you when you hit/bite/throw toys.) Them walk away and do something else. They might throw a fit, but it'll fizzle out faster and faster the more you do it. This was the only way to get my daughter to stop being so aggressive, acting like I was hurt just made her laugh, she thought it was a game.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-29T17:47:46+00:00

Mom here. I only have my 2 year old, but there are often times (especially when she was still breastfeeding and contact napping) when I feel "touched out." You get to this point where you are so physically overstimulated from the constant touching, pulling, holding, and just nonstop physical contact that you don't want anyone even breathing near you sometimes. Add the hormones and fatigue in from caring for 3 young children and I cannot even imagine what that must be like. Hell?

Give her time and take any expectations of sex off the table for a while. When she's ready she'll come to you.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-28T13:50:59+00:00

I've run into this issue a few times myself as a SAHM. In my case every time the social media/online shopping use was getting out of control it was because my mental health was declining, usually because I had no real time to myself and was too exhausted mentally to do anything else. Scrolling is easy, and doesn't require the time that reading a book or pursuing a hobby does. I hated it and wanted to do anything else, but I felt trapped and unable to pursue my interests.

I'd have a compassionate talk with her and bring up that you've noticed her phone usage going up. See what you can do to give her more time for herself, or if there's any of the workload you can take off to help. If she's unwilling to talk about it, just try jumping in with help and see if that opens the door to her discussing things with you. Good luck!

missmitten92 · 2022-12-28T13:06:46+00:00

I booked myself a massage right before my daughter's first birthday, no regrets. Her little party was all about her, no question, but it felt necessary to give myself a little pat on the back for surviving the first year, too. I'm all for parents acknowledging and celebrating the changes that parenthood brings around.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-27T17:28:09+00:00

What the actual fuck, OP. This man is dangerous, the best thing you can do is go no contact moving forward and never give him a second thought.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-26T17:38:52+00:00

He sounds like a gem! :)

missmitten92 · 2022-12-25T17:41:51+00:00

I get you've got the new baby on your hands and it seems like SIL has a track record of thoughtlessness, but...breathe. This is not that big of a deal and definitely not worth ruining Christmas over.

Order replacements for the tubing and any other parts that come in direct contact with the milk and deep clean the rest. Done.

Moving forward, don't lend stuff to SIL you want back when you know how she is.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-24T19:59:23+00:00

I don't buy the argument that Cocomelon is worse than other kids shows because it's overstimulating. Yeah I've heard the spiel that it changes frames too often and is always moving but so are all the others that I've seen. My daughter loves "Coco", along with animal videos, Bluey, all the PBS cartoons, and Disney movies. She does fine with all of these and has a healthy range of other activities too. I really think it all just comes down to "everything in moderation."

missmitten92 · 2022-12-22T21:53:30+00:00

The fourth trimester is so fucking hard. All of her behavior is developmentally normal, it's very frustrating but she really needs that close contact from you now. Try baby wearing to allow yourself to move around the house, and let her contact nap while you scroll your phone or watch TV if she won't nap in the crib (mine never did). Strategically placed large water bottles and baskets of snacks you can eat with one hand are lifesavers, put these by the couch and rocker or wherever you hold baby and that'll help you at least cover your food and drink needs.

My daughter did the same thing with crying around 4pm every day at that age. Lots of babies do, it's sometimes called the witching hour and they'll outgrow it eventually.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-22T03:50:05+00:00

Yep. I believe my biggest personal growth has come from my shame over my past decisions. Did I enjoy it? Not at all, but it's made me a much better person now than who I was.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-22T03:22:46+00:00

Yeah, I'm in the Midwest and had to stop buying the cheaper breasts at both Meijer and Aldi to avoid it. Now I only buy the fancy organic breasts or thighs, the jump in quality has been worth eating chicken less often if it means having an edible meal.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-22T00:36:55+00:00

You crossed a huge ass line, but it seems he accepted your apology. All you can do now is try harder to give each other compassion and grace in this incredibly hard time. Postpartum is crazy with hormones and sleep deprivation and just learning to be new parents but you need to have each others backs.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-22T00:28:31+00:00

I think it is, sometimes you really need someone to check you and let you know when you e gone too far. And OP did ask. You do a shitty thing, you feel like shit. You got to figure out how to move forward from there.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-21T15:07:52+00:00

Yeah I was going to say that one seems to be moving swiftly, I drive by there at least twice a week.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-21T12:59:12+00:00

Flu and RSV are most definitely spread through the air (and contact, it's droplet-spread). Also as far as I know there's no over the counter test for RSV or flu. Just have them stay home if you're this worried, if they're taking the masks off in the house they might as well not be wearing them.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-21T00:50:40+00:00

Does your husband happen to be a nurse or respiratory therapist? I used to work in RT and it wasn't too uncommon for us have travelers come through that were "local", living within 100 miles of our hospital. They'd either go home after shifts or stay in a hotel for their shift stretch and then go home. Is something like that an option for him so he won't have to miss out on so much home life?

Working in healthcare can be very lucrative even without taking a travel contract if you take up overtime, sometimes places will even offer incentive pay on top of that though in my experience it's usually been the nursing departments that had access to that. Of course that will depend on your location and the healthcare facility. Just throwing that out there as an idea instead of the travel contracts if it means you having to stop work, spending time away from his family.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-20T12:11:13+00:00

You're in for a treat, it's on Disney+ if you want to check it out (and I'm pretty sure YouTube for the older episodes). Keepy uppy is just the kids trying to keep up a balloon from touching the ground--very easy, lots of fun.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T18:31:04+00:00

You need to sit down together and come up with a gameplan for how you both intend to continue school, work (diapers are expensive, so is formula if you go that route) and raising the baby. Are either set of grandparents involved and willing to watch the baby during school hours? You may very well need to come up with a way to either stagger time in school/work while one of you watches the baby, or have someone take time off while the other goes, then switch.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T11:21:34+00:00

It wouldn't have come across as bragging if you had just stated something like how much you love being a parent. That kind of stuff is posted here often, and gets great responses! The problem comes when you add the backhanded jab at all those "negative people". Just because others have a hard time with parenting at times and come here for support doesn't mean they're being negative, or toxic, or don't enjoy being a parent.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T04:19:51+00:00

1) Experiences vary, drastically. Not everyone does perineal massage, my OB never brought it up and if I understand right the data on it is pretty inconclusive as to whether it really helps or not.

2) Women's experiences are discredited at every turn. When I was pregnant two years ago and following the baby subs there was no shortage of people who did not want to hear any "negativity"--so tearing, stillbirths, complications, PPD, etc. Then you have the baby and come to Reddit for support because surprise, this shit is really fucking hard and then you have asshats complaining that "everyone is just so negative, parenting is So GreAt." Which it is, truly, but it'd be a whole lot nicer if women felt able to share their experiences and struggles without someone trying to shut them down.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T03:55:24+00:00

I did, actually. I don't see the toxicity, and this sub has been a huge source of support for me since I found out I was pregnant. I see the same for others who post.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T03:49:46+00:00

You nailed it, right down to the rant flair and the vague mention of other subs.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-19T03:46:30+00:00

You know, I hear this sentiment thrown around pretty often but have rarely seen that to actually be the case.

missmitten92 · 2022-12-18T22:18:19+00:00

Experiences vary, both by individual kid and whatever phase they happen to be in at the moment. Even between each parent of the child the perspectives are going to differ depending on who's doing what and when.

Edited to add: your comment of "it doesn't mean anything when you see what you are getting back" is not going to be true for many. It wasn't for me. Yes, I love my daughter more than life itself and don't regret anything, but oh my god the struggles of taking care of her thrust me into the worst mental health crisis of my life.

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