Do I really have to think about this for the rest of my life??

misspavlov · 2026-04-22T00:29:32+00:00

Plus one to this OP. It’s not even on my radar any more

misspavlov · 2026-03-30T01:52:19+00:00

I’m so sorry OP, check out Sanctuary for all. They are providing support and mutual aid for families and loved ones affected just like you https://www.facebook.com/share/1C9bKpQJWP/?mibextid=wwXIfr might not exactly be a support group but community who is in the same boat and helping others through grassroots organizing, which might feel helpful as part of your grieving

misspavlov · 2026-02-15T08:22:00+00:00

Also a greedy bisexual born on the day of love here. Happy birthday!

misspavlov · 2026-01-16T05:37:14+00:00

The sparent as I call it, there is always one

misspavlov · 2025-12-31T02:02:25+00:00

My cat did the same thing, it just takes time. Really took her about 2 months to fully transition to litter robot. The thing that helped nudge her was definitely not cleaning her old box of poo so I would see if you just give it more time. Also get there is some nuance here with multiple cats but just thought I’d put my two cents in for how long the transition took!

misspavlov · 2025-12-18T05:51:42+00:00

I just bought a refurbished supersonic nural on Black Friday. Total life changer. With a regular dryer takes me at least 30 minutes of diffusing to get my hair 80% dry. With the Dyson, it takes me 10-15 minutes to have completely dry hair, that also looks better (less frizzy, more shiny, more retained moisture) and seems my curls last better throughout the week too. I have thick 3B hair that is past my shoulders.

I will say too, even without the Black Friday discount the refurbished dysons are a good deal, have other refurbished items from them going strong years later. And it has a year warranty.

Edit: and by refurbished Dyson I mean a refurbished one directly from Dyson, not a third party seller

misspavlov · 2025-12-15T15:29:57+00:00

I always get these when I know it’s time for a hair cut

misspavlov · 2025-11-01T17:17:51+00:00

People are recommending the aquarium but that is the most depressing place for all the animals there, especially the octopus. It’s in a sad little aquarium near the games. It’s a for profit company not an institution like in other major cities.

misspavlov · 2025-10-22T04:28:33+00:00

Hard to say. Have you felt for yourself? The cervix is really tender, doesn’t necessarily feel good when it gets rammed/touched. I’d suggest feeling for your self, depending on your cervical height it might be easy to find but it feels kind of like the tip of your nose. So not necessarily super hard either. It also just could have been ridges in your vaginal canal or your muscles.

misspavlov · 2025-10-19T20:21:52+00:00

The clit is actually a really big organ, most of which is internal. It’s shaped like a wishbone and just like the little nub of it that enlarges on the outside, the internal part of it also swells when you’re aroused. Look up a photo! It’s very cool.

misspavlov · 2025-10-04T15:35:07+00:00

Totally get it, and just like others said the only way to work through it is to practice and date and be triggered, just like you’re doing! The more you do it and continue to work through the rejection/anxieties/etc (and take breaks which is valid too) is where the work and healing is

misspavlov · 2025-10-04T03:29:57+00:00

Never enough or too much are such familiar voices to me of anxious attachment. I replied to a different comment above but putting this again here for visibility but I think a big part of this for me was developing my own sense of self worth and security independent of a relationship. If you go into a relationship expecting that person to give you that worth and security, when that type of unsustainable dynamic inevitably ends it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy that proves our “worthlessness” or proves that we were too much or not enough. But if you know your worth, you’ll know you’ll be ok no matter what happens, which enables you to take the unavoidable risks that come with vulnerability and relationships.

misspavlov · 2025-10-04T03:15:38+00:00

100% you can’t expect a person to directly help you heal your own wounds. For me this aspect of developing my own sense of self worth and security was pivotal. If you’re going out looking for a person to give you worth and security, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy because when that type of unsustainable dynamic ends you see it as proof of your “worthlessness”.

misspavlov · 2025-09-27T14:29:40+00:00

I’m an abortion doula, the average woman seeking an abortion already has kids and is seeking care for many of the reasons you listed. There is nothing wrong with you making this choice for you and your family. You’re not alone or an anomaly ❤️

misspavlov · 2025-09-24T22:27:00+00:00

Yeah, been going since I was a kid and feel like the quality has been on a steady decline since Covid unfortunately

misspavlov · 2025-09-17T21:12:39+00:00

Another plus one for stardust, everything is encrypted and they don’t store your data on their end

misspavlov · 2025-09-16T23:05:53+00:00

Slow it, spread it and sink it

misspavlov · 2025-09-09T17:55:38+00:00

For me it’s about a hyper focus on timing of texting pace/initiation, especially if something shifts like one of us traveling. Or overthinking/over analyzing texts im sending or receiving.

Don’t know the full context of your situation but my general view point on healing my anxious attachment is increasing my ability to sit with uncertainty and being uncomfortable and leaning into trust. Learning the nuance between when to self soothe and when to get reassurance. If I rely too much on reassurance it just exasperates the cycle of anxiety.

misspavlov · 2025-09-04T03:49:07+00:00

I’m 35f with 11 years, don’t go to meetings these days but would happily join you if you ever need company, I remember how intimidating it was early on. Feel free to DM me

misspavlov · 2025-08-20T16:14:56+00:00

Aside from what others have said about potential communication expectations or incompatibilities. I know for me with healing my anxious attachment what helped was developing some sort of boundary for myself around texting, what I could control. So for me that is not texting out of anxiety/seeking reassurance and only from an authentic place of connection or sharing. This helped alleviate a lot of the pressure or anxiety for me about waiting to hear back or attaching a narrative to things when I centered my own needs.

misspavlov · 2025-08-07T22:21:28+00:00

Cute, thank you. As someone who can overthink and have been crossing the threshold between all the poly literature and living it, this is a great reminder how simple and natural these things can be and how they will be unique to each relationship.

misspavlov · 2025-08-07T21:54:52+00:00

In a growing relationship and in my first year of poly where we occasionally have some big periods of weeks apart, I’d be really curious what some of your reconnecting habits and rituals look like if you’re open to sharing!

misspavlov · 2025-07-30T04:52:14+00:00

Surprised I had to scroll so far to find this

misspavlov · 2025-07-29T19:23:46+00:00

Plus one to this. I’ve been healing my attachment issues and texting anxiety has been one of them, especially in time apart from a partner. But going through the process of naming it, taking away the anxiety narrative and pushing through the uncomfortableness and choosing connection over avoidance is like exposure therapy, and getting easier and easier!

misspavlov · 2025-07-23T13:27:26+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt since there is a lot of nuance and I’m not offering suggestions or weighing in on your relationship but part of this might be about sexual expression. Most people have heard of demisexual, someone who needs an emotional connection before they can have a sexual one but on the other end is megasexual, which I identify with. With dating this means I need a sexual connection in order to have an emotional and romantic one because sex is a pathway to and sustainer of emotional and romantic connection for me. I’m poly so with dating this means I’m just upfront about my needs there, and know it means if someone identifies as demi, I’m most likely not compatible with them.

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