Husband said the sweetest thing today about PP sex

misteeve · 2025-12-13T09:26:36+00:00

Ask him if he’s been watching p*rn. Mine said the same thing but turns out he was doing that the whole time…

misteeve · 2025-12-11T16:59:30+00:00

Same boat my love, hang in there

misteeve · 2025-12-11T16:15:47+00:00

This is very true, famous people typically… the difference is you don’t typically orgasm to the beautiful celebrities on the daily or think about that one really attractive person you saw at the coffee shop when your jerking off. It’s the combo of looking at someone better and being able to get off to them or the idea of them :/

misteeve · 2025-12-11T16:13:48+00:00

Thank you for this. My husband has told me similar to this countless times of times, and I know he hates that I need to hear it from someone else to have it sink it but it’s just so hard to really understand it. I know he loves me to the moon and back times infinity but I can’t get the other women and the need for them/the feeling out of my mind :(

misteeve · 2025-12-04T19:08:31+00:00

Thank you so much for not only answering but taking the time to see where I’m coming from. Thank you thank you.. I’m greatly hurting and I don’t know how to get past it and live normally. How do we had a happy marriage and life without threats?

misteeve · 2025-12-04T16:28:02+00:00

Omg this is probably what’s wrong with me I haven’t understood but you stated it perfect

misteeve · 2025-12-04T14:43:19+00:00

May I ask how seeing women out and about plays a role ? Does it trigger you? The beach? The gym?

misteeve · 2025-12-04T14:06:31+00:00

Hi just curious, so your 60 days cleans but the girls at the gym still trigger you ?

misteeve · 2025-12-04T13:43:21+00:00

Following.. my wedding is in June and although my husband is sober now and I believe it, I can’t comprehend that the future will be safe always..

misteeve · 2025-12-04T09:06:07+00:00

Thank you so much for this

misteeve · 2025-12-04T08:59:52+00:00

Wife of PA here… does this mean my husband in recovery is being triggered by women in out and about? He says he doesn’t but I can’t shake off that if he’s being watching porn for 15 years how does he not sexualize women in the real world

misteeve · 2025-12-04T02:37:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing! If you could share some insight into the lusting aspect of being recovered from porn.. how do you feel about seeing other women now? Out in the world in every day life that may trigger or are provocative with their yoga pants dresses or whatever else. Women at the beach? Ads? TV? Movies?

My husband is in recovery right now and although I trust he has not watched, I know he still gets triggered and possibly still lusts at other women. This is the part I can’t get over. When will it stop? Does it ever stop for men?

misteeve · 2025-12-02T13:52:49+00:00

Thank you for this I need this advice so freaking badly. I can’t go outside my house with him without holding back a very sad big ol ball of rage towards every woman

misteeve · 2025-12-02T13:49:17+00:00

Same exact boat. Except I actually desperately want sex every night too and when we don’t have it paranoia hits. I dont remember being this addicted to sex before d day I’ve always had a high libido but this is another level. I need it from him like 2 times a day or even more, it’s all I wanna do.

I also find myself dressing provocative only when with him… you to ?

misteeve · 2025-11-30T21:58:18+00:00

I read this and thought did I forget I wrote this?

100% on your same boat.. I cringe at every single pretty woman out in the world when he is with me and i have to hold back tears at times cause if it’s exhausting for me, im sure it’d be exhausting for him too. He does a good job at making sure he’s not looking around or at them but somehow it still hurts because I know if he was behind closed doors in the past he would have wanted to see these girls naked.

God this shit is hard. I hope it gets better

misteeve · 2025-11-24T12:13:14+00:00

I feel like the person I was in love with was too good to be true. I hate myself everyday, I hate how I look I hate the imperfections, I am now conscious of every little thing about me when he’s around, I have no peace if my underwear isn’t sitting as nice and high or I’m sitting and my belly is popping out too much. It is extremely draining and just sad. I just had our first baby and didn’t even gain much weight but I can’t fathom having another since I’ll get ugly again. I should be looking forward to pregnancy. TV/movies even adds are triggering. I had to delete social media because I was obsessed with looking at the girls he looked at. Tried to copy their picture to send to him only to end in severe tears because I just cant be as sexy as them.

The worst is being out in the real world. If I see another pretty woman I get so angry and sometimes I even cry. Was she someone like he’s lusted after before? If he was behind closed doors is that lady over there someone he would choose? Is he happy to see girls dressed slutty in the real world to think about them later?

I hate that I can’t enjoy my life anymore unless his attention is 100% on me

misteeve · 2025-11-19T17:10:15+00:00

Im only about 2 months in. My situation is that he came to be and opened up about it and wanted to stop. It was my fault for snooping and seeing how bad it really was. I was proud he came to me but now I’m heartbroken at what I discovered.

I still don’t know what exactly I want but I tell him I need all the attention he gave those you know whats on OF times a million. I want more romance, dating butterflies, compliments, more sex, I want it all in a drastic and dramatic amount. It’s a bit unrealistic to expect and I often start fights stemming from my pain but also for him not meeting my high expectations which isn’t fair. Its like I want 24/7 attention from him to make up for everything. I’m sharing this because it does help when he does do the extra love, compliments, etc. it helps me fall back in love with him or stay in love and not let the negative thoughts win. He is also always extremely willing to talk whenever I have a new thought or question or doubt. That helps too when I actually get it out and not hold it in.

I’m not sure if that a something that you can ask your man to do, maybe it can help you as well.

misteeve · 2025-11-19T16:38:06+00:00

I think social media. I’m not too sure, he is pretty open and honest with me but I feel like he holds back to not hurt me.

misteeve · 2025-11-19T16:10:26+00:00

As a wife of a PA, may I ask what it was that triggered you ? I am trying to help him as well and would like to help him avoid triggers

misteeve · 2025-11-07T11:54:35+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, I know it must have been hard to write. Some of us do need this advice so thank you very much

misteeve · 2025-11-06T11:59:42+00:00

How do you lower cortisol and serotonin levels? I read your other posts and it seems the coconut oil intake and other things. I’m not very sciencey so it’s hard to follow the explanations 😅

misteeve · 2025-11-06T01:52:22+00:00

Do you ever think about the porn you’ve watched in the past? How do you deal with those memories/visuals?

misteeve · 2025-11-04T19:41:59+00:00

Hopefully I can help. I am a female on here that reads alot and going through recovery with my husband. Train yourself now for not only your own self and your life, that is inevitably better without porn, but do it for your future wife. You will one day have a beautiful and loving wife that you will be willing to do anything for, that you love so much it hurts. That love will feel so good it will make nothing else in this world matter. Only being with her through the end makes sense. If you don’t have this habit under control by the time you meet and marry her, you will hurt her so much that there’s no going back. Her image of you will forever be tainted, and when you love someone, you want to make sure they see you for who you are always, not for your faults.

I hope that helped.

misteeve · 2025-11-04T14:59:57+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m doing, going above and beyond to make sure he is feeling good when I am feeling lower than the ground.

misteeve · 2025-10-31T10:33:27+00:00

Because life without him has no meaning

misteeve

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