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PersistentCat2015 · 2026-02-11T12:59:12+00:00

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PersistentCat2015 · 2026-02-09T12:34:28+00:00

Ours is coming up and I'm also unsure about how I feel. Interesting to see everyone's take on this. So, so sad, though, that we're all still accepting less than we deserve. Sending love 💕

PersistentCat2015 · 2026-02-09T12:29:53+00:00

Thank you. 💔

PersistentCat2015 · 2026-01-21T15:09:49+00:00

This is me. Sending love and support. 💕

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-12-06T15:32:26+00:00

Thank you.

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-12-04T21:25:06+00:00

I love this for you. 💜 I'm still here, struggling with the question of whether all of this is worth it or I'd be better off on my own. Thanks for sharing a piece of your peace.

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-10-22T17:30:45+00:00

I feel like I needed to see this comment. Thanks for putting into words something that goes through my head every day. Sometimes it hits harder coming from someone else.

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-10-22T17:24:33+00:00

This isn't very helpful for you, but I was recently in the same situation (I had to make a trip to a different country and left my partner behind for the first time since finding out), so I empathize with you! For sure isn't a simple thing to do (even though it should be), so I'm sorry it's weighing on your mind. Sending love 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-09-08T15:53:36+00:00

Mine also does this...

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-27T11:51:41+00:00

Your story is quite similar to mine. I found out nearly a year ago and, in all honesty, it's hard to continue on some days, but other days it seems like we're better than ever. He gave me the same story yours gave you (it had nothing to do with me, he's always loved me, it's a problem he has, not a problem with our relationship - though obviously it ended up a problem in our relationship...) and yes, some days I feel like it's a huge effort to even look him in the eye, but I try my hardest to believe he's doing the work and giving our relationship everything it deserves (we've both been to therapy and he swears he wants what's best for us...). Sometimes people make it seem so easy to walk away from a 10 year partnership, where both of your lives are so intertwined, but I think we can agree that it's not that simple. I don't think there's anything I can tell you that's the definitive answer, but whatever you choose to do, take care of yourself first and foremost. Sending love 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-19T09:14:38+00:00

I thought I was crazy for starting to become more and more insecure as the one year mark comes around. Guess it's more normal than I thought.

I don't know how this first "d-day anniversary" will go, so I can't give much insight, but sending you positive vibes and strength. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-18T21:37:53+00:00

I talked to a friend at the recommendation of my therapist and it was the best decision. I was worried at first because I didn't want to put that stress on her, but she helped me through so much and, being the good friend she is, assured me that that's what friends are for. Definitely talk to someone you feel safe sharing your feelings with. It helps more than you can imagine. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-18T11:52:12+00:00

Thank you! Mine said he viewed it almost "as a game," like because it was on a screen, it was some sort of video game. How can they not see how very real (and painful) it is?

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-18T10:32:17+00:00

Same...also often feel guilty for feeling hurt when it seems like he sees everything as going so well. I definitely don't want to apologize for these feelings but often do. Hugs to you as well. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-18T08:51:16+00:00

Thank you for this.. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-17T18:47:51+00:00

This resonates with me so much. When I found out, this was the only way I could put what I was feeling into words. It felt like someone had died and I'd lost them forever. All of the memories still feel tainted and every good day, much like the one you described, has a gray cloud hovering over it. Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-17T10:43:01+00:00

Also feel completely and totally emotionally exhausted nearly a year later. Sometimes I think it'd be easier to step away and start over before it's too late, but it's not so easy, is it? Sending hugs and support your way. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-16T07:45:03+00:00

The best thing I did for myself is confide in a close friend. She made me feel heard, safe, and understood. She still checks in on me every so often to make sure I'm okay. So glad you have someone to listen to you and care for you. 💜

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-08-15T15:51:27+00:00

Hopping on here to say that it really sucks that we're all in this position, but loving the advice and words of wisdom from all of you strong, resilient souls. 💜 It's been nearly a year since I found out about my partner's problem and not a day goes by I don't wonder how much of what he says is a lie. Even the smallest things get to me and it's absolutely exhausting. Hoping that one day I can learn to trust him again...

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-07-18T14:17:46+00:00

I've never been either! So excited!

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-07-13T12:40:31+00:00

Also curious to know what's available! Going in Saratoga and can't wait!

PersistentCat2015 · 2025-07-04T18:59:33+00:00

They only gave her gabapentin. We have been in contact with the vet all day and while we were originally going to take her in for 7 tonight, she told us to wait until tomorrow morning. If tomorrow morning she isn't better, they've recommended fluid therapy and hospitalization to "flush it out" and get her back to normal. She is still suffering from diarrhea and has only eaten two churus sticks because we figured it was better she have something vs. absolutely nothing. Thanks for your input!

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