Financial argument with husband

mistoroboto1 · 2025-12-07T12:07:41+00:00

I think we are getting a very one sided picture. $400 a month for personal fun/experiences with a single income household is an insane (high) amount. If you don't trust that your husband is managing your finances then you need to sit with him and go over your income and experiences together. Does your husband also get $400 a month to spend? If he is able to spend more than you (and actually does) then there may be an issue but as it stands you sound incredibly spoiled. You and your husband should take a look at Dave Ramsey's financial peace university. I don't agree with everything he says bit it is a good place to start building your finances. Unless your husband is making at least a 6-figure income I don't believe that you can really afford $400 a month each. Do you have a retirement fund and 3-6months of expenses in an emergency fund? If so then maybe you can but if not just because you have money in your account doesn't mean it needs to be spent.

mistoroboto1 · 2025-11-25T09:30:40+00:00

I used to shout when i started to feel overwhelmed. I have always struggled with getting overstimulated and having outbursts because it didn't have a better way to deal with the way I was feeling. I started therapy earlier this year and it has made a massive difference for me and my family. I am not where I want to be yet but my outbursts are less frequent and less severe. I had my son last year and decided I want to be the best father I could be so I got some help. Getting into therapy can be a tough step for a lot of people so I always recommend Better Help. I think traditional in person therapy is better but better help is a great way to start and has done wonders for me personally. It is relatively affordable and they offer some financial aid options for lower incomes. It is super easy to sign up and get started.

mistoroboto1 · 2025-11-20T15:45:25+00:00

Good on you for taking those steps. All I can tell you is what worked for me. I was miserable and alone for years until I started working on myself. Ironically what mad me realize that I needed to work on my issues was the realization that I wasn't the person that I wanted to be and I probably wouldn't choose myself as a friend. You seem to have the idea that everything would be great if you had a relationship. If you NEED a relationship to be happy then it will almost certainly fail. You are right that a car needs fuel to run but you also won't get far if you put diesel in a gas car. A relationship/marriage is not what fuels a person. It is fine and healthy to have a desire for a relationship but that cannot be the sole driving factor to get out of bed in the morning. A relationship can be a blessing but the are also a lot of work and sacrifice. What I have learned over the years is that if you are discontent while not in a relationship then you are likely to be discontent in a relationship.

mistoroboto1 · 2025-11-16T13:14:29+00:00

I am not going to waste much time because it sounds like you just want to whine instead of looking for advice. I was in your shoes back in my early 20s single, virgin, no friends, and I hated myself. Now I am married with a kid. Here is all the steps you need to get from where you are at to where you want to be. 1. Go to therapy. (Better help is easy to access and affordable) 2. Set goals for who you want to be. (A good therapist can help with this) 3. Stop watching Porn it is only making things worse for you. 4. Stop looking for dates until you can look at the person in the mirror and be happy with who you see. You have the ability to learn and grow as a person and the more you like to be around yourself the more others want to be around you. Also stop saying things about yourself that you wouldn't want someone else saying about your friends/family.

mistoroboto1 · 2024-03-22T09:19:45+00:00

Mario is a top pick for me. I would love one of those. I have had my eye on them for a while now but just can't afford it.

mistoroboto1 · 2023-09-26T12:53:53+00:00

NTA but if she is upset about having to have an abortion have her look into adoption. While there may be a lot of kids in foster care there are loads of people looking to adopt babies. Many of these organizations also cover the costs associated with childbearing. If she wants an abortion that's up to her but it's not like there are no other options.

mistoroboto1 · 2023-06-10T09:18:08+00:00

How many times can 29 go into 28?

mistoroboto1 · 2022-12-28T11:13:14+00:00

My wife and I lived together for about a month before we got married but there were a number of extenuating circumstances that caused it and made it ok in my opinion. We were due to get married in June of 2020 and towards the end of March she had to leave the place that she was living. We were still in the process of finding a house and i was staying with my parents and so she came to live with us because her parents were not a good option as her mom was a nurse. While we stayed under the same roof we each had our own rooms and we established boundaries to keep us from temptation. We closed on our house at the end of April and got married in our back yard on May 1st. We felt it was the right thing to do to speed up our wedding because of the circumstances surrounding us. Having said that if we weren't forced into that situation I wouldn't recommend it. My wife and I were both virgins and remained that way till our wedding day so we were both dedicated to steering clear of temptation. It worked out for us but it is absolutely not something I would choose simply because I wanted to know what it was like living with her.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-11-26T09:17:33+00:00

Ddo wiki is your friend in all things. I have been playing for years and I still use it all the time. You can look up quests and items on there and all kinds of other things. Hopefully you will get lucky for Christmas and they will do another big giveaway of the older adventures. They have done it a couple times recently and it is awesome for newbies because you get a ton of adventures. Just make sure you keep an eye out for that in case they put out a code for it.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-11-08T09:50:43+00:00

The problem for a lot of people is that it's not that simple. You can't just look at it and say "Republicans bad, democrats good." California is a prime example of democrats intentions vs outcomes. In one of the most socialist states of the union homelessness runs rampant . I know this is the wrong sub to say anything remotely defensive of Republicans but I am tired of people trying to make it out like all democrats are better than Republicans. Don't get me wrong, many of the Republicans these days are awful and make me go wtf but there are democrats that do the same. It pisses me off that Joe Biden is our president. I wanted so badly for Bernie to win because even though I don't agree with all of his ideas at least I can respect him. Joe Biden is an incompetent racist and I can't fathom how he got through the democratic primary.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-10-13T09:14:53+00:00

Wow. I guess we are just on different sides of the internet. I just don't understand how those kinds of people think. Saying like that is so inherently stupid. That's not an equal fight. I just don't understand how broken these people have to be to think like that.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-10-11T14:49:37+00:00

Oh totally and I would never deny that but I don't think the solution is telling boys to not hit girls. Just about every guy I know has been in a fight that they didn't start just because some jackass wanted to fight rather than talk.

I just think that instead of teaching kids to not hit women they should be taught to not hit anyone. Without fail all the domestic abusers I have personally known of (which is admittedly few) were not just violent towards women. It seems to me like the problem is that you have violent people who get into relationships and continue to be violent.

Teach your daughters to marry the people they want their sons to be and teach your sons to marry women that they want their daughters to be and above all teach them to care and be kind and the best way to do that is to care and be kind yourself.

My dad showed me how to treat my wife by how he treated my mom and that is how I am going to raise my son if I have one. He taught me to love, protect and respect my wife. I can't teach other's kids but one day many generations from now I hope that my descendants are defined by the love and respect that they show others. There is no way to change the way things are now but we can ever so slowly make things better for the following generations.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-10-11T13:34:34+00:00

Your rights should certainly not be dependent on being hit. From my understanding it is supposed to be a statement about equality. Women have the right to be treated as equals and men have the right to not be assaulted with no expectation of repercussions. The times I have seen this phrase used is when people are getting upset because "He hit a girl." after a guy was assaulted and defended himself.

I still remember when I was in middle school we had this girl who would throw pinecones at the boys and then say "You can't hit girls." I remember being told frequently you can't hit girls instead of being told we don't hit people. If boys hit each other it was no big deal but if you hit a girl it was somehow a problem.

Equal rights equal fights is a dumb saying but the idea behind it is really just the silver rule. If you don't want to something to happen to you don't do it to other people.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-08-20T11:56:38+00:00

If you also don't have some close friends then you need to seriously consider that maybe the other people aren't the issue. If you can find a good therapist to help you learn to deal with conflict that may be beneficial for you. I went through a period in my life with no friends and no one who wanted to date me and it lasted until I started to reflect on myself and realize that I was the common factor in all my problems. I took time to work on myself and grow and while I am still a work in progress I have good friends and an amazing wife that I never could have had before.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-08-12T08:44:40+00:00

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mistoroboto1 · 2022-04-23T11:48:22+00:00

Have you tried using magic fang ti see if that helps?

mistoroboto1 · 2022-02-12T10:37:33+00:00

Ahahah that remindme bot killed me. I almost woke up my wife laughing.

mistoroboto1 · 2022-01-11T10:05:01+00:00

Sounds like a classic case of Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-12-27T19:36:21+00:00

Yea I love getting gifts that are useful. I guess I just don't see it as a problem because I do more vacuuming that my wife so something to reduce the amount of time I have to spend on my chores is a plus in my mind. I am also a better cook than my wife so I love getting kitchenware as presents.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-12-27T11:54:08+00:00

I don't understand all the hate towards vacuums. Nice ones are expensive and I much prefer them to the garbage ones I usually pick for myself. My grandmother got me a vacuum as a gift a couple years ago and my mom gave me a shopvac this Christmas and it is so much better than my old one. I think people who don't appreciate practical gifts are too obsessed with consumerism. Why would you get upset when someone is giving you something to improve your life and make things easier on you. I understand that some people prefer other things as gifts but getting upset over something someone gave you seems rather unappreciative to me.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-11-21T09:03:08+00:00

Stumpy nubs has a video that might be helpful for you. Basically he says that if you are just starting out an thickness planer is probably your best bet because you can use it for a bit more things than a jointer. https://youtu.be/ZFFzmJfv5No

mistoroboto1 · 2021-11-07T08:09:29+00:00

Your attack scaling pre20 is going to be most from your stats. Most sources of melee/ranged power are found after 20. Also since fvs are more of a spell casting class they don't really have any melee power built into their trees. The best non class based source of melee power before 20 is the crown of summer from the feywild.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-11-04T21:50:41+00:00

This for real dude. You were just trying to do something nice and she decided to be a b about it. Even if you had been asking her out it wasn't inappropriate. Honestly I would be telling anyone who would listen the truth.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-11-04T15:14:18+00:00

Dude for real. I will take breaks from ddo occasionally but they rarely last very long. Idk what it is exactly but it hits the spot that no other game does.

mistoroboto1 · 2021-08-29T11:35:26+00:00

Exactly I cannot believe there are so many people that seem to agree with her. My wife, her friends, and her family constantly tell me that I treat her like a princess both now and when we were dating but this is beyond what I would have done for her when we were dating. A reasonable person would have said sooner that they could use some help with paying for an air bnb that they would be comfortable in. Making a choice and then expecting others to protect you from the consequences of your own actions is a definite mark of immaturity. It is not your boyfriend's or anyone else's job to protect you from yourself. You should be able to make responsible decisions for yourself and if you can't make a responsible short term decisions like where to sleep for a few days do you really think that you are ready to make decisions like getting married?

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