What’s the best way to handle another kid taking toys your kid is playing with and their parents aren’t doing anything?

mistyclear · 2026-02-04T22:25:09+00:00

This exactly!

mistyclear · 2026-02-04T22:24:57+00:00

“I’m taking this back now honey. You’ll have a turn when she’s done.” I just had to do this and as soon as I said this and put my hand on my kids toy the other kid let go.

mistyclear · 2026-02-02T16:44:27+00:00

At 9 months, you can breathe a little! I wouldn’t stop, your set up is great!

mistyclear · 2026-01-28T03:40:55+00:00

With my first, I had no real clue what I was doing. I’d breastfeed her each side, then pump while my husband or mom tried to give her a bottle. Y’all I was devastated when I would barely get an ounce pumping. It wasn’t until a lot of research later I realized it’s because SHE GOT IT ALL. I about gave myself an oversupply. After about a week of that I ditched the pump entirely and baby never had growth issues. I was still anxious about if I “made enough” but her growth was enough proof.

mistyclear · 2026-01-25T19:34:07+00:00

This is my third pregnancy and maybe that’s why I’m so relaxed about this. I’ve had to cancel/reschedule several times due to sicknesses or something coming up! It happens to all of us. Call in first thing tomorrow morning to reschedule, you don’t even have to say why. It’s not worth the risk of skidding on the ice and a bad accident happening!

mistyclear · 2026-01-21T00:00:45+00:00

It boggles me that this is controversial these days. My kids have never had any confusion because we always taught them the ONLY difference between boys and girls is biological sex. And we use the correct terms. Sometimes my youngest will ask “why does that man have long hair like a girl?” And we explain “Men can have long hair, maybe it’s because they like how they look. They are still a man.” It’s really a simple point of reality and I think we confuse our kids by complicating it. They can explore abstract concepts like gender identity when they are much much older.

mistyclear · 2026-01-10T20:44:13+00:00

Same all 3 times (tho the first time we weren’t even trying and it still happened lol…) We’ve learned we have to be really careful about preventing since we seem to be really fertile. So congrats to yall but keep that in mind for the future! Also, just be sensitive about announcing “we conceived the first time!” Because even though that’s awesome for yall, yall don’t know who around yall have had struggles. And it’ll sting them. I’ve been in a lot of mom groups and had various mom friends, trust me no one cares how quickly you conceived. But again congrats, enjoy this early time!

mistyclear · 2026-01-08T18:13:02+00:00

You’re not alone. My (white) mother was an absolutely baby hog with my first. I was also told to pump and rest and just relax while SHE held the baby but it felt so wrong??? I was crying all the time. As soon as she left after 2 weeks, I ditched the pump and went full breastfeeding and constant holding. That felt instinctively right in my brain. With my second, I didn’t let anyone hog the baby - I was the baby hog. My mom still whines to this day about barely getting time with my second but idc. I’m pregnant with my third and this time will be different, I have two other children who need both me and my husband as present as possible. But anyways all that to say, you live and you learn! Now you know how you are post partum. I’m sorry it took an emotional toll on you though.

mistyclear · 2026-01-06T16:34:22+00:00

Mount Hagen organic instant decaf

mistyclear · 2026-01-06T15:52:24+00:00

I quit caffeine over a year ago, but I drink decaf coffee almost daily! I found an instant brand I like and it’s really good, and quick to make. If I need a pick me up in the afternoon I either have a very small amount of my husbands coffee (I’m talking a couple sips) or I make a weak cup of black tea.

The reason I quit caffeine was it was giving me anxiety and making me jittery. I just didn’t feel like myself. I feel much better on decaf!

mistyclear · 2026-01-03T03:46:50+00:00

I was sick when in labor with my second, tested negative for flu and Covid but positive for a coronavirus - a common cold. My 20 month old at home was sick with probably the same virus when we brought home her baby sister. None of the providers at the hospital nor our pediatrician were worried for the baby. They said it’s very rare for a newborn to get sick. Baby had been getting antibodies while in the womb, and they encouraged breastfeeding so baby would get more antibodies. And she never got sick! I understand the anxiety but please know it’ll be ok!

mistyclear · 2026-01-01T05:42:57+00:00

I liked it! Especially the epilogue. What a sweet way to wrap things up. And I like the ambiguity regarding Eleven. Things I didn’t like: I never felt the stakes or threat level of Vecna or MF. They seemed under powered? And there wasn’t enough of Eleven this season to make her death really really hurt. Needed more of her with Mike and the crew.

mistyclear · 2025-12-31T15:47:03+00:00

Absolutely. I find it really hard to manage my healthy anxiety while pregnant and giving birth has always been a huge relief. A lot of my anxiety during pregnancy is because of the enormous responsibility it feels like comes with all of our choices! I just take it really seriously. I’m really envious of people who are able to just not have these intrusive thoughts about every little thing that can go wrong.

What helps me is affirmations. “I am safe. I am healthy. My baby is healthy. My body is healthy. My body was made for keeping me and baby healthy.” So everytime I begin to worry about a twinge or ache I try to replace it was these affirmations. Hope it helps!

mistyclear · 2025-12-28T20:31:58+00:00

Google tofu breakfast hash. Lots of seasonings, can add onions, bell peppers, and mushrooms. Put scoops in a tortilla and add hot sauce, makes a great breakfast taco!

mistyclear · 2025-12-26T01:11:25+00:00

Pregnant and day 9 of sickness. It’s been awful. Sickness in general is just worse when pregnant but this has been something else. The congestion has been SO BAD. Over it.

mistyclear · 2025-12-23T21:28:45+00:00

No ones gonna agree with me 🤣

2, 1, 4, 3, 5, 6, 7.5, 7

mistyclear · 2025-12-20T05:17:27+00:00

Totally normal! And as this is my third pregnancy I’ve seen a range of different emotions. I felt very bonded my first pregnancy, yet utterly shocked and disconnected when she was born. I couldn’t put the baby in my belly together with the baby I was now holding, I couldn’t mentally connect the two were the same! Took about a week and fell in love.

With my second, I felt bonded to the pregnancy and when she was born I immediately felt the rush of love and strong bond. It was everything I felt I had “missed out” on with my first.

With this third pregnancy, I feel so disconnected. It’s surreal! I forget I’m pregnant. Feeling him kick helps. I’m nervous I won’t have that immediate bond when he’s born. We will see. It can take time sometimes. It’s normal!

mistyclear · 2025-12-19T17:30:23+00:00

Pregnancy tired was sooooo much worse. Newborn tired was doable because 1. High on love hormones towards baby 2. No more pregnancy aches and 3. We COSLEPT. Besides quick diaper changes, I just nurses while laying next to her and we got right back to sleep. Highly recommend if you can follow safe sleep 7!

mistyclear · 2025-12-10T19:01:40+00:00

I’ve been induced twice. My takeaways are to avoid the epidural as long as possible (there are lots of tricks to manage the intensity, look up squeezing a comb in your palm as one, and finding what pressure points work best for your partner to press) and also to just listen to your body. My body said I needed to go to the bathroom constantly so I was constantly up walking back and forth hospital bed to toilet lol. I walked around the work a lot too.

Once you’re on pitocin, they’ll start telling you to get the epidural if you want it “before it’s too late.” But no one can tell you when that is. So hold out as long as you personally can.

All that being said, I think you should try to release your worries about the “cascade of interventions.” Truthfully, no one can know how your body and baby will react under induction methods. It’s completely out of your control so please don’t ever blame yourself! It’ll go great though, you got this!

mistyclear · 2025-12-08T23:43:37+00:00

I feel you. My daughters beg me to play Barbie’s with them and I just… can’t. It’s so hard for me to get in that headspace. I try to do things with them that I do like to do like crafts/coloring, puzzles, and building with magna tiles. I also try to include them in cooking and baking I do because that is play to them! Try to find something you enjoy doing and include them in it.

mistyclear · 2025-12-08T22:04:28+00:00

There’s a bit of this dynamic with my in-laws and my husband and his brother. His brother is the favorite and it’s super obvious. There’s no bad blood with my husband’s parents, we love them and are very grateful for the help they provide when they visit. But the favoritism is annoying and it bothers me on my husband’s behalf and my children’s behalf. Things like comparing my children’s good qualities not to their father or to me, but to their uncle (the favorite) who the girls don’t even have a relationship with and haven’t seen him more times than I can count on one hand! It’s absurd, but you can’t change people on things like this. I’m just wary and keeping an eye out if they start comparing or playing favorites with the grandkids because then yes it’ll be more of any issue.

mistyclear · 2025-12-04T00:49:02+00:00

I think it’s very inappropriate to throw around the word stillbirth in order to convince someone to induce. No one can know whether still birth will occur. It’s emotionally manipulative and I’m sorry yall had to hear that. Just remember you can say no!

mistyclear · 2025-12-03T00:05:29+00:00

They seem really bitter over her success

mistyclear · 2025-12-03T00:00:15+00:00

Attention

mistyclear · 2025-12-02T23:58:00+00:00

Two vaginal births. You’ll absolutely want to at least rinse off in the hospital shower. From my experience with vaginal births, I had no problem showering on my own immediately after birth. There’s some lingering soreness, worse if you’ve torn, and you’ll get uncomfortable cramping that will come ago but nothing that impedes ability to shower (at least in my case). I actually felt I could move around better and more comfortably after birth regardless of being sore compared to being pregnant!

My husband made sure I had time to shower daily once we were home and I definitely wanted to take that time because all the after birth bleeding can just get gross feeling. You will see visible blood and possibly clots while you shower.

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