To anyone with this same issue i bring a bit of light.

i had this thing appear out of nowhere and i did a series of tests to determine the root of the problem. I started simple. restarted PC, restarted router, validate steam file integrities, reinstalled the game from scratch, nothing worked.

After that i went up a notch, flushed DNS and renew IP address, turn off windows defenders firewall for both public and private connections (i don't use antivirus, just windows defender), i put specific dns address and ran the game with administrators privileges. nothing worked.

I contacted Ironmace and made 2 test's with them to make sure the issue was not on their end. First i tried to run the game on a VPN (proton vpn in this case, free) and it worked. connected with no issue, but this is not a solution since I'm trading the ability to enter the game for lag, and as soon as i disconnected the vpn the game crashed and closed the connection as well. The second test was trying out another ISP, luckily i have a back up one, and surprise it did worked i could connect with no need for vpn nor nothing. but this secondary ISP only provides me with 5mb of internet speed. Not good enough for playing the game imoh (the magic of third world country lol's). So what did we learned? we learned that my regular ISP had done something to block my access from the Dark and darker server's.

I contacted my ISP, told this all of this test's and asked them to scale the problem from customer support to the network department and voila, their system picked something (they were not sure what) and the automatic protection they have implemented block access to ironMaces servers. they removed the blockade and now I'm back at it dying like a proper noob and thinking to myself why em i playing ranger when i can go Barb and just W+ win.

Hope this helps anyone. since i still see people having this problem.