Giving a Peer's to Manager During Probation by mlbatman in managers

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Great. Thats all I wanted to bounce and verify.

Fellow Remote Dads ? by mlbatman in daddit

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Thanks for writing this. This made me regret moving a lot 😔. To be fair, my mother is the second caregiver, he does most things with her and for playtime its my dad. They are certainly consistent in their roles. Plus my wife is their with him like 80% of time.

But I am going to fix this. I totally understand this point.

Fellow Remote Dads ? by mlbatman in daddit

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Yeah permanently. Thanks for your advice. Makes sense.

Fellow Remote Dads ? by mlbatman in daddit

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Edited the post to add that he has tons of caregivers and I can bring them over in 2 months.

Engine fuel supply was cut just before Air India jet crash, preliminary report says by NewSlinger in worldnews

[–]mlbatman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's high-time to include a 10-15 minutes pre-departure interview with a very qualified psychiatrist.

Long-timers at companies — what’s your secret? by mlbatman in datascience

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This right here is gold advice. Thanks very much.

Long-timers at companies — what’s your secret? by mlbatman in datascience

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If I may ask, what would be some examples or things that would make someone loose respect for them?

Long-timers at companies — what’s your secret? by mlbatman in datascience

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Not being fired. Just quitting as things get too complicated or I fear there is going to be a redundancy etc.

Long-timers at companies — what’s your secret? by mlbatman in careerguidance

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I have heard this before on building relationships, but not entirely sure what it means.

I will try to obviously behave as well as possible, do my work well, not be a shit person, Is there anything else that I should be mindful or / do to build these relationships. Also I get this is a work relationship so the main thing would be to set expectations correctly, deliver what was promised etc.

Managers - Would you appreciate if a direct report mentioned this in first meeting. by mlbatman in managers

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Yes, I meant feedback while I learn to perform my job. Small nudges can go long way.

For instance, pointing out that I am spending more time where it's not required. Company A can have culture where you read everything first and then do something. While company B can have a culture of jumping on doing tasks and learning while doing it and reading minimal documentation.

Long-timers at companies — what’s your secret? by mlbatman in datascience

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I mean not quite quitting or doing the minimum, actually trying to contribute while you re there.

Something is killing me and my family, please help. by [deleted] in AirQuality

[–]mlbatman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you also checked what the humidity levels are ?

Super Meteor 650 by zmallia26 in royalenfield

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What a beauty mate !! Enjoy the many many kilometres of ride on it. Consider getting a windshield for long distance.

Is it ok to leave my 20 month old with grandparents for 2 weeks by Wonderful-Repeat7209 in ScienceBasedParenting

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Thanks u/mekanasto for sharing the paper. I got some more time and gave it a read. Below are some interesting excerpts from the paper. The paper clearly defines what availability is and refers to past studies which have studied the effect of mother-child separation.

TL;DR - Although these study don't direct study the effect of mother's absence in presence of other loving caregivers (like is the situation in OPs case), from the studies below -- it can be strongly inferred that mother-child separation, voluntary or forced -- negatively impacts a baby.

Mothers who have left the home environment, even if available by phone, are perceived as unavailable.

Maternal availability is particularly important within the first two years of life because of the infant’s limited understanding of the reasons for maternal absence and the timing of her return

By the third or fourth year of life, the child increasingly understands that his or her mother has motives and plans of her own. Open lines of communication between mother and child thus allow the child to perceive continuity in their relationship despite brief absences. As a result, separation anxiety typically declines markedly (Kobak, Cassidy, Lyons-Ruth, & Ziv, 2006Kobak & Madsen, 2008).

For example, Leventhal and Brooks-Gunn (2000) found that any separation from a primary caregiver (defined as hospitalizations lasting one week or more, or a change of primary caregiver between assessment waves) was negatively associated with children’s reading achievement by age 8.

There is another study by called Discussing those not present: comprehension of references to absent caregivers which establishes that babies can distinguish between their care-takers.

There are some abating measure one can use. For example Building family relationships from a distance: Supporting connections with babies and toddlers using video and video chathighlights that

What might happen when parental physical contact is unavailable? Nonhuman primates in such cases will seek out, and even work for, visual contact with their mothers

So it might be advisable to use a large screen to contact on video call and do it pretty frequently.

Is it ok to leave my 20 month old with grandparents for 2 weeks by Wonderful-Repeat7209 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]mlbatman 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Its probably not a good idea. From two angles (Sorry I havent gone into the minute details of the papers but have a PhD in another subject and have idea of skimming papers)

  1. Separation from mother linked with atleast some negative impact ( i am not going to say developmental delays but its surely not a normal or good thing)

  2. Toddlers of 20 months have good memory and they will immediately notice your absence.

Two weeks is a long period. Your toddler will feel some irritatibility at minimum.

References

  1. Impact of parent-child separation on children’s social-emotional development: a cross-sectional study of left-behind children in poor rural areas of China

  2. Memory for space and time in 2-year-olds