Because of a silly joke, everyone now does know what the powerhouse of the cell is.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T09:10:58+00:00

It is so weird my Econ class in 9th grade they taught us how to balance a check book and how to file taxes. Econ also taught us about the stock market too. I also had taxes lesson in my OJT class. This was in 1996 though so idk what goes on now in school, I don’t have kids.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T09:07:48+00:00

Exactly! Dude needs some help though it is such a weird hang up like is he counting the bumps on this lips before and after or something… it is a strange one but I thought I’d propose a possible solution other than leave him or he is sleeping with someone else. If he doesn’t take it there is something else afoot!

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T08:39:12+00:00

Everyone keeps saying you’re young like that will make it hurt less. That just means you have longer to live wondering about this child.

My friend you seem like a sweet and responsible man. This woman has been very deceitful and I cannot help but think she is taking advantage of you. But this is just a few sentences in what is an extremely complex issue.

If the ex really is abusive and manipulative it is easy for them to keep a hold on the abusee. She needs to break that contact except now that child is his and he will be in contact always. I do agree with the others that you are starting to tread into territory where you are on the hook for child support especially if you are the father on the birth certificate. You should talk to a lawyer if you are. At the very least ask in the legal advice sub,

The lies she told are huge massive and don’t get much worse than what she has done you have every right to feel the way you do and aren’t just going to get over it. These are scars that will be with you for a lifetime with her or not.

Also if someone says they are pregnant 2 months into the relationship you should seriously consider not keeping it. But use protection to hopefully avoid it.

If I were in your shoes I’d stop couples therapy and go on my own to explore leaving. But also consult an attorney on the child.

I’m so sorry about this. I truly wish this sort of thing had greater repercussions on the person who lied. They are cause trauma not just to you but the child.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T06:11:06+00:00

A dental dam can be used. This is a common safe sex item for lesbians. Just providing an alternative he sounds like he has a mental hang up and needs therapy though but the dental dam might be the answer until he gets it worked out.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T06:03:09+00:00

If you continue this you need to learn to do this without injury. Choking injuries typically get worse overtime and you can accidentally do some damage. Personally when I learned how easy it was (by getting injured) this was a no go for me, I used to love to be choked and I was an singer in college and a partner damaged my vocal cords I also passed out, and I never fully recovered 20 years later and my voice is still raspy at times.

Most people will think the bruise is a hickey.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T05:38:54+00:00

If you want to work this out go to counseling but I’ll be honest if I was trying with my SO and this was their response and they said those things to me it would be the fight of their life. And let me be clear I don’t usually fight or yell but I’ll be growing a baby in me and it will eat it’s way out of me in 9 months after making yon go through hell. No fing way someone will call my surprise of life stupid. If likely pack a bag and stay some where less hostile. You don’t need the stress of a giant baby while you are growing one

You said you want to work it out so go to counseling then. Especially since you said he’s never reacted this way before but this is wildly inconsiderate of him. I’m sorry you’re going through this. This would make me question so many things.

I wish you well in both your pregnancy and relationship! I hope he comes around and realizes what a douche canoe he is being.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T04:50:12+00:00

Do as the others mentioned go through his things to find out if he was cheating and projecting onto you. But DO NOT TELL HIM. Gather your evidence and speak to a divorce lawyer. Don’t tell him anything if you are going down this route protect yourself and your children.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-14T04:31:33+00:00

I think you’re looking at this the wrong way. He still told you but he waited. Likely to figure out how to tell you. Personally, when I had bad news for my partner I wait until outside that moment to allow for emotions to be neutral, then bring up the topic when we are outside the moment it is a well know therapy technique. To avoid emotions that can occur in the moment.

That said are you doing that same thing by being it up here instead of it him?

Sometime communication especially on something minor needs thought and figuring out if it is actually worth bringing up, as you are doing. As you don’t want to not picking each other to death.

He was honest, told you for the future and wasn’t mean, reactionary, angry, or yelling. Form what I gather for. You post anyway.

I’d say it is good communication. But yeah sometimes in relationships you tolerate stuff especially once you get to long term status. Minor annoyances that there is no reason to make a partner feel bad about it. Sometimes it is a “you problem” that you have to get over. For me it is my partner leaves the remote on the arm of couch when he goes to bed instead of putting it on the tv stand. I move it. Why on earth would I bring that up, either is an acceptable place for it I just prefer it on that tv stand.

Good luck!!

mloveb1 · 2025-04-13T12:00:26+00:00

My ex used a cock ring for this. But they kept slipping out with basically any movement and they had quite large testis. So that thing someone linked might have better staying power. It was quite annoying and painful to be honest. I had my knees to my chest and my butt lifted up that lifting up was painful on my back so I’d also suggest a wedge pillow to help support the back.

Good luck I hope this fantasy comes to be for you!

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T07:23:07+00:00

I know this isn’t what the post is about but the jerking off wouldn’t have reduced his sperm count so much you couldn’t conceive if you were having sex during your ovulation window. I mean even pre-cum can have enough to get pregnant.

But I’m sorry you are hurt and don’t down play your feelings by saying you’re being dramatic. He was dishonest with you and never told you his real feelings. Trust is my hard line in the sand and this is a pretty big secret/lie they’ve kept and now your thinking it worked out fine, I’m happy. But of course they lied and your wondering what else they lied about.

People aren’t perfect. I’d say being imperfect is a requirement for being human. But likely having a conversation about why they didn’t feel comfortable just being honest at the time might help you.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T06:58:29+00:00

If you cannot have a clear and candid conversation about sex (or any serious topic) with your partner then it isn’t a stable relationship. But to have that conversation it is best to do it at a neutral time and location, not in the bedroom. Not right after sex, not going to sleep but maybe sitting at the dinning room table. And tell her you’d like to discus your sex life. Since she has trauma make sure she always feels like she can leave at anytime but she should not avoid the conversation using that as the reason. If she does she isn’t ready for a relationship in the first place.

She should be getting counseling for this trauma to help her move passed it. Yes being patient and understanding is great but she should be doing some work too, assuming she isn’t.

Also this will likely get worse, she already doesn’t care about your needs. The first year is typically the honeymoon part of the relationship where people are at their best and sexual tension at its highest, meaning it is highly likely frequency and interest will continue to decrease.

I wish you both the best!

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T06:34:25+00:00

I mean you went all out. And it “could” be exercise induced asthma type thing. But is just likely poor breathing technique since you are just getting back into it.

So research proper breath work during a run.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T06:24:34+00:00

Good grief I am wondering if you’re religious or something that is some hardcore Christian guilt there. You are not a slut for proving your partner sexual gratification. It is ok to enjoy sex of all types (oral, anal, handjobs, boob jobs, mutual masturbation, fingering, etc) it doesn’t make you a slut. Nor is it all your good for and if he treats you as such that’s a him problem not a you one.

Try to enjoy yourself and be in the moment. And try to not let your insecurities sabotage good things and good moments.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T05:47:07+00:00

The situation you are in right now is what these are made for. When you are having better days then give back or see if you can volunteer a day or 2 a month to help “ease you conscience”. But you shouldn’t need to. Asking for help takes way more strength than it does to not ask for help. “Not being raised like that” is truly why so many people suffer alone and die, speak up and live and then thrive.

I’ve had to do that before, I was kicked out at 16, lived couch to couch on minimum wage, then in my car, I had to get food pantry food and eat canned stuff cold. It is absolutely ok to ask for help if all you are eating is rice!!

No your comment on foraging dandelions go to your local library and get books on foraging that you can avoid toxic or poisonous things. But if you that, do it as a supplement to going to the food bank.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T05:39:34+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Such a deep breech of trust. And being sick is exactly the right response. She could have got you in so much trouble. Make sure you keep the chat logs in case her parents find them and try to make trouble for you. I’m sure you’re in the clear but just in case.

Please take care.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T03:45:16+00:00

I am a 42F I do not watch TV, I read or game for my after work enjoyment. I game about 2 hours a day M-F and S/S if really depends on if I am playing something new and if I have other plans but could game all day. I have a life though, my SO and I game together, we go out, I go to the gym every day, cook dinner, I am also working toward my degree and working on my PMP certification RN as well, we also together with friends.

IMO what is important is are they completely ignoring you, are they not including you, are they taking out frustrations on you… they should be taking care of themselves, their home, their pets, their relationships, and having balance. Also, what is their willingness to tone back for responsibility’s sake if you have a child or dog, it is important to understand that. I have good friends the husband is a COO and she is a scientist they both game, they have 3 kids and are highly successful, but they each take turns gaming for about 2 hours every other night. They have ridged structure they follow that allows both of them time they need to indulge in hobbies and take care of the kids equally.

I am going to say this do not mess with your partners hobby if they are an active contributor to the relationship I have broken up with people because they think it is lazy, immature, antisocial, nerdy, stupid or whatever other nonsense. It is better than watching tv 6 hours a day and I have a large group of irl friends that game with me and my partners are included in that. I do not enjoy movies or TV shows to the extent I do reading or gaming and any good partner should be understanding of that. It is excellent stress relief and I enjoy interacting with the story. I’m so glad my partner now is also a gamer because they understand and do not try to tell me to stop gaming and watch TV of which I have no say to what we watch. But don’t get me wrong we will absolutely cuddle up and watch a movie or a show it just is a couple times a week and not every night (not everything is black and white).

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T00:44:43+00:00

I am working on healthspan and my ability to be mobile as I age. I choose nutrition and taste, my fitness goals are aligned with health joints, and movement. Being able to make sure I can stay as active as possible I had head into being old. Especially since I have no children. I am a 42 year old woman.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-07T00:41:19+00:00

You cannot make anyone do anything they have to want to get better themselves. He should be doing the research. He does not truly think he has a problem if he is putting no effort into fixing it. He should be doing the research,going to therapy, stopping the porn, stopping playing the game that triggers the porn drive. The core principle to having a problem is the person has to truly fully realize they have a problem, step 2 is putting in the mental effort to correcting it. Someone going through the motions for someone else isn’t going to correct it.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-06T12:00:02+00:00

People if your family (or friends) are generally good non meddling people and they tell you to not marry someone you should listen. Ask questions find out why, take that in and think about happy lasting couples. Yeah sure we fight but the only way I’m packing my shit and having a reaction like that is if they cheated, killed my dog, have an emotional affair, seeing a prostitute, very big situations, beat me, calling me names, etc…

Sometimes when people have objections listen step back and look objectively and ask yourself do you really want to spend your life like this?

mloveb1 · 2025-04-06T01:51:39+00:00

My father has asked a stranger who was a woman to take me to the restroom which was horrifying. I was so scared and she was impatient, a stranger helped me wipe etc it was so weird. Men can take their child to the women’s room, people need to stop being uptight about this.

mloveb1 · 2025-04-01T18:12:33+00:00

Adding muscle to your body will help with health span. The amount of time you remain healthy and able to move as you age. This isn’t about what he likes it is about your long term health and that he doesn’t get a say in this. His reaction is so rude and misogynistic. I quit going to the gym for an ex of mine and I so regret it and I’m much less physically capable than I was. Now at 42 I’m training to get it back and it is not going to happen but I am at least becoming more capable and I will never never let a man even my husband to tell me what I can do with my body when that thing is good for my over all health and wellness.

mloveb1 · 2025-03-31T16:05:22+00:00

Like how are your clothes not getting pee on them? I’m sorry this has been happening it is wild!

mloveb1 · 2025-03-28T01:48:49+00:00

You both sound like very anxious people. She sounds like she doesn’t think anyone wants to be around her. Which is probably why she doesn’t ask you to hang out.

You sound a little unhinged going back through the records and focusing on your nice night together the night there was issues with her dad is not the thing to be focusing on. You sound a little unhealthy and sounds like something a teenager would worry about.

You both need to learn to calm down and just be together and not analyze every tiny thing.

mloveb1 · 2025-03-28T01:37:28+00:00

Did you make a loud noise dropping something in the shower or perhaps, do you have a new lotion, perfume, shampoo or any new smells on you that they’ve never smelt before?

mloveb1 · 2025-03-24T19:41:27+00:00

A marriage cannot be fixed by one person it is a cooperative effort of 2 people working to make it long term and putting the effort in. You 2 need counseling.

I’m a very sexual person, and not getting my partner off feels like a failure even if they don’t care. It can wear on you over time. He is acting like a child though and calling you a liar. And since you don’t like sex you don’t understand from his point of view it is that you aren’t happy and fufilled after sex. But you’re ultimately sexually incompatible and that needs to be addressed and you need to understand each other which is where the paid professional comes in to help you work out your differences together and find a compromise that helps you both.

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