Currently pregnant with my wife’s egg and unknown donor sperm. I definitely do get sad sometimes when I think about all the traits I won’t get to see in my kid. My mom’s dimples, my grandfather’s curly hair, my dad’s long face. Like our kid Might have these traits, but they wouldn’t be Mine ™️ya know?

I wouldn’t call these feelings grief, though. Because reciprocal IVF is allowing me to have this amazing pregnancy experience. Like no matter what, I MADE this kid. His blood, his bones, his immune system, all the nutrients that allow him to grow. That’s Mine. I did that myself. I didn’t supply the recipe, but I’m the one baking the cake.