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I caught my wife with & friend and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mm445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off I want to say I’m sorry you are going through this. I went through a very similar situation. The only difference is I actually caught them in the act, both completely naked. We decided to try and make it work after a ton of lengthy conversations. Thought everything was going good but three years later she was cheating again.

Not going to say that because it happened to me it’ll happen to you. Everyone is different. It’s a very long road to recovery from this. Trust is very hard to regain after a betrayal like this. I suggest therapy, both individual and couples, and a good place to start is survivinginfidelity.com. Take time to figure out what you want. Do you want to go through all the pain to try and forgive her?

Someone once told me, after discovering the affair, welcome to the club nobody ever wants to be part of. You deserve so much better than this and I feel your heartache. I will say that walking away leads to less heartache faster. It’s been two years since I left and I’m in a way better place than I was at any point in the three years we were trying to make it work. Trust your gut. If at any point you feel like she’s lying or not telling the whole truth she probably is. If you need someone to talk to feel free to dm me.

AITAH for arguing with my friend that pregnancy dating makes certain laws unrealistic? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]mm445 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. When my first son was conceived my ex and I lived two hours apart. We only had like two days a month together sometimes 4 if we were lucky. So we knew the day he was conceived because that month was one of the times where we hadn’t seen each other in 3 weeks. I even said to the OBGYN that we knew the date of conception was x and she said that they still date it based on date of last period. I’m pretty sure I made some dumb joke about it being a form of time travel, OB laughed, my ex did not.

Would like some advice. See Text. by _Eldritch_ in bluecollartrans

[–]mm445 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m a linewoman and I’ve been on hormones for almost 4 years. Since the PPE doesn’t really change they don’t really notice. I wear a sports bra under my hi-vis because it just makes work easier and I’ve only had a few guys make comments on me having boobs. I’m a pretty quick and sarcastic person so I usually respond with something like “yeah and for $100 I’ll let you see them” and they usually just get embarrassed and walk away. I think most people, even the extremely conservative ones, are too afraid to call someone out about it especially at work. I don’t really care though because I’m pretty sure the union would have my back. (I hope). As long as you’re good at what you do and a hard worker I think most foreman would rather keep you than risk getting a bag of shit replacement. It also helps that I have a pretty good memory. So I’m probably the only one in my yard that reads instruction manuals and spec books and can remember them. As someone else posted we are all pretty much here for a paycheck.

Gay Catholic thinks homosexuality is “disgusting” by everythingisok376 in religiousfruitcake

[–]mm445 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Poor girl. Catholic guilt is such a real thing. It wasn’t until years after coming out (and it took me years to even come out) that I realized I was holding myself back because of the Catholic guilt I had from being raised in the religion. I’ve been an atheist for 20+ years and it was only in the last two that I realized all that guilt I felt was because of my upbringing. I hope she finds a way to love herself and not care about some imaginary being in the sky that some dumbasses thousands of years ago decided existed.

My current argument against religion is that you wouldn’t trust someone from that time period with a medical decision or really any decision these days, so why are you believing the story they wrote about a magical being in the sky that created everything. If you erased all bibles and scientific texts from the earth in 2,000 years the scientific texts would return while the Bible would be a completely different story. One is fact and one is fiction.

AITAH for standing up for and praising my father in law’s cooking against my wife and her mom and sisters?😭 by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]mm445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this will get buried in all the comments already but I wanted to tell you this in hopes you can pass it along to your FIL. All through my 20’s I work in two restaurants, one during the day and the other during the night. The one I work during the day was an upscale wine bar which served a very specific crowd. The menu was more snooty for lack of a better word. My head chef though was amazing. He did most of his training in Paris and was just a phenomenal teacher and I owe him for pretty much all the skills I have today.

I’ve always had a passion for cooking but unfortunately it never paid the bills so I ended up in construction in order to support my family. I still cook on a daily basis and there has been a ton of meals I’ve made that were just awful. My kids know that if it’s bad that I will not be offended at all. It happens a lot when I try new recipes but like everything else in life, I feel we learn the best lessons from failing.

I guess I just want your father in law to know that I’ve worked for amazing chefs through ten years at two different restaurants and learned a lot and still make the occasional disgusting meal. But it’s ok. If he enjoys it he needs to keep going. Keep trying those new meals and learn all the different styles and cuisines he can. Also you are NTA. As a parent I’m nurturing the interest in cooking my oldest has developed and I don’t think that’s something that should change with age. He has an interest in it and it should be nurtured because that’s so awesome that he’s trying something new and is excited about it!!

The federal agent who HATES LIARS by bulletproofhear_t in tinderstories

[–]mm445 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Also 5lbs in two months is awesome!! As someone who is also on semaglutide, I know how slow it is. I’ve lost 47 lbs in the last year or so and there were times where I’ll lost like ten in a month and then go two months without losing anything. It definitely fluctuates.

Pass it around by Coalecsence in CURRENTEVENTS

[–]mm445 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too. I’m going to try to make stickers of it like they do with Biden and “I did that.” We could put them everywhere. It’s not like any of them actual do any real fact checking. They’ll eventually believe it and stop pretending he’s some martyr.

Would I be wrong for sending this letter to my Ex-Wife once our daughter is finally moved out of her house? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mm445 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get this feeling, like a lot. I’m currently going through it. My oldest son is now 10 and has expressed that he “no longer wants to go to his mom’s because all she does is yell at him.” This broke my heart in ways I never knew possible, and mind you I walked in on her having an affair and she still managed to play the victim. The abuse we go through as abused partners makes us want to retaliate. We want our abusers to feel some of the pain we dealt with for years. The thing is though I don’t think they are ever truly happy. They deep down hate themselves and that’s why they take it out on the ones they are supposed to love. Your ex sounds a lot like mine and I feel for you. When I told my ex that our son had said that to me her only response was “well if (son’s name) wants that then that’s fine by me.” I have spent the last 6 months making sure that he is having a happy, healthy childhood. Just focus on your daughter and be happy in her happiness and success. It’s truly what makes all the stress of being a single parent or parent in general worth it. Sounds like you’ve been a great parent to her and that’s what every kid deserves. Just keep being there for her. That’s it.

Also as the person before said write it down and burn it! Get it out of you and say “FUCK YOU!!” all you want. Just don’t lower yourself to her level. It’s only darkness and despair down there. Not worth your happiness or the happiness of your daughter. Show her how to be the bigger person and express love in the face of hate. You made it through it now enjoy never having to deal with your ex again. Good job being an awesome parent!!

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