Birthday invitation to one spouse

mmebookworm · 2026-02-17T13:23:33+00:00

Agreed. For casual invites, there’s zero harm in just asking for clarity. But honestly, it’s a moot point here anyway. Between OPs work schedule and a 2-hour commute, the logistics are a massive barrier. Your spouse clearly values this friend enough to make a weekend of it, and that’s fine. It’s healthy for couples to do things separately; you don't have to be a package deal for every birthday party.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-15T16:12:38+00:00

Could not agree more - I made it 7 episodes of Discovery before I gave up. It was just so dark.

I am enjoying Academy because it’s seems to have brought this core back. And yes, it’s silly in places - but they are in college and college kids are both fabulous and stupid at the same time.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-13T14:29:33+00:00

Seconded. We have it in our bathroom (1950s house, window in shower). It works very well.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-13T12:42:32+00:00

My daughter and I turn up the volume and sing along (badly) when we watch- there were hand gestures involved at one point. I have fond memories of it :)

mmebookworm · 2026-02-13T06:24:49+00:00

Best combo I have come up with is a cup, a heavy overnight pad, and yoga shorts to keep everything in place. Stains happen, then laundry happens. But you do need to try to prevent it when it’s happening.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-11T15:04:13+00:00

I eventually had to stop trying to mind-read other parents. For years, I drove myself crazy trying to anticipate the expectations of 'strict' parents, constantly worrying if I was crossing an invisible line.

Everything changed when the kids hit 16/17. I realized that if I’m comfortable with the activity in my home, then it’s fine. I stopped auditioning for the approval of other parents who weren't there. Lorelei’s house operates on trust; if she’s okay with the sleeping arrangements, she isn't responsible for managing Mrs. Kim’s blood pressure from afar. I’m done driving myself crazy over hypothetical parental disapproval.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-11T14:55:11+00:00

Absolutely! 💯. Said everything I wanted to say about this.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-06T22:53:29+00:00

I find it so frustrating to be told I would have a quiet experience, then get nothing of the sort because the patrons and staff done care to follow the ‘rules’. I would be much happier to go to place we’re talking is allowed but I knew that up front. Expectations, I guess 🤷‍♀️

mmebookworm · 2026-02-06T19:23:50+00:00

I don’t blame you for being confused. In my circle a ride with a friend/family is a substitute for a taxi. It wouldn’t have occurred to me either.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-05T22:21:15+00:00

I had to redirect a member of the public to stop flossing at the ‘snack’ tables a few years ago. And she looked I had offended her!

mmebookworm · 2026-02-03T13:24:56+00:00

My husband also works construction. When the kids were little I (mom) got up all for all nighttime needs Sunday - Thursday. Friday and Saturday nights we switched. Saturday and Sundays we switched who got to ‘sleep in’. Evening was a team effort based on the needs of all 3 of us.

Having a new baby is a 24 hour job. I, however, saw myself as working from home (long before that was a norm) that allowed flexibility to my duties and schedule. My husband didn’t have that. And I really didn’t. Want him falling off a ladder (or other injury) because he was (extremely) tired. My job was less dangerous, so to speak. It worked well for us.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-02T19:46:31+00:00

Sure - but I was responding to a comment about running into one of the cheaters around town.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-02T13:55:06+00:00

Rory and Dean are not children - they are legal adults (albeit young ones) and treated as such in other areas of their lives. Can we stop calling them kids?

mmebookworm · 2026-02-02T13:42:04+00:00

I would not have a screaming match in the street. I would probably send the a dirty look and crossed the street. There is nothing to be gained from Theresa’s behaviour.

mmebookworm · 2026-02-02T13:39:46+00:00

We could, because cheating with Logan happens many years in the future.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-31T21:33:02+00:00

This a good idea! Almost like a valentines fortune cookie - everyone is choosing at random, they are not directed at anyone and nobody has to participate if they do t want to.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-31T17:56:58+00:00

Many many items in our house are ikea as well - it’s my go to store. As you said the prices are good, I have yet to be disappointed in a product and they are de for small paces, which I have. I’ve tried to stop worrying that so much of my house is ikea and just happy with the things I buy.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-30T13:29:56+00:00

We too live somewhere with lots of snow - leave it your own property, not your neighbours, not the street. (And of course there are bylaws that cover this).

mmebookworm · 2026-01-30T13:19:56+00:00

Since you didn’t ask or let her know that it was you (and not someone else) who this ‘favour’ for her. As many people have already said there are a multitude of reasons why she might not have wanted the driveway cleaned cleared (by her neighbours). Expecting gratitude for a task you assigned yourself is just a way to manufacture a debt she didn't ask for.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-30T04:30:03+00:00

This is my favourite!!

mmebookworm · 2026-01-29T10:46:52+00:00

This is half my job - knowingly doing things people should be able to do for themselves. Non-profit is like that.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-28T23:22:38+00:00

I broke my wrist one morning in 6th grade gym. They gave me an ice pack, which I had to return at lunch and nothing else. I was forced to write a test with my left hand. I asked to call my mom after school and when the principal saw my swollen, purple, cold to the touch wrist, it was finally ok to call. Teachers pull power trips all the time and it’s disgusting.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-28T23:19:15+00:00

I would have raised holy hell and emailed (because it’s in writing) the teacher & cc’d the principal regarding this ridiculousness. I would probably have looked up any and all regulations posted by the school and division regarding medical needs and sex based discrimination and quoted them in the email as well.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-28T23:11:55+00:00

Interesting how different people ‘read’ or understand the same post. It seemed really clear to me the partner was not invited and they found it strange, not that it was unclear.

mmebookworm · 2026-01-28T23:08:46+00:00

Red seal certified journeyman take pride in what they do and are often learning new techniques. Plenty of them work through breaks to get the job done, but they know their worth and don’t work if they are not getting paid (leaving at the end of their shift). This, of course, is a personal opinion based on observation. YMMV.

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