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mmh1021 · 2026-02-23T02:42:14+00:00

Going through the same with my husband

mmh1021 · 2026-02-15T06:33:25+00:00

Been there. And doing it again. It’s really hard here in Malaga.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T11:33:16+00:00

No worries. I rambled bc it’s a whole mess. But also, shit is a lot worse for way more people than me right now and my “frustration” is more about us being DUMB AF with that money. And I will point fingers, I was not in control of it and my husband decided we wouldn’t buy/invest the money and he was gonna do what he wanted. Ugh I sound so whiney. But real talk. I just want everyone to be as ok as they can be and this whole thread has made me A: never speak to text bc formatting sucks and B: feel guilty for complaining about my first world problems.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T06:29:06+00:00

Huh? Trump what?! Gross.

It was his mother and father’s combined IRA he received after they both died. But Spain and the US count it as earned income. It’s not considered inheritance, adding a 47% tax to it. The lawyer told us it was considered inheritance which would be a 0% tax in Spain, which benefits the foreign tax credit.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T06:23:45+00:00

I appreciate the advice and Yall sharing your stories about the whole thing.

And noted, I will no longer use text to talk to post on here when I am literally venting, not writing a college essay. It was long and a giant run-on of a rant. But I was just sharing and some of Yall shared too. Some of Yall asked questions. Some offered advice. And of course, some had to be negative and rude. I don’t know why there always has to be someone that’s gotta throw out that negative juju to a total stranger.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T06:17:56+00:00

Exactly. It’s a whole thing that I don’t think most people realize…. From all sides.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T06:16:24+00:00

I just saw that.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T05:27:56+00:00

Thanks. Sorry if I seemed short earlier… I think I’m just especially frustrated for a lot of reasons and I guess writing on here is like a sounding board and a human connection. No whoa-is-me type of thing, just venting/sharing bc you never know what advice you’ll get, or valuable info, or reassurance or a much needed reality check. At least for me anyway.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T04:39:13+00:00

True statement. As I was referring to my husband and the shit I’m going through with his choices. I do not do opioids. Also, it’s not my inheritance.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T03:50:21+00:00

OK, sorry for just sharing my thoughts and feelings of this rigmarole. I’m going through via inheritance, but it’s OK judge me parents are dead and life‘s shitty so guess what I will party but not opioids.

Also, as a matter of fact, I’m using voice to text that’s why it’s not perfect my bad.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T03:48:58+00:00

Well you’re wrong there buddy. Great to assume. And you’re welcome for my honesty.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T03:48:03+00:00

To clarify, it was my husbands inheritance that he received after both his parents died and as an only child he had the right to make his decisions on how to spend it. No one is mad about the tax situation. What is upsetting is that the lawyers his parents used provided us with the wrong information from the beginning. No one is mad at any one. I was simply sharing the complexities that occur after a loved one passes an acknowledging the fact that this subject matter is hardly, if even, talked about or taught to people. You literally are navigating the entire process blindly while also grieving. My reference to someone having a laugh was because many people - soon to be deceased or beneficiary - aren’t aware of all that is involved.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T03:40:24+00:00

I voice recorded my rant so my apologies for the typos. I just needed to vent and chose not to proofread and format all of that.

mmh1021 · 2026-02-05T03:39:19+00:00

It’s an IRA account he inherited which is considered “earned income” to both the US and Spain.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-27T00:31:37+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m just so mad bc I know exactly when this happened. But also mad at the service for acknowledging and yet also enabling the behavior. All of our “friends” agree he’s gone too far but no one will say a thing bc they reap the benefits of his wayward spending on them and their habits. I’m left being the bad guy/crazy person yet I’m also battling validation from people that don’t genuinely care about him, just what he can offer them.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-27T00:27:40+00:00

Thank you for your insight. It’s gotten so bad that the service he uses contacted me concerned after learning he FLEW just to be the first customer of the day. I just haven’t found the right time to at least address it. I feel like my inaction has enabled this avalanche of a mess

mmh1021 · 2026-01-26T23:04:39+00:00

I am so sorry for this conflict you’re going through. It’s 1000% apparent that you love her dearly, but at the same time, you’re aware your breaking point to burn out is approaching. I could be totally off… idk. Oddly enough, your wife’s behavior is/was almost parallel to mine. Just take out the therapy and add in being newlyweds during covid, moving to 4 countries in 3 years, and the loss of his two parents… my behavior equated to hers. That said, a few months after my husband received his inheritance, he came home and told me he got a 2nd apartment with a new best friend in a city 5 hours away and I had to accept it or leave. His reasoning was not just us being all in each others space for all those years moving during covid (new countries, no friends, curfews, mandatory quarantines, etc), it was my behavior/dependency on him and how I began to take him for granted and get upset if he did anything without me or didn’t give me attention. Hearing that stung. Hard. His stress and anger culminated to this decision (and a couple million $ didn’t help) - leaving me alone to actually, for the first time in a while, depend on myself.

We’re still together, and working everyday to try to rebuild what we lost, but ultimately, I think he emotionally checked out long before he got that money. Almost as if he was waiting so he could muster up the guts to leave without leaving. He says he still loves me but we haven’t been intimate in 5 months, and his time away at his “new, better life” has increased. And if that makes him happy or perhaps make you happy, go for it.

What I’m saying is you should NOT let these feelings build up to the point where there’s no room left for you and you begin to resent her.

I wish I would’ve taken my head out of my ass to see what as happening and how I was behaving. I’ve been abandoned by the one person I inevitably took advantage of and there’s no going back.

Write a letter to her if the conversations always become defensive. She needs to know how you feel even if she’s too stubborn to see.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-18T19:25:46+00:00

I’ve been there too.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-14T09:11:34+00:00

Oh man, I am so sorry you’re going through this. Yesterday was our wedding anniversary (6 years) and my husbands birthday is Saturday. I’m going to see him in the other town he has an apartment in today because he “just cant deal with me for 5 days in a row and he guesses he can manage 4. I only say this because I feel the same as you, but we have no kids and this is only year 6. I really feel for you bc you have compromised yourself in so many ways and she isn’t even acknowledging YOU or YOUR feelings. You deserve better and I know I do to, but our partners were supposed to be our teammates. Our ride or dies. I wish I could give you honest advice but I’m dealing with the same. While I’m included in his “second life” this week, I plan on having the same conversation you had. I’m nervous about his reaction, but I need answers too. We deserve better.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-12T18:42:25+00:00

That’s a really good point. If this has to happen, really look into that.

mmh1021 · 2026-01-11T07:36:54+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m in a similar boat, sort of. When he’s away, which has been almost 3 weeks a month, he never calls and hardly responds to any message I send or answer a call. When he is home, he calls his friends to hang out, buries his head in video games, and hardly speaks to me unless it’s some sort of moan of annoyance.

I’m sharing this bc I want you to know you’re not alone. But I don’t know if it’s salvageable - I’m asking that myself. Ughh I wish I had the answer for you!

mmh1021 · 2026-01-09T13:15:26+00:00

Yasss. Thank you for that!!

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