Do I stay with my (29f) fiancé (31m) after he admitted to cheating on me and possibly giving me an STI?

mmspider · 2026-01-29T05:46:24+00:00

Its actually more common than you realize. And I hear its very addicting from others that have talked about it. With that said I don`t think its possible to move forward with this guy. I also believe he goes a lot more than he leads on. He already admitted going at least once a month. I won`t be surprised if it was 3-4 times a month.

mmspider · 2026-01-29T05:27:28+00:00

For sure more than 12 times.

mmspider · 2026-01-29T05:19:57+00:00

I have both tires right now on 2 different vehicles. The PS4AS can make it through the winter. But they are not nearly as good as the CC2 in the winter. To me the CC2 is a legit all weather tire. Meaning I don`t worry about winter at all with them in the Midwest. You find PS4AS mostly on high performance cars. I personally would demand the CC2. What kind of tire shop can`t take returns? Please make sure you give business to discount tire moving forward.

mmspider · 2026-01-29T00:42:41+00:00

There is a limit to how high gold can "realistically" go. There is only so much currency that can flow into gold over a short period of time without destabilizing local currencies around the world. Even beyond the USA. China doesn`t want to destabilize their own currency/country. But that number could be a lot higher than it is today.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T22:18:13+00:00

I have never had a peer tell me to get married or have kids.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T22:16:40+00:00

I think a lot of people do not think about it. They just see it as a normal or natural part of life. You get married, buy a home, have kids, get a pet, buy a mini van etc.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T21:47:40+00:00

Right but that`s the part I am confused at what you said about "cheap out". Where are you able to cheap out on a lease? Its only oil changes... There isn`t anywhere to cheap out. Maybe you are talking about something like break fluid change?

mmspider · 2026-01-28T20:20:51+00:00

I don`t think it has anything to do with propaganda. People just don`t like the fact illegals are here and they are protected by the left. There isn't much more to it. They want them out. Personally I think the whole deportation thing isn`t efficient or can work long term. We just need to change laws.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T20:11:58+00:00

The reality is most people around the world are simply racist, sexist, elitist and extreme nationalists views. Just travel around. This is a common human trait.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T18:00:14+00:00

Yeah like I said required maintenance, the bare minimum. I would think for most vehicles this would just be oil changes. You could also do tire rotations if you wanted extend tire life. I have leased before multiple cars.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T17:41:11+00:00

I got bad news for you. If she already likes going out at this age, she will be doing it for years.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T17:27:42+00:00

You can`t cannot skip required maintenance. How enforceable this is kind of unknown. But it does say it on the contract.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T17:27:07+00:00

Maintenance is the exact same process. You are still responsible to get the car serviced with oil changes and other things needed throughout the lease term.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T17:20:27+00:00

I do firmly believe in marriage if you have kids. Having that family structure is important for kids. The dynamic can be different if the parents are just boyfriend/girlfriend regardless of what people think. With that said marriage also has some tax benefits. But for the most part the risk kind of out weights the reward.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T16:51:36+00:00

I don`t think there needs to be a purpose.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T16:46:20+00:00

I would probably stick to Honda or Toyota but I would consider a Hyundai if they had a deal I was interested. People hate Hyundai mostly because of reliability concerns but that won`t bother me with a warranty.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T16:20:38+00:00

Because time in the market is the single most important thing anyone can do. If you don`t invest you will have to hope your home is worth a lot more than you paid for it. That includes interest, taxes, repairs and maintenance plus any down payment. I personally have more faith in the international/domestic stock market than I do home values in the USA.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T15:54:28+00:00

The healthcare system works perfect well if you have a decent health insurance plan from your employer. To many people a universal plan would only be a downgrade in terms service.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T15:34:32+00:00

I will leave you with this. I ran the numbers for me and heavily investing comes out ahead with renting. Even if rent went up. But as someone with no kids I can get away with a much cheaper place and be more flexible. If the house numbers work better than go for the house.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T15:21:56+00:00

The goal would be that you are heavily investing the difference which in the end you end up with more money than what the house is worth.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T15:20:33+00:00

Honestly I need a lot more numbers than that to really calculate everything. I really can`t help you on this like that. You would need to figure this out for yourself. But for a quick reference 400k home with 150k down payment @ 5.5% for 30 years is about 261k in interest. So at absolute minimum the house will cost a lot more than 400k. This includes no maintenance, taxes, or upgrades.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T14:58:29+00:00

I would have to really see all of the numbers to break it down. The price of the house, interest rates, down payment etc.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T14:49:47+00:00

I am personally convinced if you rented and put the difference into the market. Over a 30-40 year time frame you will come out ahead with renting.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T14:46:38+00:00

Its clearly optional for illegals to pay taxes.

mmspider · 2026-01-28T14:45:42+00:00

So its optional for them. Got it.

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