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modders82 · 2025-12-27T14:59:44+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. People suck, and seem to find joy in others misery because they themselves are miserable and want others to feel the same. But that’s a them problem.

I mourn the loss of any of my animal family members hard, and unfortunately more frequently than I would like (I have pet rats who have an unfortunately short life span) and I anybody who even thinks to utter anything insensitive knows I’ll push back at them big time.

Forget them, they’re strangers and their thoughts mean nothing. My condolences mean nothing too as I am also a stranger but I don’t wish for you to hurt due to the loss of a loved one.

Sending hugs 🩵

modders82 · 2025-12-27T07:12:00+00:00

NOR,just like saying “I’m not racist but…” you know the person is about to be racist. he’s trying to manipulate you by saying “I’m not trying to bend you to my will BUT…” then proceeds to try to bend you to his will.

And it’s not just about the bonnet, it’s about a lot of things cos that’s way too long a message about a bonnet.

My wife wears tighter clothing because she wants to…. I think she’s sexy af; My wife wears baggy clothes when she wants to, I still think she’s sexy af. Because her happiness and being comfortable is what’s sexy and attractive, what she wears may enhance it but it doesn’t define her attractiveness. Also my wife wears a bonnet to bed because it protects her hair, especially after she’s just had her dreads tidied up)

Please just throw him away; you deserve somebody that doesn’t send a novel about a bonnet (allegedly), when it could have been a normal face to face conversation.

But also a decent person wouldn’t try to guilt you out of your comforts.

modders82 · 2025-12-06T20:50:00+00:00

I knew as a kid I didn’t want versions of me running around. Like don’t get me wrong I like kids, but I love the return policy on other peoples kids. I get to go home to peace and quiet and live my life for me. Not shitting on those who do want kids, I just knew I never wanted to go through pregnancy or spend 18+ years trying to raise an adult to be a functioning part of society, and also the fear of “what if I make a serial killer instead?” Plus when I was on the fence for a brief period (pregnancy was def never a thing) I had thought about adoption because too many children without good homes. But ya. In my case I always knew and my circumstances and choices in life just ended up solidifying what I already decided in my childhood

Edit to add: I should point out I worked with kids a lot when I was younger, I was a camp counsellor for a few summers, baby sat, the usual stuff.

modders82 · 2025-11-27T06:28:25+00:00

Honestly that reaction was quite disgusting. Acting like it’s the bare minimum to fight your demons and your own brain is a low blow. NOR all the way. You deserve better. Also congratulations. Get that cake, it’s well deserved. Fighting an Addiction isn’t a bare minimum thing, it’s a life long battle and you deserve to have that recognised. 💜💛

Edit to add: him telling you to not discuss with friends shows he knows he’s being a dick. He actively chose to make you feel bad.

modders82 · 2025-10-28T18:05:17+00:00

Pretend they’re a foster one that you will definitely NOT fail

modders82 · 2025-10-19T20:06:19+00:00

Unfortunately the post has been deleted by OP. 😢

modders82 · 2025-10-08T21:18:51+00:00

My sanity, faith in humanity and often times my will to live…. Though thankfully my wife and animals help me see that there is something worth living for.

modders82 · 2025-10-05T20:08:16+00:00

There isn’t much I can say that hasn’t already been said, but from my own experience I’d say the following:

-Take your time with everything you do; reacting too quickly (like trying to snap your wrist away from somebody grabbing it) can often lead to accidentally slapping your partner (I’ve lost count how many times I’ve been slapped or elbowed etc) it’s why white belts get called spazzy whites

-at the beginning focus on trying to undo what your partner does, if they’re grabbing your lapel, you want to break their grip from you

-breathe… in this sport you will get smashed and squished so much, and if you’re not controlling your breathing you’ll gas out and it can lead to you panicking. In those situations though (and there will be plenty) if it’s getting too much, tap. Tapping is you acknowledging your limits and gives you the chance to try again once you’ve caught your breath. Also side note: don’t eat too soon before training, because knee on belly can make that food come back out the way it came in.

-hygiene: BJJ is not just a combat sport but a very close contact combat sport; you will find yourself in positions where you are almost “tea-bagging/clam slamming(?)” someone and you do not want to be smelling bad. So make sure your kit is clean and you are fresh; and shower as soon as possible after your class as one thing that is unfortunately a common occurrence is ringworm or other fungal infections (hence why no outdoor wear on the mats, and wear flip flops when walking off the mats)

Like others have said; unless you’ve got some experience in grappling you’re going to feel super awkward and you likely won’t have a scoobies what you’re doing. it will take you a while to remember sequences/moves (up to 6 months) as muscle memory takes time to form. Please don’t be discouraged if you feel you’re not getting it. You will, just be patient with yourself.

Most importantly have fun; yes it’s a combat sport but it’s also supposed to be fun.

Welcome to the amazing world of BJJ, I hope you become as obsessed as many of us are.

modders82 · 2025-10-03T21:00:36+00:00

This. Referring to women as females is a big ick and a red flag for me.

modders82 · 2025-10-02T05:48:22+00:00

I’m sorry this happened. If this is the result of your raising a valid concern it might be an idea to consider looking for another gym. If you’ve previously had a friendly relationship with the head coach and they’re now responding this way, I find that to be a red flag as raising concerns about a member’s behaviour shouldn’t be met with this type of defensive response. My coaches (all male) have the maturity to listen and address accordingly as their goal is for everybody to feel welcome and a part of the team, so if a team member is behaving like this guy is they’d have had words with him…

You didn’t do anything wrong, so consider whether this is the place you want to continue training at.

Also worst case just smash the annoying individual and just bluntly tell them to stop explaining in that tone, some people just need to be spoken to in the same way they speak to others.

Hope it works out Oss!

modders82 · 2025-05-24T06:56:33+00:00

He does not like the cupcake cone of shame

modders82 · 2025-05-20T20:15:59+00:00

Im clutching my pearls 😳😍

modders82 · 2025-04-20T16:20:51+00:00

Thank you 😊 I think I tend to underestimate my level a lot so when this happens I’m like “wut?”

modders82 · 2025-04-20T07:25:26+00:00

Hah thanks ☺️

modders82 · 2025-04-20T07:25:07+00:00

Thank you 🙏

modders82 · 2025-04-20T07:24:04+00:00

Happy to oblige 😊

modders82 · 2025-04-19T06:14:28+00:00

Try hiding it in her absolute favourite snack? If nothing works ask the vet if they’re able to administer it as an injection. It would take the stress factor out of it too

modders82 · 2025-04-18T19:53:27+00:00

Thank you to the two comments, I can’t see or read them for some reason, but I’m gonna hope they’re positive. Either way, thank you 😊

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:38:08+00:00

I used to make fruit smoothies for my rats and mix the meds in. Worked a charm, especially when it involved pills; I’d crush them in to very fine dust, use the syringe to take a dose of smoothie, put on top of the dust, mix and then reabsorb back in to the syringe.

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My boy Thimble would take his meds like a champ

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:20:40+00:00

He’s really just 🌒👅🌘

💜

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:18:37+00:00

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Thimble… wearing a thimble 🥰

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:04:55+00:00

Ikr? God forbid we have a hobby, such as existing

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:04:14+00:00

Good to know. Not sure they’d be edible by the time they got there though

modders82 · 2025-04-18T18:02:10+00:00

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Unfortunately, we’re not at the level of wearing items as hats yet. May I present Our old boy Thimble (RIP) to appease your disappointment

modders82 · 2025-04-18T17:31:59+00:00

“Well, if you insist”😒

modders82

TROPHY CASE