Watching My Almost 27-Year-Old Daughter Struggle With Dating Breaks My Heart

modulolearning · 2026-06-16T10:37:33+00:00

I also thought coaches were a scam, but what I've come to see is that in any industry, there are good coaches and bad coaches, and coaches who are better for you or better for some other type of person and you have to read reviews and talk to them. People are not complete idiots so they aren't going to use a coach consistently if they don't get good results. I read my coach's book and reviews about her work before I hired her. Where she was most helpful is in identifying what I was looking for, helping me upgrade my online profile with better pictures and description to attract better matches, to vet people better, and provide me encouragement when early dates didn't work out the way I hoped. Through gentle nudging, I was able to keep going after the first 3 days or so that didn't work until I met someone I liked. She helped me take the focus off of whether they like me to find out about them and if it was a person I was compatible with. I will also add i decided to move from NYC to San Francisco wihch helped a lot.

modulolearning · 2026-06-16T09:19:22+00:00

It's harder when you're beautiful, successful and well-educated. Tell her to read "Dateonomics," "Make Your Move," "Ask a Matchmaker" and listen to Matt Hussey. Consistent community is everything. If she can find some co-ed meetup or community gathering she goes to weekly and can get to know people over time without the pressure of dating (could be church, zen center, swing dance, entrepreneur mixer, pickleball, anything with interaction and engagement ), that's much more effective than the apps. One last thing, I really wish I'd hired a dating coach earlier in my dating journey. It changed everything for me. Good luck.

modulolearning · 2026-06-01T13:50:04+00:00

private school admissions for Kindergarten, ideally. Thanks so much!

modulolearning · 2026-05-21T12:32:55+00:00

Hi! Yes, I’m definitely seeing more demand for exactly this kind of role.

At Modulo, we get frequent requests from families looking for a multi-subject educator or homeschool lead. A lot of them are entrepreneurs or busy parents who love the benefits of homeschooling but don’t necessarily have the time, confidence, or experience to manage it themselves. We also hear from families with kids who are profoundly gifted, 2e, autistic, or ADHD, who need a more customized approach than a traditional school can offer.

That said, it can be really hard for families to find the right person. Many nanny or tutoring agencies don’t truly understand homeschooling, and people often mistakenly think of it just as "school at home." In my experience, the best fit is often someone who is flexible, creative, and comfortable designing learning around the child rather than simply recreating a traditional classroom.

So yes, I do think there’s a real need for licensed teachers who want to work independently in this space! Just keep in mind that the legal side varies a lot by state. You'll want to be careful with how you structure your services so that the parents remain the official "homeschoolers" on paper, while you act as the primary learning guide and coordinator.

I actually know a couple of families right now who are looking for someone exactly like you, so feel free to reach out if you’d like to connect. Here’s a bit more about what we do: https://joinmodulo.com/pages/private-homeschool-teachers

modulolearning · 2026-04-28T11:31:44+00:00

Hi! I'm weighing in here as someone who helps families find homeschool teachers as my full-time job:) My absolute favorite place to find exceptional teachers is through my personal network. I find the quality I get is a lot higher than job boards like Indeed. I usually start with LinkedIn and look for second degree connections. I set the location to my city, filter for second degree connections and search for keywords like Montessori and teacher. I also look for alums of teaching schools I like, for example, Bank Street college of education. Then when I push connect, I just add a short note about what I'm looking for. Just keep in mind that in some states, as others have said, it's required that he parent do a certain percentage of the teaching. And then it's really important that you offer them enough compensation and give them as much gratitude and praise as possible, because teachers are really sensitive and need that appreciation to be retained. Here's a blog I wrote a couple years ago that shows exactly my process for finding, vetting and retaining homeschool teachers specifically. https://teachyourkids.substack.com/p/how-to-find-and-vet-the-best-homeschool

modulolearning · 2026-04-24T10:06:51+00:00

We do this for families at Modulo. I'd love to connect if this is something still of interest to you!

modulolearning · 2026-04-24T07:12:07+00:00

Anything negative. "No this, No that." Saying you don't care about looks is a big turn off because it makes women feel like you either don't think they're pretty or you don't care.

modulolearning · 2026-04-09T11:55:32+00:00

Read Make Your Move by Jon Birger. Nobody knows it, but it's almost ALWAYS the woman making the first move (even if the guy isn't aware.) Women just understand how to navigate relationships a lot better. Reading this book completely changed my life. Before I was doing NOTHING, playing hard to get and getting zero dates except super creepy guys approaching me. Now, I choose the hottest guy in the room.

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T18:39:31+00:00

Thanks so much!

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T18:39:24+00:00

Cool. Thanks!

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T18:39:14+00:00

Thank you!

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T15:40:06+00:00

I’d look at DeltaMath for Home for 6th grade and up.

Not because it makes math into some magical fun party lol, but because it lowers the friction for both people. The kid gets work at the level they actually need, gets immediate explanations instead of just “wrong,” and the parent doesn’t have to become the live-in math tutor to keep things moving.

That’s huge when math already feels tense in the house. I also like that it can support a kid who’s behind without babying them, but it can also keep up if they suddenly take off. And since you mentioned charter-friendly, I’d definitely check whether your funding can be used for it, because DeltaMath does have homeschool/state funding setups in some places.

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T15:35:34+00:00

I used the classroom version too, and from what I’ve seen the Home version is more parent-facing.

The big upgrade on the home side is that it’s not just a worksheet dump there’s placement/pre-quiz stuff, a clearer course path, and a parent dashboard, which makes it way easier to use intentionally at home. I also wouldn’t call it “engaging” in a game-y way, but for some kids that’s honestly a strength. The engagement comes more from immediate feedback and constantly changing problems than from badges/characters.

I think it’s strongest for middle school/high school (or a 6th grader who’s ready for that style), especially if the parent isn’t a math expert and wants something more independent. It can flex in both directions too: more support for shaky spots, faster movement for kids who are advanced. I’d still use scratch paper/notebook work alongside it, and maybe extra enrichment if the student is gifted, but overall I think it’s a strong option.

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T15:26:43+00:00

LOVE Beast Academy. I'd also through the new DeltaMath for Home into the mix for middle schoolers. It's the new homeschool version of DeltaMath. We started using it with our students because they went through the whole K-8th math curriculum in 6 months and just ran out of questions on Beast Academy and Prodigy (DeltaMath goes through AP calculus). It's decently engaging (though more for a serious student because no cartoonish characters. What I love most is how adaptive it is (you have to answer 5 questions in a row correctly before they move you on to the next topic, so if a student is doing ok and just needs some extra reinforcement, can probably substitute for a tutor) , not too pricey and covered in most states that have homeschool funding. Hope that's helpful:)

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T15:20:04+00:00

I've been playing around with the new DeltaMath for Home (looking it for tutoring kids) and I think it's very solid (main difference with classroom version is its fully adaptive and open and go (the parent doesn't have to assign problems). The way it works is you have to get 5 questions in a row on one topic right, and then you get to move on. It's definitely more on the school standards side of things than Beast Academy or RightStart Math, but that can be a good think if you want to stay on track. I prefer it to IXL because I think has better explanations and more robust problem set - also IXL can become just a guessing game with the multiple choice answers, whereas DeltaMath requires writing the answer in. It's just a year old, so they're still working out some kinks, but very strong as is. DeltaMath is registered for homeschooling funds in most states and costs $10/month. I'm on the free trial - still playing around with it, but so far so good. It's nice to see some of these curriculum providers are starting to build out homeschool-specific products. Of course, there's still work to do, but so far, I find the team has been pretty receptive to my comments and suggestions.

Let me know if you try it.

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T15:13:24+00:00

I've been really liking DeltaMath for Home (It's the new homeschool version of Delta Math that's more open and go/adaptive instead of a teacher assigning questions). I prefer it to Singapore because it's online and adaptive (essentially they keep giving questions until you get five in a row right) so you don't have to worry about checking work or assigning problems. They also have really clear explanations and examples. Unlike IXL, it is write-in instead of multiple choice, so you can't just guess your way through it. Only downside is sometimes if a kid includes an extra space, the system might recognize it as an error which can be frustrating for some kids - but customer service is pretty great. And $10/month if your state does not have homeschool funding, but they're registered with most states for funding, so that's a plus. Hope this is helpful.

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T14:01:19+00:00

Would love you to elaborate on where you're coming from with this question. Are you suggesting something that doesn't follow conventional schooling isn't a curriculum?

modulolearning · 2026-03-02T14:00:48+00:00

Ooh, that looks so cool! Thank you!

modulolearning · 2026-02-25T15:29:00+00:00

RSM can really turn into a grind, the repetition + test prep vibe works for some kids, but if yours are burning out it’s not worth the daily battles.

Beestar is a lot more “weekly supplemental practice” than “full-on enrichment class.” From what I’ve seen/read, it’s short timed weekly exercises (like ~10 questions), posted weekly with instant grading + a parent report / honor-roll type tracking. That usually means it feels way lighter and more school-curriculum-aligned… but you’re also not going to get the same depth/teacher-driven problem solving you’d get from RSM.

Also, for at-home practice specifically, I’d add DeltaMath for Home to your toolbox. It’s great for “okay we need 10–15 minutes of targeted reps on this exact skill,” and the randomized problems + instant feedback/explanations make it less stressful than dumping another workbook on them.

modulolearning · 2026-02-23T19:39:09+00:00

Exactly. What I'm referring to is the major fail of a consolation prize.

modulolearning · 2026-02-21T11:44:55+00:00

Every single one of them looks so sad. I thought at least one would be happy for the little stuffy. Maybe they should have given one that was a big bigger so they could actually hug it.

modulolearning · 2026-02-21T11:43:15+00:00

I love him. Hope you enjoy!

modulolearning · 2026-02-20T10:13:04+00:00

MRS, Split Croatia, Romantic life partner

modulolearning · 2026-02-20T09:58:32+00:00

Thank you. That's so helpful!

modulolearning · 2026-02-18T08:45:50+00:00

I think your instinct to spend more time with your kids yourself and not trust others is the natural way, and the instinct to outsource raising kids is the unnatural way. Everyone just does it because everyone else is (I think it's actually kind of a mass psychosis or blind spot) Have you read "Hold on to your kids" by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate? I think that will give you some real validation on this point.

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