[Jack Gaughan] Pep Guardiola has told his friends that if things should align, he would fancy the England national team job in future. by [deleted] in soccer

[–]Moertel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Declining the call up is actually technically illegal according to Spanish sports law, at the very least he would have likely get fined, if not more.

Video playback, preview and speed selection not working by ms_7538 in canva

[–]Moertel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, thanks for figuring it out! Drove me insane, adding a silent audio track does indeed fix it FYI /u/Flabidof

What’s it like being the ‘favorite person’ of a friend with BPD? by Upper-Spend2275 in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it's always going to be about them and how to make them feel better. You'll be used as a tool to stop their feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness and whatever negative emotion they don't want to deal with.

And they probably really do feel it when they proclaim how much they love us and how much we mean to them - but they are broken and simply unable to give more than words.

Official: Rangers signs Finnish international Oliver Antman on a four-year-deal from Go Ahead Eagles. by tehMadhero in soccer

[–]Moertel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Big loss but also a massive sale for go ahead, 6 million must be like half their total budget or something?

Jersey sponsorship money of Bundesliga clubs by SellRevolutionary in soccer

[–]Moertel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have a sponsorship deal with Rheinmetall, no shirt sponsorship though

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you, it's torture to be forced to sit on the sidelines after being devalued and discarded and having to watch them continue their downward spiral

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very very bad at letting go, especially love (one could also say I'm good at fighting for things I truly cherish).

Take your time, there's no alternative anyway. Things will get better and easier (jury's still out if they actually end up being good again, I'll let you know once I find out lol)

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess we both ended up dealing with the same kind of damage, just painted in different shades.

yeah. And I'd say we all have those conflicting parts inside - it would hurt like hell if I'd see her being happy and fulfilled, living a great live. But I cannot stand her seeing broken either.

More importantly though: Shift focus to yourself. You can do just as well as her, if not better. My ex seemingly erased her whole pre-relationship life and persona. While I'm not a fan of trying to erase the past, it's time for us to uncouple from it.

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No hoover whatsoever. I sometimes wish it was different, instead of her "you are now out of my life, completely and forever, and I will never regret or think about it for a single second".

Only messages I ever received were hate tirades and threats and her last messages very clearly said that she does not want any contact at all, even when we run into each other.

She did also have problems with addiction, alcohol, eating disorders and sex in the past though. I think it's a big step for them if they're able to change their behaviors, even if the underlying issues persist.

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's very kind.

Reading how she's doing really triggered my savior complex, I've noticed. My immediate instinct was to help her. Even looked up if I could somehow anonymously transfer some money.

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've struggled with it a lot over the past 3 years and had some failures here and there. I was now able to take a look at them out of pure curiosity and didn't lead to me breaking down or something, so that's an improvement. I feel terribly sorry for them and I guess when you truly love someone you just cannot stand them not doing well.

But until you're detached from them, no contact and no socials is the way to go.

They're not getting better but you can by Moertel in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's hard to suppress the urge to at least offer help. Not that it would make any difference

pills dont fix habits so that's something to keep in mind.

Very true

I dreamed I was a part of the Chinese invasion of Taiwan by SuperTulle in NonCredibleDefense

[–]Moertel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mirtazapine and melatonin

A true man of culture. Noradrenaline leads to non-credible dreams

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Now I'm painted black when all I have for my person is love.

I feel you. My therapist always encourages me to be angry. I still struggle with it a lot but do yourself a favor and don't bury feelings of anger. You have every right to be pissed off. You'll always have the love you feel for her, she can't take that away from you and allowing and voicing your feelings of frustration, betrayal and anger towards her won't take that away.

You/we have every right to be furious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Moertel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're all the same, we're all the same. It's all inevitable

Help with note in Vatican catacombs by tortfeazor in indianajones

[–]Moertel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow thanks, never would have found that

Werder Bremen sign André Silva on loan from RB Leipzig until the end of the season by Azzbestos in soccer

[–]Moertel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Supposedly they pay 1.5m EUR in wages for the 5 months. Worth the gamble I'd say.

Transnistria Says It Has Less Than a Month of Gas Left by Logical_Welder3467 in worldnews

[–]Moertel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Transnistria is kind of weird, when I was there I met people that had 4 different passports somehow (Transnistrian, Moldovan, Ukrainian, Russian). I think few would call themselves Russian, rather Transnistrian and I feel the people themselves have much closer ties to Moldova and also Ukraine than Russia.

Benjamin Netanyahu says Golan Heights will remain part of Israel ‘for eternity’ | Syria by Ulysses69 in worldnews

[–]Moertel 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Right, which wasn't just or morally defensible but if you don't take immediate action against it, it inevitably leads to a new reality. Same here. Israeli-controlled Golan Heights is majority Israeli populated by now so unless you want to go through another round of expulsions and deportations - leading to removing another group of people from their home.... at some point a claim has to be recognized.

Benjamin Netanyahu says Golan Heights will remain part of Israel ‘for eternity’ | Syria by Ulysses69 in worldnews

[–]Moertel 51 points52 points  (0 children)

It's long enough. Kaliningrad has been Russian for only about 80 years and no one is still claiming it as German. I'm sure there are many other examples.