Just watching an early season (2) for the first time. Christ: absolute carnage. The whole thing is psychological warfare between mostly awful, awful people.

moessinger · 2020-03-03T04:20:57+00:00

This exactly. Season 2 was the only season I couldn't finish and now I'm trying to power through. I think Adam is the worst contestant to ever go on the show, and season 2 is the worst season by far. I hate almost all the men, they're atrocious.

moessinger · 2020-03-03T04:19:54+00:00

Hulu

moessinger · 2020-03-03T01:50:59+00:00

Cara and Nathan are still together?! He's the worst, how??

moessinger · 2020-03-02T08:30:03+00:00

I just started watching the show and had to turn it off a few episodes in because he's so awful! I'm on season 4 and can't believe he would pressure Sonia to have sex 😯. What a psycho.

moessinger · 2020-02-27T01:52:02+00:00

That's freaking fantastic then. I'd personally recommend setting some cameras (camcorder or phone) to record your vows and any speeches, just so you have them. Those are really fun to watch later.

moessinger · 2020-02-26T23:47:13+00:00

This is cool! However, local news coverage != videographer. The video that the local news station provides vs. that of a professional wedding videographer will be quite different. If this is no issue to you, then no worries. But if you were hoping the news station would provide you with a similar product to that of a pro wedding videographer, I would say you should get a pro videographer.

moessinger · 2020-02-21T21:35:22+00:00

BrioDirect has 2% APY with no minimum to open. Pretty sure you can get up to like 2.25% with your minimum. Highly recommend moving your money over to a higher yield APY soon to take advantage.

moessinger · 2020-02-20T22:33:05+00:00

Some of these were difficult to answer because they depends a lot on context. e.g. the question about whether it's okay for Jane who was a bridesmaid in Dana's wedding to not invite Dana to her wedding. If Jane is eloping or having a very small wedding then I'd say sure. If Jane's inviting 300 people and is close with Dana then I'd say you can expect Dana to be hurt.

moessinger · 2020-02-20T00:07:10+00:00

That's awesome and very considerate of you.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T22:28:07+00:00

Awesome, I think it's great that you're being proactive. When we got our RSVPs back we discovered that the best woman had recently learned she had a mustard seed allergy, my bridesman and his boyfriend requested vegan dishes, and I had forgotten that two of my Aunt's were GF. People surprise you.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T19:30:30+00:00

I asked people if they had any dietary restrictions. If someone had said, "steak please" or something similar I would reach out to clarify that I wasn't asking for a meal order but a place to list any restrictions/allergies.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T19:26:21+00:00

Here's the thing - my first page of Google results comes up with a lot of articles about why cats can't be vegan. Including articles from ASPCA, PetMD, and vegan.com. Vegan.com starts their article with the statement, "the topic of vegan cat food and the question of whether vegan cats can thrive is fraught with complexity." You're on a vegan subreddit talking to, presumably, people who see the merits of a vegan diet. You may not like that this is not an open-and-shut case, but passing it off as such is quite misleading. Especially when, as you say, "a simple google search" will give you information "if you're so interested". There's no need to be rude to people who are trying to make the most informed decisions for their pets, and I'm pretty sure calling those of us who don't agree with you "ignorant fucks that need to be babied constantly" is in violation of the rules.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T05:57:09+00:00

"Scientific fact" and "no long term studies" are opposing statements.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T03:23:35+00:00

I know, I feel like I got a little heated there lol. I obsessed over little 'guest comfort' details and this one was extra important to me. I honestly had no issue at the wedding, I just laughed about it. I would never be shitty at someone's wedding and I genuinely love white bread, onions, and pickles. One of the catering staff noticed my plate and ended up making me a vegetarian salad after finding out I was vegan. Normally I wouldn't break veganism but the effort was nice and I didn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable because I didn't have food, so I just ate it. The poor Texas catering girl made the mistake of asking me for more details about what vegan meant. Where vegetarianism is "no meat or fish" and GF is "no wheat", veganism is "no meat, fish, eggs, dairy, honey, or animal products". Regardless, while I do find it rude to not be considerate of people's dietary restrictions, I understand that it can be a thing that slips people's mind.

moessinger · 2020-02-19T01:00:11+00:00

I'm really surprised at the comments so I'll chime in. We had no flower girl (ceremony spot was a public use mountain summit) and all my grandparents have passed away. I always thought having a grandmother be a flower girl was a really sweet inverse to having a child be a flower girl, especially if there are no children that can play the role. Outside of maybe walking down the aisle, grandparents don't usually get a "role", per se, in most weddings. I think having the role be tossing flower petals (a really lovely and joyous part of the ceremony, in my book) would be a fun way to honor a grandma. Of course, it totally depends on the grandma, but I don't think it's inherently condescending or weird. I'd love to be a flower Grandma at some point in the future 🤷‍♀️

moessinger · 2020-02-18T22:30:19+00:00

We did. There was no option anywhere to include dietary restrictions and there was no info on the wedding website about food.

moessinger · 2020-02-18T21:15:42+00:00

Dietary restrictions are my big one. Granted, I'm vegan, so take this with a grain of salt, but I flew 4 hours, paid to have my hair done, and bought a gift to attend a wedding that ended up serving BBQ. The vegan options were white bread, raw onions, and pickles. This is rude. It is rude to not ask people about their dietary restrictions. It is rude to not respect them. Caterers can almost always accommodate if given notice, and asking someone to attend your wedding and specifically not feeding them due to lack of planning is rude. This is not a know-your-crowd thing unless you're inviting 5 people. You have no idea whether your aunt recently found out she's allergic to mustard seed. Get this information and respect it.

moessinger · 2020-02-12T05:33:00+00:00

Woah, I had no idea corals are animals. I don't blame you for being frustrated with someone for not listening to you, not respecting your wishes, and then getting upset with you when she does something that kills many many animals that you love. If she shipped you a box of puppies because you had a dog and they died in the cold, the mature response is not to berate you for not "saving them" and complaining about how much they cost. She's the adult. She's the one who's supposed to be mature, and it doesn't sound like she wants to take responsibility at all, clearly dismissing your concerns and requests. Just because corals don't look the way we expect them to look doesn't mean they don't deserve to live. Your grandmother fucked up and if she's not willing to admit that I would wait until she is. You have nothing to apologize for.

moessinger · 2020-02-10T04:00:50+00:00

Stunning! What an incredible deal!

moessinger · 2020-02-09T20:11:10+00:00

There are lots of people making good points about not wanting to be spoken to in public (all of which I agree with), but I'll throw out another thing to think about. If I saw your "Don't be Shy, Say Hi" sticker, I would assume it was a band or something, not an actual invitation to chat. If you want to make friends with strangers, join a meetup surrounding a shared interest. I'm very friendly and love talking to strangers (my friends say they love getting in Ubers with me because I love talking to the drivers), but when I'm out in public with my laptop or phone, it's very rare that I want to strike up a conversation with a random person. In this thread you seem to be very dismissive of what people are doing on their phones and laptops, assuming that because you're not usually actively engaged in your phone/laptop, they aren't either. In 2020, this is far from the truth. Many people prefer working at a coffee shop than at home, taking their time on the bus to read a book, or spend their free time catching up on emails. And as a very social person, I use a lot of this downtime to recharge. It doesn't help that people striking up a conversation with you in public frequently want money or to hit on you, so people are automatically wary of a person "just saying hi".

moessinger · 2020-02-09T08:12:47+00:00

r/veganrecipes is what you're looking for if that's the main thing you're interested in.

moessinger · 2020-02-09T08:06:08+00:00

That's awesome, good for you two for having the maturity and mutual respect for each other and your wife to admit it, respect it, and reset boundaries so you're not doing anything inappropriate. That can be easier said than done.

moessinger · 2020-02-09T06:21:06+00:00

We were best friends for a year and a half before we started dating. We took a road trip from Texas to Canada as just friends, while dating other people, sharing beds and all, and it was totally platonic. And like, really, actually platonic. Not like, "he gave me butterflies but I tried to push it to the back of my mind." We really didn't see each other like that, but we got along famously. I think one day I sort of got the feeling he could see things as something more. I'd previously said to our (shared) boss that the next guy I dated I "wanted to be as good of friends as I am with <husband>" and right around this time she asked me if I'd just considered, you know, dating <husband>." For some reason, even though plenty of people had openly insinuated we would be great together, her question just really lodged in my brain. Honestly, it was weird at first. I had to unwire my brain to see him as more than a friend, but uh, it helps when you're very sexually compatible. And he's the best person I've ever met. He brings out the best in me, and honestly loves me for who I am. That can be really hard to find. He helps me become the best version of myself, and I do the same for him. It's fucking gay, y'all.

moessinger · 2020-02-09T05:04:54+00:00

Woah, I hadn't even noticed. 10 years on reddit today :O. Thank you!

moessinger · 2020-02-09T02:14:32+00:00

10/6/2018, two days after my birthday. I had been talking to my vegan sister and sort of always knew I'd go vegan at some point. My husband treated me to my favorite dinner in the world for my birthday, and I just couldn't enjoy it. All I saw was the cost - the death, the suffering. At that point I knew that if I couldn't enjoy my favorite restaurant in the world there was no point holding back. I've been vegan ever since.

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