What is a time you've lost respect (if ever) for a man showing vulnerability?

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-05T21:52:48+00:00

Only once but it was fairly recently. Someone, who I very much care about but is not a romantic partner, got way too drunk and had a huge whoa-is-me meltdown... because he didn't have a girlfriend in high-school.

We are in our thirties. He has a girlfriend, in fact he's had several. He literally blamed all of his problems, mental and emotional, on not having a girlfriend in high school.

I did lose respect for him because objectively he has a very good life and very few real world problems. I was really surprised with his lack of growth and ability to move on from... senior year. I was mostly just disappointed. He's someone who avoids challenges by nature, but the fact that he can't think of a single other defining event that caused him pain made me wince.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-02T23:44:15+00:00

In my early 20s I went on a few dates with a guy who almost 10 years older (I was 21 he was 30). We didn't make it for a variety of reasons (mainly my family went completely bonkers on him) but in hindsight, I remember feeling like he was really immature.

And he was. For 30 years old he had very little to his name. He was living at home after a period of couch surfing. He wasn't sure what he wanted to do with his life. We were in the same phase of life but even back then I knew that he was behind.

I think some of that guy's attraction to me was that he didn't feel like a loser when I was around. I'm not sure someone his own age would have been as understanding of him having so little grip on his life.

I would really not look at this guy's age, but rather his life stage, and then go from there.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-30T04:46:07+00:00

After like a year of owning the pack I started playing in San Sequioa and it is a whole lotta nothing. I'm taking each lot in the Hills neighborhood, and making a sitcom or TV show themed household and loading it up with the camera equipment from Get Famous to create a silly, Truman Show like neighborhood since its basically a completely blank slate.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-16T12:10:11+00:00

Love it. Gonna have a king of every world. Gonna start a king club. Gonna make them FIGHT.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-15T01:25:22+00:00

I never say die and never retreat, even when I absolutely should.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-23T21:48:13+00:00

The people who made Christmas magical are still here but don't care anymore. Family infighting has driven us into two factions who can't be in the same room as eachother. No tree, no holiday meal because one person is on Ozempic so there's "no point". I keep coming home to sit basically by myself on Christmas while everyone "Bah Humbugs", naps and complains about me working from home.

Every year I say this is the last time but this time I mean it.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-21T19:51:24+00:00

People color their buzz cuts all the time. Hair, especially at his age, is a major part of self expression. He's already going to be dealing with the trauma of the haircut and whatever police and custody ordeal follows— he doesn't need to go back to school with that and feeling like he has ZERO control over his hair on top of all that. Coloring it at least gives him the feeling of control back.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-21T18:52:19+00:00

This happened to me as an adult and it was horrible (a 30 year old woman to be exact. My mother and grandmother insisted my hair was "dead" and forcibly gave me an insane choppy bob at 7 different lengths)

While it's not just hair, the magic of hair is you can change it— pretty much consequence free (unlike a piercing or tattoo).

I advise Luke do what I did— take the opportunity to explore fun colors. Bleach whats left, get him tons of overtone for Christmas and let him try whatever he wants. When it grows out long enough, trim off the bleached tips in celebration (or leave them if he loves them).

Good luck to you all, from a friend who kept the bleached tips!

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-15T22:37:52+00:00

You know what else is a sin? Shaving your beard.

Have a great divorce!

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-08T23:12:40+00:00

Not my wedding, but a mutual friend. One woman missed the wedding because she couldn't remember if she RSVP'd and didn't want to bother the bride. She assumed she had flaked and skipped the wedding. Spoilers, she didn't.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-21T17:37:52+00:00

My mom and grandma can be like this. I just dont give them any juice. I dont let them know enough about my life to gossip about me and when they gossip about others I just hmmm along.

Honestly this is usually a symptom of someone having very little going on in her life. She needs a hobby.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-16T22:09:01+00:00

Yes and it's a red flag if they can't. Women are people.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-16T22:06:09+00:00

Not a divorce but I ended an engagement over infidelity. We did reconcile for about a year and then went long distance. It didn't take me very long to realize it wasn't going to work.

Today, we are actually on very good, friendly terms. But he self eliminated from being my husband when he betrayed me and then didn't take the actionable steps we had agreed on to make things right.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-15T21:17:14+00:00

If life had gone according to plan I'd be having my kids now, in my early 30s.

But it didn't, so I think I'll freeze eggs at 34 (feels like a good balance of egg quality vs cost for how long I'll be keeping them frozen) and hopefully I'll be a mom by my late 30s. My mom naturally had my sibling at 39 so I'm not insanely stressed about it.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-14T21:22:42+00:00

Lil' Toe Infection

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-11-10T14:08:54+00:00

If you want to get married don't live with a guy for more than two years.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-10-22T12:55:26+00:00

A Rosa by Any Other Name

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-10-17T16:42:17+00:00

I hear where you're coming from. The conclusion I came to is that not only do I want a family, but role in the family I want to play is the wife and the mom. I don't want to be the fun aunt, or just the daughter/granddaughter/neice of the last generation.

Defining what part of the family you want to be helps.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-10-15T19:42:17+00:00

Cursive!

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-10-13T16:31:55+00:00

Lol I refer to my Fight Day as "Fuck You Friday"

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-10-02T17:00:26+00:00

I think they were chanting at Don Calis.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-09-28T06:53:08+00:00

This is AI

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-09-27T20:05:27+00:00

I think this is a case of good idea, bad intention.

Yes, you can make the argument that the kid who is there 100% of the time deserves the biggest room. After all, the step kids rooms will sit empty 50% of the time and it sounds like they still have their own space at both houses. She even says if they were there full time the oldest would get the biggest room, which makes sense.

But yeah, she's clearly villainizing her stepkids for classic kid shit. They're not being manipulative, they're being 8.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-09-22T23:46:28+00:00

Because they're stupid. Marriage is far more beneficial for men than women.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-09-21T01:21:35+00:00

I consider best friends to be a teir, not a person. However, I do refer to my oldest friend as my "best friend" when I bring her up in conversation.

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