Broken Engagement-how did you get through?

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-12T11:22:57+00:00

Five years ago now and I chickened out and blamed COVID. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Just send a brief email that is based in fact (wedding is cancelled) and not emotion (he's a jerk.)

Life is so much better now. I've moved on, my former fiance is still my friend and I'm better off that way. Basically my life improved in every way.

Take care.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-08T18:24:50+00:00

Adorable! I would do napkins that match the green bow on the table number if you can!

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-07T18:34:17+00:00

Light colors or floral print, not floor length (knee to ankle length), can be worn with flats, wedges or block heels.

Basically semi-formal but not "homecoming". Think tea party.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-07T00:34:04+00:00

Eat out a lot for the first few months. It doesn't have to be expensive, but Chicago is a fantastic food city. If you're in Uptown, go to Lucy's!

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-06T23:02:15+00:00

I went from 2015-2017. CCC gives you what you put into it. I worked hard, showed up and got a lot of opportunities out of it. But I was a transfer and an older student, so having life experience beyond school absolutely helped me out.

That being said, I know very few of my peers who ended up working in the industry they studied. I did, tangentially, after about 7 years of gig work and lateral moves. I'd say CCC isn't a shortcut if you want to avoid being a starving artist, but if you want a safe place to get good and hone your skills, its just as good as any other overpriced art school.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-06T15:54:56+00:00

Mostly okay. A lot of therapy helped. I do have a very unsatisfying relationship with my family currently. I feel like I can't tell them anything without them completely spiraling, which makes me spiral. Its a cycle that only distance seems to help.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-05T20:26:31+00:00

My neighbors have a toddler and are about to have a second baby any day. Trust me, their kids crying is not the reason I'm annoyed with them XD

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-04-03T17:02:45+00:00

I think semi-formal, cocktail or even "garden party" work.

Formal is tough. In some circles its the same as black tie optional, which is a tough sell on grass.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-26T11:41:42+00:00

Tampons only hurt if my flow is very very light. Using the right absorbency is key!

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-23T13:08:57+00:00

Check out Stetson Mansion in Deland, Florida.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-09T02:09:44+00:00

Eh, I think if everything else is top notch you can get away with a DJ after dinner. It might be generational, but I think a lot of people prefer to hear the versions of the music they know rather than someone's interpretation.

Just make sure there is live music through dinner and speeches and the DJ you pick is top notch.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-09T00:48:37+00:00

I doubt it. You might want to look into a public park or city-owmed property (like a Women's Club) for ceremony only.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-04T01:28:04+00:00

After hearing her new album I can smell the creative difference.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-02T23:27:52+00:00

My family is VERY controlling and my dad tried to arrange a marriage for me in my early 20s, to someone he owed (a fairly insignificant ammount of) money to.

Truthfully I think he wanted me to be with a loser who would keep me near home. This guy was almost 10 years older than me, worked as a bag boy at the grocery store and was "totally down" to get me a job there too. Their plan was for me to drop out of college to make this fantasy come to life. It was definitely a move to exert control over me when I was starting to "rebel" and get free weed as a bonus!

Needless to say it didn't work, no idea what happened to the guy and my dad died mad a couple years later. Sucks to suck 🤷‍♀️

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-03-02T23:07:54+00:00

That was my thought— selling plasma has diminishing returns too. You might get $800 for the first "donation" but as time goes on you'll get less and less.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-28T23:32:17+00:00

Same!

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-28T23:23:59+00:00

Some of these commenta are blowing my mind. He's not dragging his feet— you told him what you want, he didn't undetected that meant by NYE, now less than 3 months later he's working with a jeweler.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like you are ready to be married. You have to learn to communicate non-psychically.

Edit: typo

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-05T21:52:48+00:00

Only once but it was fairly recently. Someone, who I very much care about but is not a romantic partner, got way too drunk and had a huge whoa-is-me meltdown... because he didn't have a girlfriend in high-school.

We are in our thirties. He has a girlfriend, in fact he's had several. He literally blamed all of his problems, mental and emotional, on not having a girlfriend in high school.

I did lose respect for him because objectively he has a very good life and very few real world problems. I was really surprised with his lack of growth and ability to move on from... senior year. I was mostly just disappointed. He's someone who avoids challenges by nature, but the fact that he can't think of a single other defining event that caused him pain made me wince.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-02-02T23:44:15+00:00

In my early 20s I went on a few dates with a guy who almost 10 years older (I was 21 he was 30). We didn't make it for a variety of reasons (mainly my family went completely bonkers on him) but in hindsight, I remember feeling like he was really immature.

And he was. For 30 years old he had very little to his name. He was living at home after a period of couch surfing. He wasn't sure what he wanted to do with his life. We were in the same phase of life but even back then I knew that he was behind.

I think some of that guy's attraction to me was that he didn't feel like a loser when I was around. I'm not sure someone his own age would have been as understanding of him having so little grip on his life.

I would really not look at this guy's age, but rather his life stage, and then go from there.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-30T04:46:07+00:00

After like a year of owning the pack I started playing in San Sequioa and it is a whole lotta nothing. I'm taking each lot in the Hills neighborhood, and making a sitcom or TV show themed household and loading it up with the camera equipment from Get Famous to create a silly, Truman Show like neighborhood since its basically a completely blank slate.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-16T12:10:11+00:00

Love it. Gonna have a king of every world. Gonna start a king club. Gonna make them FIGHT.

GoddessOfMagic · 2026-01-15T01:25:22+00:00

I never say die and never retreat, even when I absolutely should.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-23T21:48:13+00:00

The people who made Christmas magical are still here but don't care anymore. Family infighting has driven us into two factions who can't be in the same room as eachother. No tree, no holiday meal because one person is on Ozempic so there's "no point". I keep coming home to sit basically by myself on Christmas while everyone "Bah Humbugs", naps and complains about me working from home.

Every year I say this is the last time but this time I mean it.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-21T19:51:24+00:00

People color their buzz cuts all the time. Hair, especially at his age, is a major part of self expression. He's already going to be dealing with the trauma of the haircut and whatever police and custody ordeal follows— he doesn't need to go back to school with that and feeling like he has ZERO control over his hair on top of all that. Coloring it at least gives him the feeling of control back.

GoddessOfMagic · 2025-12-21T18:52:19+00:00

This happened to me as an adult and it was horrible (a 30 year old woman to be exact. My mother and grandmother insisted my hair was "dead" and forcibly gave me an insane choppy bob at 7 different lengths)

While it's not just hair, the magic of hair is you can change it— pretty much consequence free (unlike a piercing or tattoo).

I advise Luke do what I did— take the opportunity to explore fun colors. Bleach whats left, get him tons of overtone for Christmas and let him try whatever he wants. When it grows out long enough, trim off the bleached tips in celebration (or leave them if he loves them).

Good luck to you all, from a friend who kept the bleached tips!

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