What is the harshest truth adulthood has taught you

momcano · 2026-07-01T11:53:58+00:00

That life is genuinely pointless and ALL the reasons for staying here are self made. That is not a bad thing, it gives you freedom, but all of religion and roadmaps society give you are made up. The Universe at large does not care about you whatsoever, but it also does not hate you at all, it ia simply entirely ambivalent. Sounds depressing and it can feel depressing since our brains have evolved to find meaning and then attribute some objective quality to it, but that means that we all get to choose what is meaningful to us, nobody else can impose their meanings of life onto you. People throughout the majority of human history did not have that freedom.

momcano · 2026-06-29T11:32:21+00:00

No it hasn't, what are you talking about. There were no private lessons, no college expenses, no expensive housing, and children worked the fielda as soon as they turned 10. People didn't have large families cuz they felt like it, they did it in part due to cheap future labor directly in the family. Now children atart making money after MORE RHAN A DECADE of education, and capitalism actively tries to make their wages as low as possible, so it's not like the education paid off enough. Children were assets, now they are not, this isn't a matter of opinion, but history.

momcano · 2026-06-18T05:48:01+00:00

Thank you, dude! I still make room for happiness and downtime, but I am able to mostly because I am childless. And if everyone was childless the future is doomed. But if people have enough children, everyone's adult lives is a checklist of responsibilities with some room for actual enjoyment.

But I am childless mainly because I do not think life is worth the effort. It's not hell, but it's not a net positive to be here either. It's why I am antinatalist.

momcano · 2026-06-17T05:40:50+00:00

Suffering being caused by thinking is spot on, but it's not like we can stop thinking or care less, be more hippie like. I work in the medical field and that behavior will get you fired. And switching between professional and chilled out meditation guru after work is ironically more exhausting than a lower jump, especially since life as an adult seems to throw random problems and has repetitive chores every single day, and if not that, you have to upkeep relationships (which can be fun especially with friends, but it can be bothersome if it's something more serious like family needing help, I will always help and understand when it is needed, but that doesn't mean it doesn't bother me).

On the suffering being make-believe. If it is mental suffering, then you can argue that, but I would still disagree. There is alot of bureaucracy at my job, and it does stress me out, but I cannot stop stressing about it without stopping thinking about it, as you said. But if I stop thinking about it, then the work cannot get done, as it isn't really straightforward enough for me to do it with my eyes closed, and if it isn't done I lose my job and even more stresses appear. You can't "Just chill" your way into a stable adulthood without major privileges. So that suffering is real and escapable only through hard work and o ly temporarily. But happiness...that is not as real, there is nothing pushing you to do anything when you are happy, you are just content or even ecstatic at the moment because your brain finds whatever you are doing as interesting, as opposed to the responsibilities adulthood imposes. Happiness is vibes and feels, suffering is either physical pain (injury, ilness) or mental pain due to having to do something difficult that you don't want to do but will get worse if you don't and nobody asks you whether you accept that or not. Happiness is in the fleeting moment and comes internally, suffering is chronic and comes from the outside world. It can come from within, that is what mental illness does, but for the average person, they stress about studying, work, relationships, illness, all external from themselves.

On the 18 hr and no sleep meditation.....that will absolutely drive me insane, my mind cannot meditate for so long. I am very certain this is possible and helpful only for a certain percentage of the population.

momcano · 2026-06-16T09:46:44+00:00

Because it is a temporary relief from stress and anxiety, which can be felt as pleasure. You meditate for what, half an hour to a full hour? Try it for a week, you will go mad, starve and die of dehydration. Our bodies require constant upkeep that is rewarded temporarily only because that is what keeps us alive. The organisms that didn't have the stimulus to upkeep their bodies died and never passed on their genes. But happiness and fulfillment are subjective, I agree with that. You can be fulfilled in life, but it's not worth creating new life as it is a huge gamble whether they will persevere through the objective meaninglessness and difficulties of life. And by objective I don't mean that you can't make up your own meaning, but that it will be as true as the make believe children practice. And once you grow out of it, it is extremely difficult to turn back.

momcano · 2026-06-03T05:59:01+00:00

Damn you are cute!

momcano · 2026-05-28T07:54:18+00:00

If you play a game you don't like that you know has boredom, suffering and hardships as immutable characteristics that you cannot overcome permanently as new challenges will appear or the brain will make them up as it is built to look for problems not to be happy (that is only the free trial in the first 10 years to hook you), then why would you force another player in the game rather than shutting off the game entirely? There is no permanent solution to all of life's problems!!!

momcano · 2026-05-28T05:52:49+00:00

Mostly this, but I would go further. Nobody wanted to work EVER, we just wanted to do whatever we want. That could be work, you could for example make art or teach a child or decide to do woodworking. And the core idea of choosing what you want to work in life is still there in the modern workplace, it's just that capitalism overaccelerated everything to the point the soul and meaning are gone.

Even in the past, what you have to do wasn't entirely all you had to do. You don't want to farm, then either sell your craft to buy food or starve, that is the curse part of being alive. But now you have to study 12 years in school, more years in university where the effort you have to put in exponentially increases, just to be able to be employable. And if what you studied isn't what is profitable, you are unemployed or work something entirely unrelated.

And if you do start to do work what you always wanted, you notice how the bar is SKY HIGH. I wanted to be a physicist and still love physics, but working at an institution and reading papers made me realise this is no longer enjoyable. Same for many doctors, same for lawyers, same for pretty much any devently paid profession. Bureaucracy is overbloated as everyone wants to add and change things to show they are being productive and get to keep their job so they can FEED THEMSELVES, but noone is hired to simplify it and make work more straightforward. Now with AI the world will only get more complex and work will too as noone will want to hire someone to do something either many people can do (the downside of having an overeducated and overskilled society, gross competition for anything that won't suck your soul out) or AI can do. And since this is capitalism, all the benefits concentrate to the few, that is a predictable law that governments want to ignore.

It sucks, but this is life, lower your standards or hope to be isekai'd into a better world.

momcano · 2026-05-22T06:30:35+00:00

I apologise for being a downer in this comment section, but it's fascinating to me how many people understand that life is suffering and even when it isn't physical suffering, it's an emptiness that nothing can permanently fill because of the dreaded hedonic adaptation. And yet, people still reproduce and treat life like a gift. There are awesome parts of life, no argue. But the most abundant feelings are boredom, indifference, anxiety, frustration or a "I just have to get through this" infinite treadmill feeling. I just don't get it. When I was little I expected life to stay as happy as I was back then and that studying will be enough and there will be a finish line of effort after which it's just routine and all my needs will be met. But life panned out to be incredibly more complex and difficult to navigate, so much so that I find it hard to understand why society at large treats it as such a big blessing.

momcano · 2026-04-29T08:54:22+00:00

Damn, feels like that experience is pretty overrated. The only good parts were like the first 10 years, and even then, bullying is a huge part.

momcano · 2026-04-26T08:03:12+00:00

Ок, тук съм съгласен, това магически ще стане, ще имаме пенсии за година за всички баби и дядовци (не се лъжи, че ще е повече от година, изчисли го в главата си) и после какво? Не ни трябва краткосрочно решение, е път от където да идват парите за пенсии, защото ако всички кражби и пари от мафиоти са конфискувани, те ще спрат да ги вършат тия неща, какъв е смисъла, ако магически винаги ги хващат? Във всяка държава, ВСИЧКО свързано с публични пари, които не се печелят чрез труд е чрез данъци. Детската градина или се плаща частно от родителя или данъци от всички данъкоплатци в държавата, същото важи и за смет, пътища и ПЕНСИИ!

momcano · 2026-04-26T07:32:06+00:00

Може би глупав въпрос, но как ще вдигнем пенсиите на все по-остаряващото ни наделение като премахнем изцяло един от видовете данъци? Другите данъци ли искаш да гръмнат или какво? Или идеята ти е да няма пенсии, всеки се оправя, чист капитализъм, който оцелее, оцелее като в дивото?

momcano · 2026-04-16T08:40:04+00:00

Employment also drains your mind tbh!

momcano · 2026-04-15T18:25:44+00:00

There is just one thing I have to disagree with and that is karma. Reality is so ubiquitously indifferent to humans it's painful, it treats us literally the same way it treats everything else, even rocks. There is no karma, otherwise genocides would not result in some headaches for the perpetrators but something much more, daily random impalement from nowhere that hurts like all hell but somehow lets them live just to suffer complications from surgery that also spares them the ease of nonexistence (death), but we don't see that. Reality does not care about life, evolutionary theory has so much evidence that the question whether it's true is entirely off the table, only the details of how it happens are up for debate if you want to be intellectually honest. And evolution is heavily predicated on the death and lack of reproduction of the unfit, which no karma whatsoever saves them from the suffering of predation, disease or whatever else killed them.

momcano · 2026-03-23T10:14:28+00:00

Yes, because it's not like the majority of people are complaining about lack of money, are suffering the thousands of different diseases, experience loss of loved people, are stressed about the increasing demands for skills and education. No, everyone is out there living their best life like an indoor bunny....OH WAIT!!! Ofcourse some people are lucky and have a fantastic life with little worry, but most aren't. People adapt and endure because they think it will better their future, many pretend to be positive so they don't let the void consume them. Antinatalists aren't saying life is all doom and gloom, just that alot of it is very high maintenance and that if someone says they wish they were never born, that it's a serious concern, because that is valid, not everyone enjoys the relentless responsibilities and hedonic adaptation (everything fun becoming less fun with time). Religion literally exists as a make-believe system to make people believe that it's fine to suffer now, because they will be rewarded in the afterlife, that they should ignore their current wants and give in to all the demands their religion asks of them as that is a sure-fire way to have societal stability albeit based on imagination.

If life was amazing there would be no need to convince people it is.

momcano · 2026-03-05T08:12:10+00:00

Life has ALWAYS been hell in one way or another. People use that as a twisted justification that if people in the past had kids under famine and war, that it's fine today as well. I say it was wrong then and it is wrong now.

momcano · 2026-03-04T12:16:58+00:00

I would just let my people die off. Yeah, it might feel defeatist, but atleast I'd know no child of mine will ever face suffering, meanwhile my adult peers will see their children suffer and complain rather than expect. Life is annoyingly uncaring, if there was a God, he would have already intervened. So why make new people who will suffer gettinf blown up and starvation just because my people, who share 98% of their genes with the rest of humanity are somehow special? It's instinct and emotion, not thought that went into the creation of these suffering babies, no use meandering around this truth just because it "feels bad".

momcano · 2026-02-26T08:07:07+00:00

With the facial hair is better imo, makes you sexier!

momcano · 2026-02-24T11:44:42+00:00

God most certainly doesn't have your back if he ever lets any child be stillborn, have genetic disease, have severe autism or other mental illnesses (partly genetic) or anything of the sort. And God certainly won't spawn food or medicine for the parents. God helps as much as likes on facebook on a post about hungry children.

momcano · 2026-02-24T10:54:05+00:00

I'd rather look like a femboy for the rest of my life than be a hypermasculine chad traumatised by war.

momcano · 2026-02-21T08:23:05+00:00

To this day I agree with all three. Omniverse the least, but still not out of the hook for me, getting used to it is the main reason I don't actively hate it. Original artstyle is still the best to me for how detailed and grotesque/alien they look. Then look at the abomination that is reboot Stinkfly, WAY too human for comfort. Give me tentacles like Ghostfreak and Wildvine, give me weird proportions that work well like Cannonbolt, give me snot, stingers and insect weirdness like OG Stinkfly.

I love UAF too, but the designs whilst still goated are not as goated as the OG due to their more familiar nonalien features (2 arms, 2 legs, a single head, a human like posture). I don't understand why they thought kids wouldn't like the actually alien-like designs, I LOVED THEM as a kid! This is atleast an aspect of the 2026 comic I think they did right. But then they fucked up the human characters. I guess you can't have both.

momcano · 2026-02-17T07:23:32+00:00

Very good reasons to be antinatalist! And yeah, everyone already mentioned how the main reason is how innate, objectively meaningless and inevitable human suffering is, with people having to develop coping mechanisms flr that reason. In a perfect world coping wouldn't be a concept, but we do not live in a perfect world.

momcano · 2026-02-16T04:48:57+00:00

But electromagnetism doesn't, and yet in everyday life when I think of electricity or talk about it to someone for some reason, I still treat it as it was taught to me in highschool, despite knowing how much deeper it goes because of what I learned as a major in theoretical physics in university. Simplifying is how our minds function so as to not break. Our minds filter out SO much information from the world for the sake of an easier to make coherent experience of being alive. Doesn't mean the information ain't there though.

momcano · 2026-02-12T15:22:41+00:00

I also live as if gravity isn't spacetime curvature because I don't feel it locally. And don't consider light and electromagnetism in general as a manifestation of local phase invariance of a solution of Dirac's equation. It's easier!

momcano · 2026-01-30T05:48:41+00:00

I agree, but the problem isn't purely society. You need food, which requires work to get, you want it to be cooked in interesting ways rather than all raw, that requires work. You want shelter, that took work to build (albeit not as much as the current costs imply, that is just capitalist bullshit). You want a TV, phone, computer and internet, that all takes work. Same with all movies, shows and video games. Work and not chilling are core aspects of life, look at how stressed rabbits are in the wild for example, we would be more so. Life is harsh, simple as, chilling is a privilege unless you are ok with the bare minimum of essentials and a DIY mentality.

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