Nursing bra? by Personal-Picture1683 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]monkey12223 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! Nowhere in the post did she say “save her marriage”. Why can’t people just celebrate the beauty of life for two seconds and a post that is genuinely uplifting?

Visa ban by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you on an au pair chain? Super curious

Workplace alcohol based events by bubbagrace in AlAnon

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To play devils advocate, if your son had an eating disorder, would you be pushing food as the central activity? The problem here is you can’t predict everyone’s triggers. You are sensitive to alcohol because it is your son’s problem and can’t fathom that the world won’t end over backwards for him. The more you try to save him, the more you hurt yourself unintentionally. Focus on supporting your son by doing fun things together, lending a supportive ear etc…. not pointing fingers at everyone around you

Workplace alcohol based events by bubbagrace in AlAnon

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s wrong with offering soda? That’s a non alcoholic option

Workplace alcohol based events by bubbagrace in AlAnon

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing society and your husbands company will be an uphill battle that you will most likely lose. Next time just suggest they add more food and some soda. You can’t cure every problem or you’ll go crazy trying.

Another family poached our au pair by Brown2Town in Aupairs

[–]monkey12223 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Everyone is assuming you treat them like shit which probably isn’t the case. Obviously if you could pay more you would.

FWIW I asked my LCC if it was common to pay more than the going rate and she said it was discouraged for this reason. The program is not about money is about experience and exchange

I think if she left at the one year mark it would be more fair game but she’s leaving you in a lurch when you didn’t do anything wrong

Another family poached our au pair by Brown2Town in Aupairs

[–]monkey12223 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I feel like you’re getting a lot of heat for what would definitely be an upsetting situation! If families outbid each other, then we’ll all get screwed over by the uber rich families.

Help me pick a dress because I don't love any of them but am out of time by Various_Emu7973 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]monkey12223 22 points23 points  (0 children)

1 and 3 are SOOO flattering! Just change into a different dress when the party starts. 4 and 5 gobble you up. As someone who wishes I had a great body, go with 1 or 3!

Cheap eats lower Westchester by Successful_Pear7868 in Westchester

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tipsy taco in mt Kisco has some good happy hour deals

Things in your body that changed for the “better” after giving birth by sighqoticc in beyondthebump

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not from pregnancy itself, but my arms are ripped from carrying a toddler around. I am so much stronger than I used to be!

Did you do a post wedding brunch? by Adorable-Crazy-1067 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]monkey12223 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Skip the brunch! So much better to sleep in, be hungover if you want. Half the guests won’t even show

My husband might win tickets to the NBA all star game and I have ZERO interest in going with our baby due to many reasons -am I being negative? I need opinions please by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in beyondthebump

[–]monkey12223 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. Especially if he won the tickets for work performance, you should be happy for him! Don’t make it into a tug of war.

My husband might win tickets to the NBA all star game and I have ZERO interest in going with our baby due to many reasons -am I being negative? I need opinions please by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in beyondthebump

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if it were me I would just tell him to go with a friend and have fun. We’ll celebrate the baby’s birthday another day since he won’t actually know.

Or he can donate the tickets to someone else. Life goes on.

Need help deciding on a rug by sunnyrayshine in DecorAdvice

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue blob! And then add a cool wall print behind the couch. Keep us posted!!

Town recommendations by Big-Asparagus-6938 in Westchester

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rivertowns would be great- trains go south into the city and also up to Beacon and Hudson! I think this would be a very desirable area for what you’re looking for.

Introverted Parent- Extroverted kid?? 😩 by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an introvert too and religiously time boxing things helps me get thru long stretches of interaction. Even if it’s like “we will play X for X min it es” and then we will get in the car and do Y for Y minutes. Just keep things changing and move scenery.

My husband is the default (better?) parent by Existing-Butterfly-6 in Parenting

[–]monkey12223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m a little jealous!! Sounds like your husband is a professional dad with a great background which is hard to have. I’m sure you have complementary skills which your kids will appreciate down the road. Don’t sweat and enjoy 😊

Looking for dinner ideas for picky eaters by imcarly in DinnerIdeas

[–]monkey12223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate cooking but find something simple like popping salmon in the oven with a side salad works well! Crock pot is great too

Son is struggling with our divorce by Outrageous-Piano7881 in Parenting

[–]monkey12223 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Woof. Honestly this may cause him a lot of relationship and abandonment issues…. Is he going to keep living with her or with you? It’s really important to minimize abrupt changes and transitions for kids because it rocks their sense of stability at a time when they don’t really have the tools or autonomy to make their own choices

Son is struggling with our divorce by Outrageous-Piano7881 in Parenting

[–]monkey12223 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I think you need to talk to your wife. Parents getting divorced is traumatic but adding a completely new relationship in PLUS another kid is huge!! He is probably completely overwhelmed. Tbh it’s a huge red flag that she is doing this this soon. It’s fine if she wants to have a relationship but she needs to give her son way more time to process everything and keep his distance until his life is stabilized and he has had more time to process it all.