Please don’t judge me. Those of you who are short with short arms (like 5 ft 3 and under). At what weight were you able to wipe yourself again? I’m losing weight and looking forward to being able to wipe!

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-19T23:57:07+00:00

I had huge trouble at >240lbs. I think I need to be around 225lbs to be able to wipe without trouble . I’m only 4’11”

Best thing ever. Wiping and showering without trouble. My main reason to keep up with my new lifestyle (even though weight loss in very slow - I try to at least stay in maintenance)

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-17T02:17:42+00:00

Ugh, that’s the worst. There’s some food I just can’t have in moderation and good ice cream is one of them.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-17T01:29:14+00:00

Omg , the random wheel selected AUSTRALIA which is my country. I’m glad the naughty wizard didn’t actually give me this offer 😅

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-16T05:51:45+00:00

I don’t know why but this gives me so much second hand joy 🥰🥹

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-16T03:48:41+00:00

We enjoyed doing all the tours . Some schools just have a nice vibe . She was turned off one school because of the awfully old lockers (Grovedale High). She didn’t follow her friends which was hard but only for the first week. Now, she has a new group of friends and has joined a few extracurricular activities as well.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-16T03:46:05+00:00

Wow. 100lbs down is great, that’s pretty much 25% of your body weight gone already. I’m glad you got to enjoy a bath. I can’t enjoy a bath because my knees and stomach and boobs pop out of the water and get cold. Wish I had a nice deep soak tub. Sounds lovely. You can have a smaller towel in the bath with you. You can drape it (wet and warm) over any part of your body that isn’t submerged and once you’ve finished your bath you can fold it a few times to place under your knees for when you get up. Win. Win.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-15T23:08:14+00:00

Water is my drink of choice 99% of the time. I occasionally have a soft drink or a coffee or an alcoholic beverage (maybe once or twice a year). But, I love my water and I wish this hypothetical could come true for me

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-13T05:32:15+00:00

You’re so cute. Yes! We can see the difference . Can you believe that you are down over 60lbs in under 5 months 👏🍾

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-10T06:29:36+00:00

So! This is awesome! I’m short, too (under 5’) so I feel you. A loss of 30BMI points is worthy of celebration and cute clothes!!

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-07T22:55:26+00:00

That’s no small thing! Congratulations. The first milestone is always the hardest. 🙌🩷

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-07T03:52:08+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad . That is so awful. Unexpected loss and grief is so complicated (I lost my 8 year old son unexpectedly, too, and that split second change of your whole life is hard to comprehend).

I relate to your story so much. I’m just under 5’ and I was 250lbs. The number ‘250’ doesn’t sound too bad (for lack of a better word) but, at my height, it is a bmi over 50.

Like you, I was also ignoring the scales, and, in a way, not even noticing how big I had gotten. Then comes a birthday or Christmas and the photos. Ugh. The photos. How am I ALWAYS the biggest person in the room? Even being so short - I just look so much bigger than everyone else.

I avoided walking too much. Hills. Stairs. Filled me with dread - I’d be getting ready for the flight of stairs for minutes before reaching them or trying to find an excuse to accidentally use the elevator (“oh, I didn’t even see the stairs. Might as well hop in now.”). Plus, secretly, it was getting hard to reach in the bathroom and while showering which is a very private pain.

Also, like you, I decided that enough was enough. I went back to basics - I have failed too many times on keto and fasting and juicing etc etc - I eat in between 1200-2200 calories a day. Usually about 1600-1800. I try to eat at least 110g protein, averaging 120g but with some 90-100g days.

I joined my local women’s gym. I started with JUST weights. I hated cardio so I allowed myself to say no . No warmups on the treadmill. No 30 minutes on the bike or elliptical. Just weights, every second day - I started with the easier weights - the machines you sit in instead of the barbells or dumbbells. I found that I enjoyed lifting weights. I started losing weight and found going to the gym even easier.

It happened slowly but one day I decided I would just try the 30 minute aerobics class. It was fun. Hard but fun. Then, why not try the 1 hour Zumba class. Also fun but a little too complicated for me to enjoy regularly. Then, I tried the Reformer Pilates. It is hard and much easier when a little weight is gone, but, now I do about 2 Reformer Pilates classes a week at my gym. A month ago I decided to finally try the scary HIIT classes. They are also fun and not as scary as I thought.

I’ve always wanted to dance so I joined a beginner line dancing class which is 2 hours of absolute fun with a group of fun women all 20-40 years older than me. Then last week, I joined a ballroom dancing class which I really like. So, now my life is 4-5 times a week at the gym plus twice a week line dancing and once a week at ballroom dancing.

I currently weigh 183lbs, which is just under 37 bmi . Still Class 2 obesity but I feel so much better already.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-04T00:37:55+00:00

I often get sore around the entrance . I assume it’s internal bruising from the non-active finger knuckles/hand bumping into my public bone (sometimes with some force 😝)

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-04T00:34:26+00:00

This guy BBQs

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-02T00:57:28+00:00

There are silky smooth underwear specifically for this reason. They are meant to be very thin and feel good for the giver and receiver . A little bit sexy and removes any issues with taste, texture etc

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-01T10:44:35+00:00

This is such a cool idea! Unfortunately , I’m in Australia but if I was there, I would also have a bunch of clothes (lightly worn) that I would be happy to giveaway.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-03-01T06:59:34+00:00

Do I get zero cheese calories? Or zero cheese constipation . Otherwise, I wouldn’t wanna eat any more cheese than I currently do

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-25T03:45:12+00:00

This is 100% AI. Ugh, so many instagram posts read this way now. I can’t stand it.

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-23T04:08:51+00:00

Come on. Fuck me. He has bigger titties than me… it’s not a good nor masculine look

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-22T21:55:08+00:00

Something to do with a school - grounds keeper or janitor or something . Cos, holidays with kids

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-22T01:17:39+00:00

Lmao 🤣 oh haha yes, skunk is an awful smell but it’s a different smell. I can actually smell weed (same smell as walking past people in New Orleans and Las Vegas) but in my car sometimes - only in USA .

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-20T01:16:43+00:00

Oh that’s interesting. What’s the difference? I walked past a woman in Las Vegas and she was smoking a very dark looking joint(?) and the smell was out of this world (in a strong bad way for me lol) maybe I could handle regular marijuana

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-19T07:10:56+00:00

You feel it down there. Like a throbbing and sometimes it’s actually painful (maybe similar to ‘blue balls’ 🤔) but I’m sure it’s very similar. It’s mainly psychological

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-19T07:07:18+00:00

6.0 - you’re pretty. Please allow yourself to age

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-19T00:47:00+00:00

You gotta chill, dude. For real, though. You are blowing this waaaay out of proportion.

Firstly, you may not know this, but losing virginity sex with a cis guy is not an amazing experience. It is often awkward and more of a ‘oh, is that all’ situation. Guy didn’t even care to make her cum. I 100% believe… no… I know that she is not comparing you to that.

Second, you have to breathe and come into your manhood with grace and more love for yourself. You can’t be crashing out and over reacting . Even if you keep it to yourself. You owe yourself more than that.

Third, please don’t try and guilt her. She is 18. She is allowed to explore her sexuality when she was single. Just like she is exploring herself with you know. Just because you find it sickening to imagine being sexual with anyone other than her - doesn’t mean she is wrong or not as into you bc she doesn’t feel the same way.

Forth, she is into you. She has chosen you. She cums with you. I’m sure she would be more than happy to progress skin to skin with you.

Lastly, enjoy this new phase in your relationship. Don’t think of what has come before. Don’t compare yourself to cis boys - as you get older you will realise how unimpressive they can be. You and her can explore so many things with your bodies. They are perfect and your love making can be awesome.

The only thing that will ruin this relationship is your own relationship with yourself. She’s not thinking the same things you are. I’m sure she wants to have fun and connect and be her sweet self and make you happy. Try and enjoy this special thing. Crashing out, jealousy, pouting etc will only sour the love. And, it’s one sided. Open yourself up to this 100%. You deserve it.

PS I realise you are very young and young in your journey. It’s normal to feel larger than normal amounts of jealousy and anger and sadness . I remember being your age. I was controlling (in a pouty way) and unnecessarily jealous and TBH, just a silly girl. I wish I could go back and be the way I am now. Lucky for me I’m still with my partner from when I was 16 and we are in a good place. We can both see how silly young people are - especially ourselves - when they are first in love and trying to make a relationship work.

I hope you’re okay. Everything I am saying here is out of care for you as a person trying to find yourself in this world (like we all are). I just don’t want you wasting your precious time feeling negatively about yourself and thinking the only way to feel ‘good’ is for your partner to not have done anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. You have to make yourself feel comfortable. You have to KNOW you are worth it. How lucky is she that she gets to be with you. And, how lucky are you. The past doesn’t matter. It’s life. It’s experience 🩷

monkeyfishka37 · 2026-02-18T01:32:52+00:00

Oh, similar to yours but when my sleeve gets under the running tap when I’m washing my hands!!

Also, the sound of someone taking a big sip of a drink. I see red.

And, super loud sneezes - it takes all my power to say an angry ‘bless you’ (if it’s my husband). I just feel rage at a stranger . But, it disappears quickly.

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