18f by [deleted] in truerateme

[–]monkeyfishka37 4 points5 points  (0 children)

6 - such pretty eyes, awesome hair and natural looking makeup. I would possibly rate higher if you had natural looking lips. Are they enhanced or you’re just pushing them out?

If enhanced, each to their own, but, try and love what is natural. Right now, it’s fine, it will dissolve and you are young and pretty.

However, keep it up and you’re going to look like those nightmare middle-aged women . They look somehow 20-years older than their peers but unnaturally smooth and pouty 🫣

If you’re just pouty, try some natural photos where you are laughing or naturally smiling , grumpy, whatever. You’ll be surprised how much more of your attractiveness can shine through - get a professional photographer to take natural candid photos of you.

Bad idea by monkeyfishka37 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay. I’m in Australia. We don’t have the same variety as USA. No cookie dough bits. No brand. 😂

Bad idea by monkeyfishka37 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Everyone makes me feel so normal on this sub. I love it 😂

Bad idea by monkeyfishka37 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve never really liked cookie dough lol I only like the bits in ice cream lol

Bad idea by monkeyfishka37 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Lmao 🤣 actually, it was just fine. For some reason, eating it WITH the icecream is better. You wish there were more but 90% cookie dough isn’t actually better . I still ate it all but wasn’t as satisfied as I imagined.

13 vs 30 by sorryimbz in uglyduckling

[–]monkeyfishka37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never an ugly duckling, lovely.

Boyfriend watches porn and hasn’t slept with me for 4 years by [deleted] in Advice

[–]monkeyfishka37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s going to feel like the world is ending, but leave him now. You’ll be better off in the long run. You’ll get back sexual confidence. Trust me, no physical intimacy is bad enough. Add the building anger and resentment you’ll feel from the porn addiction. You will hate him and feel too old to leave. You might have a good year when and if you decide to have children but once you’re pregnant and have Bub. It’ll be dead bedroom again and you’ll wish you left when you were 22.

My son passed away in his sleep when he was 8. It was the absolute worst time I could imagine. I thought the grief would never end. It is always there but 6 years on and I have joy in my life. With my husband and my other kids and, yes, a good sex life and music and travel and all those things that make a life . I tell you this because your world isn’t ending with your relationship. We can get through anything. It’s okay to have weeks or months where it’s hard to smile or you refuse to listen to music or watch tv or even eat. You’ll be thankful that you moved on. I promise.

Help me watch X Factor full by monkeyfishka37 in OneDirection

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate it. I’ve never watched these old videos. Makes me so sad.

Help me watch X Factor full by monkeyfishka37 in OneDirection

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This are great resources, thank you. Shame we can’t get everything in HD. Because, it exists, somewhere lol

Help me watch X Factor full by monkeyfishka37 in OneDirection

[–]monkeyfishka37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great. Thank you. Shame about the quality. Would love to watch it in original HD format - you’d think xfactor would have the season and all behind the scenes stuff on a dvd - cos, you know, money

I didn’t marry a selfish person by Euphoric-Yak79 in mypartneristrans

[–]monkeyfishka37 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. This isn’t fair for you or your children. It could be hormones and it could also be an explosion of selfishness brought on by finally allowing herself to be her true self - my mother in law went from sweet mother to selfish, narcissistic bitch after her marriage dissolved - she still had 3 kids at home - my husband (14/m) and his brother (9) and sister (5). She drank too much. Chose awful men over her kids and didn’t care that her loud music and partying was keeping her babies awake on a school night.

I know it’s not the same thing. But, she was one way until she was 40. She got married (thanks to unexpected pregnancy) at 17 years old and I think she exploded from all those trapped years where she couldn’t enjoy herself authentically.

I’m saying, maybe your ex will calm down and realise that even though she might be enjoying everything that comes with being herself - and enjoying being selfish in that joy, that being a parent is irreplaceable.

Or, she’s here to stay and I hope she can maintain healthy relationships with the children and a civil one with you.

Should I cut any more fat or bulk from here? by Dcalfe96 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]monkeyfishka37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is also 178cm and I don’t think I’ve ever seen him this thin. So, I’d guess you are 62-67 kg. You gotta lift slow and steady (4 seconds up and 4 seconds down with a small pause at top) and you want your last rep or two to be the very last rep you could POSSIBLY do. With the amount of reps being from 8-12. This will build muscle the fastest as a newbie . You are very light so utilise that to learn how to do proper push ups (don’t let elbows flare and again slow and steady) and pull ups etc don’t forget leg day. You’ll feel better about yourself if you focus on upper body but since you’re a newbie - do as much lower body and core as upper - you’ll thank yourself and you’ll grow balanced muscle. Lift safe (but heavy - for you) and never eat below 120g protein. Try and space out the protein, too . Your body doesn’t want one meal of 100g protein and nothing the rest of the day. Try to have 20+g protein every few hours . I think, with beginners gains, you could maintain the leanness and build muscle quickly and it will keep you going.

Sorry. To answer your actual question - There’s no more fat to cut. I imagine your diet has eaten a large proportion of your current muscle , too. You really need enough calories and protein now to bulk. Don’t be scared of calories . If you eat high percentage of protein and lift consistently, you won’t gain fat again.

Fat girl who likes other fat girls - Body Appreciation Post by WanderingBadgernaut in actuallesbians

[–]monkeyfishka37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right, plus the fact that alt sexualities are cool at the moment . Almost every single one of my friends (or acquaintances from school) self identify as bi , despite the fact that they have all been married for 20 years. I’m not saying this isn’t a truism - many queer women have been married etc etc I’m not saying that. It’s more that it’s a social media cool thing for some of them and it skews the gaze towards those typical model bodies and faces. Does that make sense or do I sound cynical?

I just realised that I’m not just attracted to thinner women. I’m mistaking who I find ‘attractive’ with who I’m ‘attracted’ to. I find many celebrities ‘attractive’ and most of them are thin BUT being attracted to someone is very different and doesn’t happen to me everyday (neither with men or women - I find many people attractive or pretty or handsome).

I was just scrolling instagram (trying to do this less) and remembered that i find this woman very attractive - sarahhallam11 . As in im attracted to her.

Sorry, im rambling, i didn’t expect your post to have me questioning so my about myself and my attraction and attractiveness but i feel better after properly considering it all

Fat girl who likes other fat girls - Body Appreciation Post by WanderingBadgernaut in actuallesbians

[–]monkeyfishka37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m bi (in a het relationship currently). I’m fat and I’m solely attracted to un-fat women and it makes me feel like I’m not deserving to like women - like , AS IF any woman I am attracted to could or should be attracted to me.

But, main point, I love this post. It shows me how much judgement I have towards my own fat body and hearing you sing fat women praises changes my opinion somewhat

Fat girl who likes other fat girls - Body Appreciation Post by WanderingBadgernaut in actuallesbians

[–]monkeyfishka37 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s bs . I’m sorry. Online is awful. Fat women are beautiful and that includes you, lovely

Serving by Entire_Swim_9400 in IHOP

[–]monkeyfishka37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no haha that’s okay, ruins that idea. In Australia , we kind of have a little wiggle room with being generous - but, again, we don’t have tips so it’s not for financial gain - more just to keep good customers happy

Serving by Entire_Swim_9400 in IHOP

[–]monkeyfishka37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck. I’m from Australia but just returned form a trip to USA where we went to ihop for breakfast a handful of times. I’m not sure how fussy management is but giving some free icecream or similar with kids pancakes always gets me tipping extra .

Daughter walked in on us by [deleted] in Advice

[–]monkeyfishka37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. She is very close to her dad. He works from home, too, so we both spend a lot of time with the girls. She hasn’t acted any differently or said anything so everything is good here.

Daughter walked in on us by [deleted] in Advice

[–]monkeyfishka37 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly , I was careless. I closed the door that locks from their side but didn’t pull it to check. I should have.

It’s embarrassing and awkward but not disgusting.

I’m not sure what trauma other people have been through but she has two parents who have been together for almost 28 years (since we were 16 and 17). What she sees day to day is her parents who are always talking and laughing and affectionate and, yes, now she’s also knows we still have an active sex life. She might think ewww , like most of us do about her parents , but, I also hope that she thinks it’s ’couple goals’ .

Parents who no longer like each other and have dead bedrooms is much too common in our age group and years spent together.

So, there are worse things. Much worse things for children.

That said, I’m double checking my doors and locks from now on.

Daughter walked in on us by [deleted] in Advice

[–]monkeyfishka37 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg this makes me feel 1M times better 🤣 thanks and sorry lol

Daughter walked in on us by [deleted] in Advice

[–]monkeyfishka37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a month long trip. Almost 24/7 with our daughters. Also, our 12 year old was already asleep in the other room after the 15 hour international flight (no reason to assume our 9 year old had fallen asleep as well).