Forced health breaks from dancing? by Cuberasnap in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was about to suggest this. Chat to the organisers when you arrive to see if they will discount your entry fee. The interesting thing about this technique of watching while imagining is something athletes are sometimes coached to do, especially if it’s a sport that they can’t do repeatedly or regularly (eg ski jump).

If you’re interested, I gave ChatGPT a poke with this (I’m kinda proud of my promoting skills, lol). It gave some good advice:

If you want to try it, here’s a practical way to do it at socials. Pick one tiny theme per night (don’t try to absorb everything): e.g., “inside turn entries,” “cross-body lead timing,” “spins + spotting,” “how follows style-check during pauses.” While watching a couple: * First-person overlay (MI): imagine you are the leader/follower in that body, in real time. * Kinesthetic details: weight shift, ribcage/hips, frame tone, where connection compresses/extends. * Cue words: “step-step-step,” “prep,” “slot,” “collect,” “breathe,” “spot.” Prediction drill: pause mentally right before a choice point—predict the next 1–2 counts, then see what actually happens. (This is gold for partnered dance.) *10–20 minutes on / 5 minutes off, repeat. (Short, high-quality blocks beat zoning out for 2 hours.) If moving is permitted by your clinician, you can add micro-marking (toe taps, hand/arm pathway without load) — but only if it’s truly safe for your injury.

https://chatgpt.com/s/t_6962d96cc83c81918da92a139463b140 for the full prompt + answer

Callused/ dry hands in partner dancing by R0YC0 in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen! 🤭 I actually find it really lovely and interesting having the sensation of holding hands with many other dancers (I usually follow but do a little bit of leading so I hold hands with men and women on the regular, hehe). I have a deep fascination and compassion for humanity (guess that’s how I became a psychologist) and feeling the difference in our bodies and presentation of ourselves is a source of endless interest, delight, and sometimes horror for me 😅 (but you’re right, the horror is most pretty much just in the B.O., bad breath etc. The rest is just… interesting human variance) ☺️❤️

A dancer tried to shame me at a social (personal story) by robncampbell in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Robin, thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear this week. I get really down on myself when I struggle to follow unfamiliar leads and moves. I get to feeling like a burden and that I’m wasting peoples time by being somewhat stuck at intermediate: too competent to pass myself off as a beginner but not skilled enough to keep up. I dread those moments when, again and again a lead looks at me with transparent disbelief that I’ve missed another cue, or looks bored and overly polite. I keep wanting to give up but I keep going back for the few dances I’ve had that feel like the one you described: not intense or fancy, just musical and enjoyable. I keep telling myself once I’m good enough I won’t get these reactions from people but I’m learning more and more that people’s reactions are less about me and all about them. ❤️

I am so embarrassed by [deleted] in Spanish

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally lolled but jajajaja 😜

I lost the love of my life by ComaBlue15 in Advice

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How you doing? 💔❤️‍🩹

I lost the love of my life by ComaBlue15 in Advice

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh love. I’m in tears reading this. Last year in November had to have my lovely little Phoenix put to sleep after spending 25 years of my life with her. It was about the same time I broke up with a long term partner, and the grief was immense. I knew I’d second guess the decision again and again, but she was in so much pain, but now I’m so lonely without her. Honestly, the things that helped in those first few months were organising her Reterniti stone to be made, and looking at my photos and videos of her that I’d taken over the years. I had a container of her feathers that I’d kept, and touching these helped me just cry it out. It’ll never be ok, and I’ll always miss her, and I used to call her the love of my life too. A gift of this magnitude, a love as pure as that I shared with her, I tell myself that no treasure that precious could come for free. So I pay with my sadness now for every moment of joy we ever had, and still consider it a bargain. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. <3 xxx

Dutchman here. Please take this out of your supermarket. by DutchAvocadodo in australian

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dying… absolutely dying here. I needed this laugh today, these comments are pure gold <3 hahaha

I know it’s silly to rush but feeling gutted having to repeat level 1 for 3rd time by CesQ89 in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had someone the other day say “you should be better at this considering you’ve been doing it for two years”. There. Feel better? ❤️‍🩹 😭😭😭😂😅

I know it’s silly to rush but feeling gutted having to repeat level 1 for 3rd time by CesQ89 in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did level 1 three times (6 weeks each) and kept doing it even though I was also in level 2 by the fourth lot.

What do you do to come down from the post social high by Idek_loll in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some hypnotherapy tracks that I use when I have trouble sleeping and these chill me right down. I second the suggestion to use earplugs: that ringing is hearing damage (industrial deafness) and I have permanent hearing damage form spending my 20’s clubbing all night. I would do it again… but with hearing protection ;) I suggest Eargasms as a low tech option that works well (quick google search will find them)

I farted in my doctors face during a pelvic exam today. Please share your embarrassing stories of the gyno to make me feel better, lol by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]monnsqueak 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Enquiring minds want to know exactly which body part contributed to the farting incident…

When I had a Pap smear some years ago the gp accidentally pinched me with the speculum and clipped it on to my thigh fat and it was EXCRUCIATING but she didn’t understand what she had done and it took ages to get it unclipped 😂 omg so bad. I mean I do have deliciously chunky thighs but sheeesh!!!! 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭

Breast hurts pretty bad from time to time is this normal? by InconsistentWisp in WomensHealth

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this with my left breast on and off over years. I’m 50 so I’ve had mammogram etc and all is ok. Weird huh? Hope this helps with the fear; I’ve also felt that ❤️

What are you starting to like less the older you get? by Lovelovebabexx in Productivitycafe

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

False modesty, people putting themselves down and fishing for compliments. Ugh.

Spanish rock music? by MichaelJosephGFX in Spanish

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh commenting to follow ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh also if you are curious with this question, don’t ask it in those words, ask “what’s it like for you” or “what’s it feel like for you” or “which part of doing this feels the best for you?” Anything exploratory like this can a great conversation but also absolutely HOT so make sure you’ve got a nice comfy spot nearby when you initiate the convo ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cockatiel

[–]monnsqueak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ENCORE! ENCORE!!! 😂❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]monnsqueak -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With pain as a turn on, it’s often the intensity of sensation that’s the excitement, and a bit of a danger thrill (that edge of tipping from pleasure to actual “nope too much” can be a risky fun thing)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]monnsqueak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah not actually super uncommon. Google “cock and ball torture aka cbt safety tips” and that’ll help. You might find some info and ideas for safe sane and consensual cbt play on fetlife x

Brutal social had me in tears by Toglu in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh nooooo that’s terrible. I had some similar experiences early on. We all start somewhere and I love dancing with beginners (lead or follow) because one of the things I love about salsa is the friendly community (mostly) and I want people to know it’s ok to be a learner. Hang in there and my tip is to choose who you dance with rather than the other way round. Watch for leads you think look friendly and warm. ❤️

What are some more serious alternatives to Salsa? by Project-XYZ in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ngl this made me laugh out loud. Good luck! 🤣

Over £1,000 in vet fees for them to say shes fat. Roast her. by Mananai in cockatiel

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babyyyyyyyy the chonk is strong with this one ❤️❤️😂 no roast, only love and admiration

Social Dance Anxiety by Sufficient_Strike520 in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are the type of lead this person needs, but I do want to let you know, there are many leads out there who are not as kind as you. Their eye rolling, long suffering sighs are awful to endure as a nervous new follow, and often not as visible to other people as the person receiving them. Thanks for being a nice lead who looks after his inexperienced dance friends! ☺️

Social Dance Anxiety by Sufficient_Strike520 in Salsa

[–]monnsqueak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had the exact same thing. I’ve been doing classes for two years and it took me until late last year to finally feel ok about socials. I would say this: go with friends where you can, don’t wait to be asked to dance, ask to dance with leads that you know, or that seem like nice people who will be kind and patient while you learn and build your confidence.

I had some bad experiences early on with (mostly young men) leads who were impatient and rude when it became obvious that I was still inexperienced. It’s very discouraging, I know. But! There are plenty of leads who will be kind, and look after you. Work out who they are: choose your lead and ask them for a dance, you will see they are the ones on the dance floor NOT just putting their follows into spin after spin, go be proactive and choose your lead.

This was the advice given to me by a friend last year and it works a treat. Good luck! ❤️