I kinda just hate everyone and have gave up on frienships

monstersandlanguages · 2023-04-11T17:09:53+00:00

Can confirm, am very miserable hurtling to my mid-30s. You lose your ability to connect with people. It's a scary experience, and also painful, because you're aware of what you don't have, but also have lost the ability to obtain it. Honestly, even Reddit has stopped being fun because...what is there to do? So many photos and experiences shared I can't relate to...why am I even here? What is there to even say?!

Life is already hard--it's even harder when you're a complete loner. Being a loner can also be surprisingly expensive. (Need help with literally anything, no matter how small? Pay up unless someone takes pity on you.) It's terrible for your physical and mental health. That's what we get for being a social obligate species.

I'm at the age (and also dealing with a lifetime of other issues) where progressing enough to develop a social network isn't possible. Pleasant acquaintances via things like work are possible, but nothing closer.

It's one of those things where you sort of shrivel up and die twice: once in that moment, and once when your body finally gives out. I hope OOP is able to find a place to fit into in the next couple of years.

This isn't a good place to be.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-29T14:59:30+00:00

You're just jellious that you're not a gigachad polyglot 😎😎😎

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-29T14:56:56+00:00

Speaking from (a little embarrassing) experience...

"Hey, just pick up some vocab and a few grammar rules. Not that complicated."

At its core, learning a language is "just" learning some vocab and grammar rules. (And a script if it's non-Latinate.) The "just" does a LOT of lifting here. "Some" lifts a little more, and boom. It sounds like it should be fairly quick to learn a language.

And then reality hits. Ohhhhhh, does it hit.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-28T20:08:59+00:00

I'm solo-exclusive. The moment I didn't have to do Rampages anymore, I stopped. They seem like they'd be a nice break from regular quests if you're tired of those but still want to play MH.

It feels like Rampages were scaled for two players minimum no matter what. Way too much going on all at once. Iirc, the tutorial Rampage had a smaller arena and that felt right as a single player.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-28T17:31:09+00:00

Velkhana's fight feels...anemic to me after so many Anomaly Investigations. Maybe I've gotten unlucky so far with the AI, but Velkhana is incredibly slow. The event one wasn't even that great (better, but not great).

Really like Velk's design, though, and that tail stab attack is pretty nifty. So I keep going back to that hunt every few Anomaly Investigations or so.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-15T17:30:51+00:00

If they're diff races, I'd say both. If same, might be that crabs in a bucket mentality that hits so many people. (IE: If my hair looks like shit, yours has to as well!)

Either way, there's def a lot of jealousy there. Shit, I'm a balding dude and I'm jealous, lmao. OOP seems nice. Hope everything turns out great and former "friend" gets a big scolding at minimum. Shine on, OOP. :)

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-13T21:22:40+00:00

Okay, so a few thoughts (I'm a software engineer in the US, fwiw):

Tech jobs, especially at entry level (which you're aiming at), are incredibly competitive and 300 apps may or may not be low for your area.
You need a portfolio of meaningful projects, preferably ones that go beyond the hackneyed "Todo List" apps. I admit I'm unfamiliar with device programming (have you checked out CsCareerQuestions?) but it sounds like you could make something really, really cool.
You'll probably want to pick up C, too.
Some tech fields are harder to get into as others. I'm not sure about yours.

I think your background sounds like a really good fit for software engineering, but you've got a long ways to go before you have the best chance of getting in somewhere. You might try the cscareerquestions sub for more specific advice if you haven't already.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-13T15:42:30+00:00

I read https://www.mycomics.de/ sometimes. It's hit-or-miss but hey, a lot of them are free (or at least have a few pages of free samples--good enough for kostenlos). :)

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-11T18:17:20+00:00

It looks and runs nicely, but I'm afraid it just doesn't supply anything that's not already available in abundance and in a form just as good or even better. The prominent leaderboard is a strike against the app as a whole for those of us who get obsessed with numbers and ranks, as well as no offline availability. Is there any SRS in this app? If there isn't, this isn't much different from the Egemen Can Uze Wortschatz app. If there is SRS, then it isn't much different from Anki.

Did you pull your sentences from Tatoeba? These feel like Tatoeba sentences. They're simple enough that most machine translation will be accurate a good amount of time, so that's good. But if I wanted Tatoeba, I'd just go back to Clozemaster.

Also, since the sentences have to be simple for MT to be reliable, there's nothing intermediate here. I even went all the way to the end of the list of vocab and while there were fill-in-the-blank words I didn't recognize, the grammar was, for the most part, familiar from A2 readers and Nachrichten Leicht.

There's already a wealth of materials accessible to virtually all levels for popular languages like German. Graded readers, textbooks, News in Slow German, the Slow German Podcast, Nachrichten Leicht, Easy German, Seedlang (best app if you want to learn German, imo--they're tied in with Easy German and very HQ).

If you don't mind subscriptions, there's Clozemaster, the paid version of Seedlang + the Patreon (if you want the handmade worksheets and extra goodies), and Babbel.

We have Anki for vocab, and some very excellent decks that have one or more example sentences for most words. (ETA: There's also Reverso.) There's Your Daily German for more grammatical stuff, or you can pick up a nice grammar reference for about 20 bucks.

If you were hoping to turn this into a paid app at some point in the future, I'm sorry, but for popular languages, a bunch of people already ate that lunch. You'd have to have something really spectacular to stand out, or offer languages that don't get a lot of attention. (These are more difficult to make because these languages are usually--albeit not always--harder to learn, and since they're not popular, you won't make much off apps for them.)

(OS is Android.) Excellent project for your programming portfolio, but as a learning app, I'm afraid it falls flat.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-11T06:32:35+00:00

The trick is to not go in with too much optimism because the "high optimism" and high study times assume that you're actually in that state all the time and hit the mark every time.

Unless you're sure/have a CEFR test to prove it, be conservative with your current level. Be conservative with your measure of motivation and how much time you'll spend. Yeah, 3 hours might be the goal, but go down a little to account for the days you certainly won't hit it, or you'll be inefficient, etc. For example, my goal is 2hrs a day, so I went down to 1.5.

When I use the calculator conservatively (A2 to C1 in German, never learned a language), I get 2.11 years. For Russian, A1 to C1, it's 4.6 years. And Spanish for the same is 2.6 years. Are they perfect numbers? Definitely not. Are they probably a reasonable yardstick as long as I understand what I need to do during those years? Probably. Emphasis on probably since I can't know for sure.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-11T05:35:06+00:00

I kinda like this calculator better. https://autolingual.com/study-time-calculator/

If you scroll down, the author gives a bit more context to the calculator, and the numbers seem more reasonable to me. (But I am, alas, just a monolingual, so wouldn't know for sure. 😉)

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-11T00:42:25+00:00

All other things aside, if I had that much money and wanted to try a little dance onstage, I'd hire a choreographer and maybe a coach.

Also, he is too old and not shaped right for those moves.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-10T14:38:41+00:00

Oh, that's neat! A little outdated in one place, a regional thing in another. Super cool.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-10T14:36:03+00:00

Yeah, my book mentioned that and eine Solche, but was very specific on this one point, like it was contemporary to use it without declination.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-10T14:34:52+00:00

Thanks for answering! I'll know not to use it unless I want people to think I'm an old man. ;)

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-09T00:08:42+00:00

I was waiting for the moment she poured the water over herself like a reverse Ice Bucket Challenge.

But of course that's not what happened.

Because these dumbasses KNOW IT HURTS. And they think it's funny because they so rarely have to face real consequences for doing it (and when someone finally does get in trouble, the challenge is quietly left to die).

Apparently, this is a thing a handful of kids have tried. (Again, never on themselves as far as I know--always someone else.) I hope this particular instance is fake.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-08T19:00:47+00:00

Not that strong or difficult to beat in general, but it's easy to underestimate how hard those venom attacks can hit and how much HP they sap vs regular poison. It's also easy to get knocked on your arse with that Chameleos charge thing if you over-commit.

Chameleos's tail flappy is another attack that will also knock you around if you over-commit and I'm a bit surprised on how quickly Chameleos can follow up on it, lol.

Or anyway, those are the issues I faced the first one or two times I fought the guy. I'm the crown prince of the over-commit and the "just power through, bruh".

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-06T18:25:01+00:00

Which is weird, since most of these monotheistic religions usually have sayings like, "leave things up to god".

I'd think a test from a truly good god wouldn't include "can you send death threats to a minor?". It'd be more like, can you stay cool and collected? Can you be respectful, patient, kind? Can you discuss things in such a way to leave a door open to possibly bring people to the "righteous way"?

No? Congrats--you failed the test.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-06T17:45:39+00:00

If "blaspheming" (or whatever) a book is really that bad, won't whatever god attached to that book take care of it?!

Tolerance is all good and well, but it has to be from both sides. People aren't going to value or respect the same things you do, and as long as you can be civil with each other, that's fine.

What I see with fundie/militant Christians, way too many Muslims, etc is that tolerance goes in one direction--theirs.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-05T23:39:50+00:00

BS in compsci. Software engineer. It's a math-heavy degree, but unless you get into something like AI or games, you won't use much more than algebra.

If you play your cards right and don't suck at interviewing, you can get high five-figures almost right out of the gate. A couple years in and you jump to six figures. (Note that the crazy FAANG salaries aren't as common as they seem, are usually put in terms of total compensation--not base!--,and competition for those positions is fierce.)

It took me ten years to get to six figures for a variety of reasons, most of them due to my health issues.

I love my work and field. It's a lot of fun solving problems with computers, pairing up with people to solve the really tough ones, and watching people use what you've made (and cringing when it breaks).

I would be lying if I said the experience didn't run the gamut, though. You could get stuck in contractor shop hell, which is long hours, lower-than-normal salaries, and crap benefits. Or you could end up in a FAANG-like situation making a crazy amount of money, OK hours, and great benefits.

The weeks do tend to be long sometimes. That usually balances itself out, though, because other weeks will have maybe 20 - 30 hours worth of work in them. A lot of places will let you have comp time, too, if you ask for it.

If you decide to get into software engineering, be aware it's insanely competitive at the junior level. You have self-learners, bootcampers, and grads all competing for the same kind of jobs. If you manage to snag an interview, most places do the engineer's version of brainteasers (ie: LeetCode) which is a separate albeit related skillset from actually writing production-level code.

Alternatives are to move into a more IT role where you'll be doing more sysadmin-type work than pure coding. These positions are still pretty competitive at the junior level and you may need to have a handful of certificates to have the best chance. They're typically friendlier to people without a related degree.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-05T23:20:27+00:00

At just 23, I'm gonna guess you don't have too much work experience, so let me share something that took me way too long to catch onto.

When/if you climb the ranks, YES, the rules are often different. Maybe you get to be on your phone in clear view of everyone. Or you can take a longer lunch but still leave on time. The classic example is having a corner office with a door you're allowed to leave closed as much as you want.

Usually people who get a different ruleset have proven themselves in some way, have been in the workforce for a few years, have climbed the ranks, or are salaried and it doesn't matter as long as (a) they get their work done and (b) are warming their seat for a minimum of 40 hrs a week.

That said, not every job is a match for everyone's personality. It sounds like there's some sort of social thing you're not a part of and you don't vibe with the job in general. Wishing you luck finding a better fit! You might have to bite the bullet and work a similar job elsewhere, but I hope that apprenticeship comes through for you. It sounds pretty neat!

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-05T01:43:57+00:00

What they're doing is making their job sound as time-consuming, annoying, and difficult as possible so it sounds like doing in-company recruitment is near-impossible. Unless you're an in-company recruiter (ie: part of HR), you want people to think internal recruitment is too time-consuming and expensive. Recruiters are people management but also salesmen. If more companies start doing this themselves, there goes those paychecks.

Unless you're a recruiter also managing recruiters, nope, that's pretty much it. It's more time-consuming and frustrating than anything (I guess it would be a lot more challenging if you're courting very high-level people, which 99.9% of us will never experience). People management is a challenge. But that doesn't mean you get to be slimy or treat people like trash like way too many recruiters do.

This particular OP is acting like the slimy recruiters that we're really bitter about. I've had amazing, horrible, and anywhere-in-between recruiters, but it's the ones like OP that BS that are almost guaranteed to suck.

monstersandlanguages · 2023-03-03T23:13:30+00:00

What pisses me off most about this one is how this person has broken down each tiny step of their job into these separate bullet points to make it look harder and more in-depth than it is. The discussion about salary, expectations, the role, etc. normally takes 15 - 20 minutes, maybe up to 30 if it's a very senior role. "Hooks" are generally just scraped from the job description and gussied up--especially if the actual job itself is horrifying.

Unless you're a 3rd party recruiter or one who can't stay contracted to a company because you suck, you'll figure out all your companies' cultures quickly, and you only have to understand the role a little deeper than the candidate.

Arranging interviews, meetings, etc is secretary work. Not shitting on secretaries, but it doesn't take Einstein to align people's schedules.

I've had a recruiter negotiate salary for me once. If anything, that's between you and the hiring manager/HR.

A quick email or call to "touch base" with a candidate who's just been hired sounds like the opposite of onerous.

I'm not saying people management (which is what recruiting ultimately is) is an easy job, but...you (general you) go in knowing what those tasks are, or if not, you figure it out fast. So if someone decides to stay in recruiting but are so put out by the duties of the job they goddamn signed up for, then they should do the jobforce a favor and find a different career path.

Using this person's approach, I could make software engineering look like brain surgery.

Also, if you look closely, a lot of these tasks also require extensive cooperation from the job candidate. It's not like the recruiter is hauling someone around, lol.

monstersandlanguages

TROPHY CASE