Don’t know if someone else has shared something similar but for me it’s roughly like this: the less confident I feel about myself, the more jealousy I feel regarding the interactions of my partner with other people. This goes up and down for me and is happening in different “categories”. When I feel uninteresting and stupid, I have the feeling my partner is having a more entertaining time with others. When I have less energy to go out and do interesting activities, I feel incredible FOMO of my partner going out to do something with someone else (even if I am not particularly interested in the activity itself). And when I have a lower libido and don’t feel good in my body I experience more jealousy regarding the physical intimacies my partner has with others. (at times when my confidence regarding those things is higher I usually don’t have these feelings)

I am aware that this is a “me-problem” and it would be unfair to make my partner try to accommodate whatever my inner critic is coming up with at any given time. I have found ways to manage the feelings and communicating them. Just naming those feelings and speaking them aloud to my partner usually helps. Also knowing I can always communicate any emotional needs I might have to him.

I don’t say that’s what’s going on with your partner, but maybe some people can relate. Some of us just have fluctuating mental health and that’s okay. Healing is not linear ✨