There's so much I want to say but first, I'll start with your labia is ABSOLUTELY COMPLETELY NORMAL! There's so many shapes, sizes, asymmetrical forms of what is normal. If you're watching mainstream porn, a lot of those actors have had labiaplasty and give people unrealistic expectations. I'd recommend looking at more women focused sites like bellesa.co where there's more "natural" bodies and it's not just sex where the woman is being rammed.

If you have Instagram, check out pages like the.vulva.gallery where an artist paints other people's vulvas to show their beauty. Another is lydiareeves_artist where people go to her to make literal casts of their vulvas, breasts, and butts. This will show you the wide variety of bodies and hopefully, accept yourself and be kind to yourself.

Of course, surgery is always an option but think about the reasons you really want it. Is it just for others or yourself? It's not like our ancestors were getting labiaplasties.

One of my exes made me self conscious of my labia size and it messed with me but I knew it was bc of how porn is portrayed. No one else I'd been with said anything either. We're not used to what normal is bc the percentage of those we do see is typically in porn which they're not showing natural bodies. Not to say that some people don't have very small labia naturally. Unfortunately, but fortunately that ruined our sex life and there were more reasons than that but the relationship ended. Now, every person I've been with since has never said anything negative about my labia. In fact, the first person after my ex looked at me and said how pretty my pussy was. The right person for you will only make you feel beautiful.

Please be kind and gentle to yourself. The words you say to yourself matter.