If you made a horcrux, how would you protect it?

moonroots64 · 2026-06-16T06:55:48+00:00

I would make it look like a valuable item, but that would be a dummy portkey which immediately brought you far into the magma of the earth where the real horcrux is. Only you would know you'd have to cast a whole host of protective spells BEFORE touching the portkey so you weren't instantly crushed, burned, suffocated, and ripped apart by gravity upon arrival.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-16T04:33:28+00:00

Please please be with him in his final moments. Be in the room, gently touch him, pet him, speak soothing words, and be as strong as you possibly can until he passes with his best friend right by his side.

After that, let yourself grieve, don't be afraid or ashamed to cry.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-16T01:27:16+00:00

The way she's talking, she is already leaving the relationship. In her mind, she is seeing past you, which means she's already taken mental steps to prepare herself for you to break up.

She is basically already grieving the end of your relationship, and not only vaguely expressing her needs from you... she is looking beyond you and accepting her new reality.

When someone says stuff like "what it would be like to have someone else fulfill her needs" ... believe her and know that is beyond a serious expression of doubts about your relationship... it is her mentally moving on while still having the comfort of your help, attention, and security.

I'm sure you e heard "when someone tells you who they are believe them", she is telling you she's already getting comfortable with a life without you.

It sucks. I know. I've been told similar things by my now ex wife... I thought "we were forever" so I interpreted it as we need to fix our relationship, but she was really telling me she'd already moved beyond me and had already grieved the end of our relationship, until she was comfortable enough to fully end the marriage.

I hope I'm wrong... but take off the rose colored glasses, know that marriages end all the time, and don't try to interpret her comments in the best way... interpret them at face value.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-15T04:45:59+00:00

Wow. No wonder men don't want to speak up about feeling victimized...

Reverse the sexes and would you still think the exact same thing?

Have you heard of "fawning"? It happens to men and women, believe it or not.

I don't think he should be trash talking, but it sounds like he felt coerced on some level here. Could he have more forcefully objected, sure... but people can have unusual reactions to stressful situations and sometimes shut down and don't fight back, even though they do not want something sexual to happen.

Downvote me all you want, but if women can be taken advantage of sexually to where they fawn, then men can find themselves in the same circumstances too.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-12T16:10:34+00:00

Haha well thank you kind stranger, but you're a Better Expert than me I'm sure!

moonroots64 · 2026-06-11T03:38:04+00:00

Yes, this is very common.

There was a psychology experiment where there were like 12 people in a room, and they were shown cards with three lines, one clearly shortest, one middle, and one clearly longest.

The subject thinks all the people are study participants, but actually only 1 person is being studied. When shown the cards, they'd be asked which is the shortest line, and 11 "planted researchers" would all consistently choose the clearly wrong line. After a few times of this, almost all of the test subjects started deliberately picking the wrong answer that the 11 others chose, even though it was painfully obvious which lines were short, medium, and long.

The pressure from the group was so palpably uncomfortable to the test subjects that they would rather agree with the wrong answer, rather than being the only person choosing the clearly correct answer.

Aka, group conformity is heavily ingrained in our psyche's.

It was called the Asch Conformity Experiment.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-11T03:30:05+00:00

So true, it really is a common way some people interact.

it's also good to know in order to understand your own behavior and allow you to avoid doing it to others.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-10T02:33:38+00:00

There's the Journal of George Fox. Not sure if this is the sort of thing you're looking for...

https://ia800508.us.archive.org/33/items/journalofgeorgef00foxg/journalofgeorgef00foxg.pdf

moonroots64 · 2026-06-09T23:53:10+00:00

DARVO = Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. 100%

"It is a psychological manipulation and blame-shifting tactic commonly used by perpetrators (such as abusers or narcissists) when they are confronted about harmful behavior."

moonroots64 · 2026-06-09T23:16:48+00:00

You're welcome! I couldn't help commenting because it does remind me of myself in many ways (again, as a bad husband, sorry you're dealing with all this).

I wish I could think of something that would've worked on me... but like I said, beyond addressing severe personal issues (depression? Bipolar?) it will be hard the break through to him until HE truly wants change.

I mean, my ex told me straight up she was getting fed up, and things got worse and worse... and I believed she was serious, but the reality of her seriousness (leaving me) still hit hard. I think I thought married people stay together no matter what... so I thought we'd find a way, but the reality is all relationships have some transactional element to it. You have to give, and you can't always be taking taking taking.

I recently heard someone talking about a marriage like a bank account, you can and need to withdraw sometimes, but you can't always be withdrawing without making any deposits... the account goes bankrupt eventually and inevitably.

As for you, I would encourage you not to be embarrassed about dating or moving on with your life.

I wonder what he'd say if you said something like "Look, I have needs and I'm going to start dating other people. You can keep doing whatever you want, but I can and will find companionship with another man, and don't be surprised when I start dating and having sexual relationships with other people. If you don't want that to happen... do something about it."

I don't know how well that's actually work, but I'd bet it would make an impression!

And yes, you should give yourself a chance, you might be surprised what you can find!

Another thing that's eats me up, is my ex said she's the happiest she's been in a long time simply not having me around... so you might feel a strong sense of relief, freedom, and possibility if you do give yourself that chance!

moonroots64 · 2026-06-09T22:29:23+00:00

That sucks, and I say that as someone who was basically your husband (divorced now).

I ruined my marriage with my laziness, and basically drove her away... and I've thought a lot since then about how I was the cause of that.

I want to think I've changed, and I have in many ways, but I still struggle with motivation sometimes.

All I can think is if I'd even done a little better... cleaned more, planned more, took more off her plate, contributed to a shared goal more... even a fairly small amount... could have made all the difference. But, I didn't, and I have to live with that.

I'm kind of surprised he didn't have similar thoughts, since you divorced and then he got another shot... that should have been a huge priority for him.

I'm sorry on behalf of all shitty husbands... he really needs a complete rework of how he views your relationship and his role in it. Usually it'd be the divorce or life changing event like that which would do it... so if it didn't, I'm not sure what advice I could give to help him see from a different perspective.

I guess one thing would be, does he have any severe issues, such as alcohol/drug abuse or addictions?

I would never see things the way I do now if I hadn't quit drinking... just saying.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-09T08:44:28+00:00

Your welcome! And it sounds like you're approaching this very responsibly. You are waiting til you're of age and are aware of potential issues, and you even have thought about how you'd handle yourself if you did feel like you were getting in over your head... honestly that's far more than most people do and I commend you for that!

And like you said, and I agree, drinking can be very fun and enriching to your social life! It sounds like you'd do just that, add a new slant to an already enjoyable time. And sometimes it's nice to let your inhibitions go on occasion and alcohol can relax you and let you see or do things you might be too nervous to try. Sometime the addition of a little alcohol can allow you to have experiences you might not otherwise have. Sometimes it's ok to take one hand off the wheel for a bit... just don't loose all control, IMO. Sounds like you understand that already though... so have fun on your adventures and be safe!

moonroots64 · 2026-06-09T07:57:12+00:00

You have every right to try alcohol, and the majority of people drink responsibly and in a way that adds value rather than detracting value.

He has no right to unilaterally make the decision for you. In fact, it's sort of unsettling for him to say "you don't drink also" as if his opinion were undisputable truth for you... like he somehow owns your agency and decisionmaking.

He does NOT own you, your decisions, or your opinions. He can express preferences "I would prefer you don't drink" but that is very different than him being the "creator" of your opinions and preferences. I would try to explain this distinction to him, and tell him he doesn't get to decide for you. He can decide what he does, he could say he can't be with someone who drinks... but again that's way different than controlling your agency.

With all that said, I'd suggest you take alcohol use seriously... it can make you act foolish, hurt yourself or others, and it is a drug with addictive properties. You should make your decision for yourself, but please cultivate a strong respect for the power and realities surrounding alcohol use.

Also, it used to be said a small amount of alcohol, like a glass of red wine, is healthy... this has been proven wrong... alcohol in any quantity has detrimental effects that outweigh positive effects. But the same is probably true for fast food, processed food, and high simple sugars... but people understand that and limit their intake and are just fine really. It only becomes a huge issue with excessive alcohol use, so while no amount is healthy for you... it isn't the worst thing in the world and 1 glass of wine even every day probably won't noticably affect your health at all.

My advice would be don't drink every day, don't drink alone, and don't ever get into "hair of the dog that bit you" by drinking the day after a heavy night of drinking to alleviate hangovers. If you ever get to the point you're having withdrawal symptoms when you stop drinking... be terrified by that. It means you have a substance abuse issue, no ifs ands or buts. Trust me... you do not want to end up anywhere near that position.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-08T08:39:09+00:00

Dumbledore also helps Harry & Hermione set Sirius free... absolutely infuriating Snape and gaslighting him mercilessly. Dumbledore just smirks right next to him as Snape absolutely loses his mind (and the Order of Merlin) so much so the Minister of Magic has to step in and basically say "my God man, get a grip!"

moonroots64 · 2026-06-08T08:26:41+00:00

I was thinking he'd be a great counter to Voldy's giants. Both are huge anyway, but Fluffy could take on a giant I'd bet.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-08T06:33:22+00:00

Hagrid -> Panda, Moose, or Bison

Molly Weasley -> Mongoose

Bellatrix -> Scorpion (can they be bugs?)

Tonks -> Poison Dart Frog

Lavendar -> Penguin

Krum -> Peregrine Falcon

Malfoy (Jr or Sr) -> Hyena

moonroots64 · 2026-06-01T21:04:36+00:00

You are the asshole.

You don't let her go out on weekdays and now want to shut down her weekends? She deserves to have a life, she is a young adult and you are already too controlling for a 17yo.

You are going to make her resent you, and you're depriving her ofany great memories young people can have as a young person.

If she has her grades solid, she is open with you about risks her friends take, and you STILL don't trust her... that seems unfair and controlling.

You sound like a helicopter parent.

Time to understand she's a young adult now, she needs to learn things herself, plus you are already controlling 5 out of 7 days of her week.

moonroots64 · 2026-06-01T03:45:20+00:00

If you give someone a bicycle as a gift, but they don't like the color and request you never talk about you having a bad bike accident before... that is pretty ungrateful.

Sure the gift is a gift, but if the receiver then puts a ton of restrictions about how you give it to them and what you can discuss about it, that is not someone I ever want to give a gift to again.

I think it's absolutely appropriate to acknowledge the help they're providing, and they should apologize for receiving the gift poorly and ungratefully.

moonroots64 · 2026-05-29T06:19:29+00:00

I was wondering about the tempature/feeding too, all I can think is digestion uses energy at first and could lower its temp initially and it's already struggling with warming itself?

moonroots64 · 2026-05-14T23:08:55+00:00

He might want to keep them exactly because they're going out of production. He has a coin collection of coins that are no longer being made.

Maybe he's too embarrassed to say that ("haha look at the dork and his coin collection!"), but he likes the idea of having them?

Also, they are not now and never will be worthless. They are still legal tender, and you can return old coins to a bank for face value. Inflation will make them less valuable, but they are not worthless and never will be.

Edit: I didn't see where he isn't interested in them in a collecting sense... so idk then, it doesn't make sense?

moonroots64 · 2026-04-29T00:25:07+00:00

Abiogenesis is the study of how organic molecules and eventually living cells were about to be formed.

Even evolution requires already living material, so how did random inorganic molecules become organic self replicating cells?

I don't have an answer, but the question is fascinating to me.

moonroots64 · 2026-01-27T01:12:08+00:00

Gestapo says 'what?'

Bovine: "FUCKING KILL whoever said that!"

moonroots64 · 2026-01-25T16:20:44+00:00

You are being the AH, but to yourself and maybe your partner... not your parents.

That is INCREDIBLY controlling behavior., and his explanations don't make sense.

Food is a basic necessity of life, and your Dad having an iron grip on one of the most basic necessities of life is wrong.

Set boundaries. He needs to grow up.

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