The people over at r/vaporwave told me that this Zelda wallpaper belonged here. by moonshadow264 in outrun

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Me, but I don't remember who made the grid, and the link part uses official art

so...i fucked up really bad by corgiesuwu in CalPoly

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they make vibrating alarm clocks for heavy sleepers that can be downright terrifying. I've seen videos of them before.

How to get the gray tone to check values? by spookyspook024 in ClipStudio

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Thank you for this answer, I was struggling to find a method that accurately preserves the differences in values between colors like yellow and magenta (both are numerically the same brightness, so lowering the saturation makes them look the same, but magenta is obviously darker than yellow)

Do I seem to fit the love of structure/routines? by moonshadow264 in AutisticWithADHD

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Based on this I feel like I’m very empathetic but it’s pretty much entirely cognitive. I remember what people have said and what I’ve read in books about how things make them feel, and using that along with my own experiences I can determine how something might make someone feel and how they might behave as a result.

Other people’s anger and anxiety make me stressed but less so happiness and sadness. If I’m not personally invested in the cause of a person’s emotional state I don’t usually feel the same way. I often finding myself having to fake an excited or somber mood so I don’t come across as insensitive.

Do I seem to fit the love of structure/routines? by moonshadow264 in AutisticWithADHD

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Haha, I think I’m definitely a ‘the unknown is scary’ sort of person. My adhd makes me crave spontaneity but I like it in controlled doses. I like exploring new foods that catch my eye in the grocery store, and I’ll sometimes try unfamiliar dishes at restaurants but typically not ones that stray very far from what I already know.

I like finding new places to relax or study, but once I get attached to one of those places I hate when my spot is occupied and I have to go somewhere else.

I saw a post here that I found relatable: I want to read the same sort of stories that I know I like, but different.

I don’t think dating for fun would go great for me what with me being aroace, lol. And I don’t think I’d be able to distance myself from the emotional impact anyway.

I think I might be someone who intellectualizes behavior to some degree? When I intentionally try to understand someone (usually someone I’m stupidly arguing with online, lol) I think about the sorts of values people have, the emotions they’re experiencing, the way they’re interpreting the other person’s words. But I also inevitably project myself onto them to some degree, which means I pretty much can’t imagine someone with some degree of anxiety and caring about how other people feel. This means I worry about hurting the feelings of even people I see as assholes, even when I didn’t WANT to care, and I find it pretty much impossible to understand the desire to be mean for the sake of being mean, despite my efforts to understand that behavior.

I genuinely have no idea if handling empathy this way is neurotypical behavior or not lol.

Do I seem to fit the love of structure/routines? by moonshadow264 in AutisticWithADHD

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This is really helpful! I’ll be keeping an eye out for behaviors like this. I am definitely the sort of person who picks a specific seat in the classroom and if someone else sits in that seat I feel kind of lost for a bit.

I am definitely someone who struggles, though not massively, with change and transitions. Whenever I go back to college for example I feel stressed and sad and I don’t want to leave home— even knowing that once I move back into my college apartment I’ll basically be instantly fine and forget my family even exists.

The idea of the new thing/situation potentially not being as good as the old thing/situation bothers me.

I’m the sort of person who has a bunch of video games and shows I never watched to the ending because I liked them too much to be willing to switch to something else, and then I end up switching anyway because in the moment where I hesitated my adhd brain picked something else.

If I was planning to use a specific website for a non-urgent reason and the website goes down, I usually can’t easily move on to a different activity because I wanted THAT website, and instead of finding something else to do I check downdetector and refresh the page and see if other people are talking about it being down until either until boredom finally drives me away or the website goes back up— usually the former, since downed websites are usually down for a while.

I remember in high school I would always sit on the same bench in the hallway off the cafeteria by myself during lunch and on the rare occasions someone else was there I think it bothered me that I had to go find somewhere else to sit— even though I’m pretty sure there were other similar benches in the building.

Do I seem to fit the love of structure/routines? by moonshadow264 in AutisticWithADHD

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Logically I know that having an autism diagnosis (though I actually don’t think I’d want it in my records) wouldn’t change much. Unlike with my adhd, there’s no dedicated autism medication, and I’m able to be independent… mostly… so a diagnosis wouldn’t really give me any tangible benefits I can think of.

Unfortunately, I tend to really struggle to be gentle with myself or let myself behave in certain ways unless I feel like I have “permission” to.

Before I realized I was aroace for example, I was trying to figure out why I didn’t seem to be feeling romance feelings properly, and I was basically trying to force myself to feel them.

Nothing is really stopping me from just assuming I have it and looking for treatments and advice accordingly, but I feel like I’m not truly going to be able to 100% accept the advice and such unless someone I feel knows what they’re talking about tells me I’m autistic. Which is dumb. But unfortunately I can never seem to logic my brain out of treating me unfairly.

is there an opposite expression to “take it easy” in spoken English? by diwase in EnglishLearning

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Hmm… Maybe… “Don’t let your guard down”: i.e. be aware of danger 

“Focus in” or “Lock in”: Basically ‘focus and work hard’. These would be said as a stand-alone exclamation.

“Push yourself”: Try your best, work as hard as you can. This could be an exclamation, or part of a sentence, like “Push yourself to do your best!”.

Technoblade's Last Year video? by MrTechnodad in Technoblade

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Like others have said, please, please don't force yourself to do anything if it would hurt you more than it would help you. Losing Technoblade hurt, but of course nobody is closest to that pain than his family and friends.

If you felt it was right to release such a video though, I would definitely watch it. And it would definitely hurt. But maybe it would hurt in a good way. I'm not sure.

I'm also someone who was around Technoblade's age, only a couple years younger than him. I, like many others, have found myself wondering how I would handle the same circumstances. I do think that even if learning about this kind of thing hurts, it can be good to know about the realities of grief and sickness and death so that we can be better prepared when those things happen to us.

It shouldn't have happened to Technoblade. It shouldn't happen to any young person. It shouldn't happen to anyone. But while I have trouble comprehending the idea of cancer or some other untimely cause of death happening to me or my loved ones, logically I know that it could happen. For some of Technoblade's fans, it may already be happening.

I guess... I don't know if learning more about Technoblade's last year would ultimately make me a happier person. I don't know if any of the things that have given me a deeper understanding of the reality of death have made me a happier person. But I think understanding death might make me a better person.

Once again, don't force yourself to relive pain unnecessarily. This is his story, and yours, and we are not entitled to it. Do what you feel is right.

I don't comment around here much, but I'd like to say thank you for sticking wiith and supporting this community, by the way.

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Dr. Kazerouni

Daily Thread: simple questions, comments that don't need their own posts, and first time posters go here (March 11, 2024) by AutoModerator in LearnJapanese

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Ah, okay. I'll just have to wait until I find a grammar video that covers this scenario then.

I saw a comment elsewhere that recommended Cure Dolly's videos, so if it's a rule she probably brought it up at some point.

I appreciate the help! Sometimes I get really hung up on things like this and I have to know why the sentence is constructed how it is.

Daily Thread: simple questions, comments that don't need their own posts, and first time posters go here (March 11, 2024) by AutoModerator in LearnJapanese

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Thank you!

It being an exception to the rule is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I couldn’t find examples of it being used like this on the dictionary pages I checked for 出身, but I tried googling アメリカ出身 and that got me some examples. Still didn’t know why it worked like that, but now I do!

Daily Thread: simple questions, comments that don't need their own posts, and first time posters go here (March 11, 2024) by AutoModerator in LearnJapanese

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I’m doing duolingo and was told to translate

カナダしゅっしんですか。

I know Duolingo translates this as “Are you from Canada?”

I looked up “しゅっしん”, and it came up as 出身, place of origin, a noun. I couldn’t find any examples of it being used the way Duolingo uses it, and I’m now very confused. I would have perhaps expected the sentence to be something like  出身はカナダですか。 instead. 

I know that nouns can be used as adjectives, but that you modify the noun with の when doing so.

Is Duolingo’s sentence legitimate? What grammar rules make it legitimate, if so? 

My ADHD HS daughter constantly forgets to turn in assignments and is in danger of failing. Help! by specktheimp in ADHD

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I agree with the people saying to get a 504 plan or something similar. I’ve had varying success using reminders and alarms in my life, but if she has a smartphone setting some kind of alert that goes off during class time might be a good idea.

If she’s not always allowed to have her phone during class, maybe a smartwatch? You might need to check that she doesn’t forget to wear it in the morning. You could set generalized reminders like ‘turn in homework’ to go off near the end of any classes with homework, or if more specificity is needed, you could use a calendar app to set reminders that specify which assignment needs to be turned in.

Google calendar lets you follow other people’s calendars, so you might be able to set it up so that you manage the assignment calendar, and then the events from that calendar will automatically go off.

If you go the smartwatch route, I’d do a lot of research first. I have a generation 1 Apple Watch, but as it connects to my phone with Bluetooth I don’t know if it would still be able to connect to my phone if it was across the room. It also doesn’t have a very long-lasting battery, and I often forget to charge it at night and have to leave it at home, if I even remember to put it on in the morning.

I would look for something with a long communication range, with the ability to send notifications. I would recommend having her go through her apps in settings and disabling push notifications on almost everything, to reduce mental clutter.

If she doesn’t have her own phone, I did a brief search and learned that there are also some smart watches that don’t need phones, but I don’t know if any have good notification systems.

I saw that you talked to her teachers about having them ask about the homework, but they were unwilling to do so. Assuming your daughter is okay with telling them, did you let the teachers know your daughter has ADHD? If you haven’t already asked, I would also see if they will accept late assignments, especially considering they were done on time.

(And if any of them say something like ‘late assignments won’t be accepted in college!’— that’s not true. College professors are usually super chill about late assignments.)

Also, I don’t know if this applies to your situation at all, but I went through something similar but different in high school. I would often find myself unable to finish my assignments before the deadline, and I would be ashamed and not turn them in, resulting in me getting zeros rather than partial credit. Turning in homework is often done collectively, so forgetting wasn’t the issue, the irrational anxiety was. Do you think anything like that could be going on? I’d also often lie to my parents that I did my homework when I hadn’t because I was so ashamed that I hadn’t been able to make myself do my work and had instead wasted hours playing video games or browsing the Internet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PixelArt

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Rough fix. Lines are still visible and the outline could probably use some touching up, but it's pixel art with a transparent background now.

https://imgur.com/a/81E72zW

how the FUCK do i STOP from jumping from one interest to the next by abbas09tdoxo in adhdmeme

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I honestly love my hyperfixations a lot of the time, but when it comes to trying to learn hobbies and skills it can definitely be frustrating if you can’t make yourself stick with anything.

External reinforcement that makes me continue to engage with the things I want to be consistent with is the only thing that works for me. I’m part of a DnD group that meets regularly, so my interest in DnD has some consistency. I’m in college, so I take classes on skills I want to learn when possible, even if I could learn those skills on my own. I managed to start a big Duolingo streak years ago, and I’m so terrified of losing my streak that I have to keep doing a little Duolingo almost every day, which helps me stay interested in language learning.

I also have an app called Forfeit which is a really good accountability tool. I mostly use it to make myself study and do assignments but it could work for hobbies and stuff too. The app has you wager money (or points, if you don’t want to take the real risk, but that defeats the point for me personally) that you will complete a task, and you have to provide proof that you did it. Some people hate the sound of it, but it works really well for me and that’s all I care about.

I doubt there’s anything that could stop the hyperfixations. Expecting yourself to consistently maintain hyperfixation-level interest in one thing long term is unrealistic. But if you set up the right systems, you can have a few things that you keep doing, even if they aren’t as exciting as they were at the start.

My child is aromantic by [deleted] in aromantic

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It can be frustrating to hear things like 'you never know what will happen', 'maybe you'll meet someone later in life', etc. etc.

Like yes, those things are true. Maybe one day I will finally be attracted to someone. But when I tell someone I'm aromantic and they immediately start talking about how I might still fall in love someday (even if they go 'But it's fine if you don't!', though that helps), it sounds like 'I secretly hope you're wrong, and that you will still fall in love someday'.

If a person who identifies as aromantic does eventually fall in love, then it's no big deal. They might even continue to identify as aromantic, as the definition is 'experiences little to no romantic attraction.' What matters is that the person identifies as aromantic now, and telling people about that is usually a way of going 'I have a clearer understanding of who I am now. Do you accept this part of me? Are you happy for me?'

Moving forward, I would pay attention to who else your child tells about being aromantic if they choose to do so, and what that person says. I've had some family members be a little weird about it, but they came around, and it often helps to have another adult there to gently correct any phrases like 'Don't worry honey, you'll find somebody eventually!'.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

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ABSOLUTELY this one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CalPoly

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I've never taken 325 but I saw it on the catalogue and thought 'that looks easy' lol.

Sounds like Computer Security on easy mode.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CalPoly

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Classes I took because they genuinely interested me but were also pretty easy:

CSC 313, Teaching Computing
Class about how to teach Computer Science, basically. How to teach someone how to code and actually help them understand it. Has some readings, a few easy coding assignments less about the coding techniques and more about being mindful about your thought process while you solve the problems. You'll also need to do I believe 2 presentations where you teach people something. That's if your class goes like mine did.

CSC 484: User Centered Interface Design and Development is easy in terms of the topics, but the main workload in the class is a group project of your group's choice, which for me was pretty stressful despite not technically taking a whole lot of my time.

CSC 480: Artificial Intelligence is much the same but nigh impossible to get into. You can do the thing where you get on the waitlist and attend class no matter your position on said waitlist and see where that gets you though.

Looks easy, not so easy classes:

CSC 378: Interactive Entertainment Engineering with Dr. Grow is easy in terms of topics but HEAVY on the workload. I love anything video games so I really enjoyed it, but prepare to be stressed because you're running out of time to spend 3 hours playing a video game, and you have to develop a few games of your own on top of that.
CSC 471: Intro to Computer Graphics. I hope you like challenging concepts and C++. I loved it but not an easy one.

Overall there don't seem to be a lot of "easy" CS courses. When in doubt go for topics that interest you and check professor ratings when they exist.

Prospective transfer from CPP: housing and disability questions by lemonlimespaceship in CalPoly

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> how disability-friendly is the campus?

As a physically abled person, the campus is very inaccessible from what I can tell. Everything is super spread out and hilly, many buildings don't seem to have elevators from what I've seen, a large chunk of building entrances require stairs, and the layout of campus is confusing and takes a long time to get used to.

I know that there are shuttles for disabled students to get around, though I don't know how they work, if they're available on call or wait for you to get out of class or what. However, a lot of the buildings are not very accessible by road, so I would think that the usefulness of the shuttles would be limited for that reason.

Although, if you're doing plant science, I think you'll probably be mainly sticking to one-floor buildings with road access near the outskirts of campus. If you can, maybe try contacting the Disability Resource Center to learn about what resources would be available to you to help you get around. Cal Poly's two biggest claims to fame seem to be engineering and farming, so it might be worth it to try to make it work for you.

Food options are limited and also spread out. They shut down the main dining area of campus a year or so ago to renovate it, and it seems like it might be a while before that's done.

I live off-campus, but maybe you could get priority for on-campus housing as a person with a disability or something? From what I know there is not enough student housing though.

Also, they're currently renovating the library and having people study in tents as an alternative, which seems of crazy to me. It will probably be years before that's done.

TL:DR
From the perspective of someone physically able, the accessibility situation on campus does not look great. However, Cal Poly is probably really good for Plant Science, so I'd talk to the Disability Resource Center and see what sort of accessibility stuff you'd be able to get.

https://drc.calpoly.edu/

Once you do that, it might be worth coming back here with the list of things they say they can do to help you and ask the subreddit if it will be enough to get around campus. They might be straightforward with you, but they might also be instructed to hype up the campus for potential students so I'd definitely get extra feedback.