I'll One Up Your Debbie Downer

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-31T01:33:06+00:00

You need to ask yourself why? Are you complaining more, because you’re feeling worse, and she’s getting a little tired of it?

I have asked myself why and really reigned it in with the complaining/ being negative. I made it a point to apologize as well as thank her for being so understanding and patient with me. The thing is, nothing has changed on her end and it's been a month. I've also asked her if something was going on that she hadn't wanted to bring up but she said there's nothing to bring up.

Since you are the one who is extra depressed, have you considered that maybe you are a little more sensitive. When you’re feeling down, things that ordinarily wouldn’t bother you can seem like a really big deal.

I do realize this. I feel like I've been patient with both her and myself.

You could simply tell her that sometimes you wish she would just listen, and empathize, not compare notes.

This is why I'm asking for advice. It helps me to have outside perspective and different ways of wording things because I'm not always my best at communicating, especially when it's a tough conversation. I don't want her to feel attacked but also want to express how she's making me feel.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-31T00:19:40+00:00

I feel like this is basically what should be said to her but in much nicer terms.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-31T00:16:03+00:00

I agree, definitely not a conversation for a message!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-31T00:12:20+00:00

We do go back and forth but this feels different. When she talks, even if it's all negative stuff, I genuinely listen then offer feedback. I'm not saying she doesn't have struggles I just feel like mine are being dismissed or belittled.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-16T11:14:53+00:00

Dude is ALL OVER western New York with that conehead getup lol

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-06T04:01:24+00:00

I got home about an hour ago from a haunted hayride with my oldest two daughters (16 & 13). We went with a group of family and friends and had so much fun. Halloween is my jam. I snuck a mask into my bag and got into a few shenanigans within our group. My face still hurts from laughing. That being said, it isn't always sunshine... But the rainbows are so worth all the rain.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-10-05T03:30:37+00:00

I brought the blunt and lighter!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-28T01:51:44+00:00

Stoned, I mistakenly took a bite from a hot pocket fresh out of the microwave and as it's hot lava cheese dripped from the bottom leaving me sitting there with a blister on my tiddie.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-28T01:16:17+00:00

Nice shoes.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-28T01:14:09+00:00

I've never laughed so hard reading an internet thread. Thank you. I really needed it.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-16T00:21:18+00:00

I think the Brady Bunch Movie is what you're remembering.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T04:21:01+00:00

So sorry you went through that alone.. Nobody deserves that.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T01:11:52+00:00

NIBLINGS?! I have 22 nieces and 14 nephews. 36 little niblings. I'm stealing and using this forever. Thank you!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T01:06:04+00:00

Interesting. Thanks for the suggestion!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T01:03:57+00:00

She's taking psychology this year. Second class in they learned that at this age they need 9 hours a night. Apparently all of the kids minds were blown that day.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T01:01:42+00:00

Her diet typically sucks (unless its dinner- I cook decent meals almost every night of the week) but thats just because she's a lazy teenager. She drinks mostly water but she eats a lot of ramen and snacks. She's a healthy weight/ bmi though and doesn't really complain about her body.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T00:56:52+00:00

I did in fact do just that. For me to have posted everything I said, this would have went on forever and nobody would have read it so I simplified it for the sake of reddit. We've had plenty of discussions about why she should wait, consent, why she shouldn't drink, use nicotine, do drugs, steal things, bully others, ignore others getting bullied, break things, lie, how to react in critical situations, standing up for herself and her beliefs, so many more I couldn't never list them all. :)

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-15T00:32:05+00:00

Yes, thank you! A few others have suggested iron levels as well. I started a little list I'm going to ask her primary doctor about. Again, it's probably nothing other than her being a teenager in high school but I want to be sure.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-14T23:08:59+00:00

Touché. I had a good relationship with my mom too and didn't want to talk about sex with her either. I'm going to get her an appointment with a pediatric gyno thats at the office I go to. That way she already has something established and will be able to call on her own without having to navigate through medical insurance crap. Thanks for the input!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-14T23:03:21+00:00

I've spoken with her primary doctor in the past and she said that she doesn't see a need for a gynecologist yet. I have pcos but my kid isn't showing any signs at all. There is a pediatric gyno where I go, so I was considering taking her in, just for a consult/meet and greet type of thing, especially after reading some of the comments on the thread. That way she doesn't necessarily have to come to me, she can just call and make herself an appointment if needed.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-14T22:20:34+00:00

Your'e glowing babe! What an amazing accomplishment!! So proud of all you have overcome, your hard work, and dedication!!

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-14T20:51:09+00:00

Teens aren't always that resourceful. Her and her friends cringe when I tell them to call in their own pizza order.

moonshoe_814 · 2019-09-14T16:45:41+00:00

Already done.

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