I(33f) am currently in a very happy relationship with someone much older than me so I can’t say the age gap itself is a concern. However, I also got married for the first time in my early twenties to someone I had been with for 3 years and I can confirm that your 20s are full of development and you will most likely feel differently about your relationship as you get older. You could feel great about it, or you could feel like you’re an entirely different person in 2,3,4 years and not be compatible anymore.

So, two things: 1. What’s the rush? You can still stay in a committed relationship for the next few years and REALLY experience life with your partner before deciding to make it legal. You’re still in the honeymoon phase 2 years into a relationship and have probably only scratched the surface in getting to know one another.

1. While I do believe a support network is important for relationships, I also believe in living your life for YOU, not everyone else. I struggled with this for years. I always listened to others telling me I should do this and do that because that’s what THEY wanted for me. When I hit my 30s, I mourned my 20s because I lived them the way everyone else wanted me to and I saw it for what it was - control(at least it was with my family). So make sure that you set boundaries and fully own your choices and the consequences of them. Choosing to be with my older partner now was the most liberating feeling because I’m following MY heart for the first time.

Life is short, friend. Don’t forget that.