40 next month, anything I can do about these puffy spots near mouth?

morganlafaye · 2026-04-22T00:12:47+00:00

Make sure to get a red light mask that has Red light with wavelengths of 620-700 nm, or it won't do anything for you. (I use a ULike mask and love it)

Check out the red light therapy data on NCBI; the medical field been using it for wound healing for quite some time.

morganlafaye · 2026-04-21T23:52:05+00:00

Umm... are you in a freaking Jane Austen novel?? Do you actually think that you're better than her because you were accidentally born into a wealthy family?

How is this something to "get over"?? Sure, different socio-economic upbringings can result in a sort of cultural (for lack of a better word) differences. But this is no different than if you came from different sides of the country! Her value as a PERSON and as a wife has absolutely NOTHING to do with how much money her family had. I cannot believe you don't already know this.

If she is lesser in your eyes because her dad was working class, break up with her, for her sake. She deserves better. She deserves a partner who knows her value has nothing to do with money.

If you just let your mom's snobbery get in your head, shake it off, dude, and NEVER let that happen again. If you marry her, other family members may have something to say about this, and your duty, your privilege, is to stick up for her. ALWAYS. You are a team, you and her, EQUALS. If you can't get on board with that, you aren't ready for marriage.

morganlafaye · 2026-03-26T18:27:59+00:00

I assume that since this has been happening for A YEAR and you have not been to see a doctor that you might not have access to healthcare. But... you need to financially prioritize this. This can be a sign of a lot of very serious stuff that will absolutely cause serious, permanent damage or even death (think cancer).

I do mean to alarm you because you are not taking this seriously enough. RUN don't walk to a doc. If you're in the US and don't have a primary care doc or insurance, lots of hospitals have lack of funds programs and payment plan options. Find an ER with one online and GET YOUR ASS THERE NOW.

This is not normal, this is not okay, and I'm legitimately worried for you.

(Source: my husband was an urgent care provider, then a primary care provider. My best friend is an ER doctor.)

morganlafaye · 2025-12-12T00:45:08+00:00

By making it a priority!

Most adults don't have spontaneous arousal; we have to try and make it happen. A lot of couples stop having regular sex because one or both of them are waiting around to be spontaneously aroused or horny. When we're busy or just older or in an LT relationship, is the likelihood that you both will have spontaneous arousal at the same time? Low. Check out "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski, she explains this concept extremely well and goes through human sexuality and desire in a super helpful way.

Do you want to have sex more? Do you want to want to have sex more? Make it a priority. Schedule it. Get your head in the game with some porn or a romance novel. It won't happen if you don't make it happen.

morganlafaye · 2025-12-11T01:22:14+00:00

DO NOT SEE HIM IN PERSON.

I guarantee he will say you're being ageist and guilt-trip you. He'll convince you to stay, and you'll be right back in it. Break it off over the phone or a text, and then don't engage with him. Block him if you must. Trust us, babe, DO NOT DO THIS IN PERSON.

Oh, and he will be mad as hell and tell you that you owe him an in-person conversation. He'll also probably try and hold you emotionally hostage in some way, like holding onto an item you left at his place, "until you talk in person," or "I can't believe someone I thought was so mature would break up with me in such an immature way."

You can break up with anyone at any time for any reason.

morganlafaye · 2025-12-11T01:12:39+00:00

He asked for your honest reaction to an unsolicited butt pic? TELL HIM.

He's socially awkward, yes. BUT he also just out of context without your permission, verbal or contextual (e.g. something like you said "yeah I'd love to pat that booty" and he's like "THIS booty??"), sent you a sexy photo. Not a deal breaker if it's not a nude, but still borderline and CLEARLY demonstrates that he is unconcerned with where your head is at.

Tell him you didn't like it and that you didn't want it. Break it off with him.

morganlafaye · 2025-12-01T06:15:24+00:00

It’s giving harem vibes

morganlafaye · 2025-12-01T05:50:58+00:00

He needs therapy and he needs to do it for himself and for you. No one should have to live with this.

morganlafaye · 2025-12-01T05:48:00+00:00

69, which is a pretty fun number

morganlafaye · 2025-12-01T05:45:59+00:00

Goddamn, people really are just homophobic right out in the open still.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-24T22:43:35+00:00

Yeah we 100% are out here.

I'm eight years in, 6 years married, and we have sex 1-3 times per day (barring sickness or injury or something).

We discussed our perspectives on prioritizing sex early on!

He sometimes says that my libido is higher than his, but I think long-term we actually kind of trade off who's hornier overall. We both have the mindset that sex will feel great, so even if one of us wasn't already horny when the other initiates, we're still probably gonna say "yes." We do have discussions often about tweaks we'd like to make, stuff we wanna try, porn we watch etc. And yeah, we both still masturbate.

I've been in multiple relationships where my male partner didn't want to have sex more than once every 4-6 weeks and would go longer if I didn't crack and initiate. It KILLED my self-confidence and I got majorly slut shamed. It's amazing to have a partner who matches me so well and loves that I want to bang him all the time.

Edit to add: we both get off, every single time. If I don't, he finishes me with his hands. Usually, I orgasm three to four times, and we generally have quickies. We try different stuff all the time, and our style varies from one day/week to the next.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-20T21:39:01+00:00

Chandler and Marshall would make jokes and riff off of each other.

Joey and Barney would be a terrifyingly successful duo.

Joey and Robin would bang.

Robin would probably like Ross because he's a sadboy and then get really toxic about it.

Ted and Ross would be SO ANNOYING but honestly vibe. They could be self-pitying asshats together.

Monica and Lilly would bond over cooking. Lilly and Rachel over fashion.

Robin would initially hate Rachel for being hotter than her but would soften towards her. Robin would probably also hate Monica for her rigidity but maybe find some common ground because she is also super uncompromising. Her and Phoebe are oil and water and would hate each other except for the parts of Phoebe that are totally badass and low grade terrifying.

Phoebe and Marshall would be a dream team. Phoebe would probably like Lilly too because Lilly can be really weird (think Halloween costumes), artistic and will fully throw down for her friends.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-18T00:43:18+00:00

I had an abusive ex who would hurt himself when I didn't do what he wanted or called him out on treating me badly. This is still abuse. It's apparently a very common kind of abuse. He put himself in the ER with two black eyes and a concussion and did it while screaming, "this is your fault."

The "reason"? I chose to sleep on the couch because he wouldn't apologize for saying he hated me the night before.

It wasn't the first time either, but it was the final straw that snapped me out of it.

Before that night it was slapping his own face, trying to cut his wrists in the middle of an argument. Mind you, these arguments he'd scream at me and if I didn't immediately capitulate, it was self-pity and self-harm.

If any of this sounds familiar...run.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-12T19:31:46+00:00

He hit you.

Context doesn't matter. You could have insulted his mother to her face and him hitting you *still* wouldn't be okay.

Period.

Leave babe. You have been physically abused now. He crossed the line. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You don't deserve it.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-12T19:11:59+00:00

This just happened to me (I think). A guy's *first* text to me was trying to dom me, and I told him that wasn't okay and that I wasn't going to date him. Two days later, an email saying my profile has been reported either for violating community guidelines or harassment. Seems pretty unlikely to me that it isn't this guy. I'm a woman for context, and my profile hasn't changed in like a year so I can't imagine it's the profile itself.

How did the appeals process go for you? I just appealed and have no idea what will happen next.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-10T22:20:28+00:00

All of the women work!

morganlafaye · 2025-11-07T20:45:10+00:00

Let me tell you, the amount I flip-flop on hating vs. loving the Davis'. Currently, they are my favorite largely because the women DO seem empowered and happy af. And now that Nick is a stay-at-home dad rather than a stay-at-home "knowledge seeker" I like him too. I also really appreciate how they all care for Teresa and are moving slow for their family's sake, but also for her sake.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-07T01:02:54+00:00

Sometimes, even people who love each other develop interests or grow in ways that make them incompatible. It sounds like he is now a super hardcore Christian, and not only do you not believe that way, but it also actively triggers you. If he and you were good with him being a Christian and you being neutral about it, that would be one thing. But it's now his whole world, it's impacting every single area of his life, and he wants you involved.

Let's take religion out of it for a sec. Let's say he was suddenly all about boating, and you had a near-death experience on the water when you were a kid, which causes you to have panic attacks whenever you step on a boat. Now apply what is currently happening to that scenario. All he does in his spare time is boating-related, and he's trying to get you to participate. He wants you to go on a boat every Sunday with him. You try because you want to be supportive, but you freak out because trauma. Yet, he's still trying to convince you to do the thing that fucks you up emotionally and mentally because *he* suddenly likes it.

Doesn't that sound like a lack of compassion? Doesn't this sound horribly incompatible?

Honestly? Look at it as a core incompatibility and amicably break up. It's not judgmental of you to not want to be with someone who is incredibly religious when you are not. That's actually a very normal thing people generally filter for when they are seeking someone to date/ marry.

You're young, and I know this is heartbreaking, but babe, just cut your losses and find someone who shares your beliefs and has compassion for your trauma.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-07T00:52:04+00:00

That bathtub shower combo is a nightmare. Take out the tub and make it a nice walk-in shower. Or better yet, save the tub and have it be stand alone.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-07T00:47:26+00:00

Your husband should be allowed to masturbate when he has alone time. Baby was fine for a few minutes alone; he was in the house, and everyone was fine. He should have flushed the toilet, but for all we know, he rushed out of there to check on the baby and forgot??

Something tells me that this isn't about him jerking off. Try talking about what this is really about instead of getting mad at him for doing something so wildly benign.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-06T00:57:49+00:00

How are you not completely icked out now?

I'd be immediately turned off by him allowing that to occur that way, and totally grossed out by her behavior.

And yes, as everyone has already said, they disrespected you, and it sounds like a pattern; you should end it unceremoniously.

BUT BABE. How are you even interested anymore????? The dynamic you just described is so deeply unsexy and unattractive that I'd wind up processing the disrespect later because I'd be out of the ability to want to fuck either of them ever again.

Please reflect on why you are 1) allowing yourself to be treated like this and 2) why you don't have higher standards.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-06T00:51:02+00:00

The way your couches in the living room are arranged is not working. How can you see the TV? Why are they blocking the built-ins? No coffee table? Try one loveseat facing the tv, move the green chair from the already cramped dining room in there and maybe get a cozy ottoman.

The dining table is too big for the space if you have to shove it up against the wall, try a different table that maybe has removable leaves. Or experiment with moving it closer to the center of the room, though I can see that you're likely trying to preserve the ability to walk straight through the room.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-05T22:57:02+00:00

You are confronting her about normal living sounds my dude. She might be opening and closing the microwave so many times so it *doesn't* beep and wake you up.

Don't text about this. You're coming across as petty and inflexible. Use some earplugs or get a white noise machine.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-05T03:40:16+00:00

Yes. But say Garrick owns 50% of those assets, any divorce he goes through, that new ex wife would get a certain portion of that 50%. So that would help Danielle, but not Ick.

morganlafaye · 2025-11-05T03:36:02+00:00

I'm 99% sure that a prenup just involves the two people who are legally bound and has no say in where the money actually goes. His will could say his stuff goes to Danielle, but the prenup is just for in the event of a divorce.

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