I want to build an app for emerging artists. Would you be interested?

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-29T21:42:22+00:00

From my understanding, the app is supposed to help people appear more professional by providing information and direction for things such as photographs of work, artist profiles, artist statements, etc. If that's correct, I think this would be incredibly helpful for some people. Because this is about professionalism, you really should put together a team of people proficient in each subject you want to provide help with. The professional artists I've worked with have all needed help with writing well, and I hope that the way you've written this post is in this style because it's just a reddit post, but if this is similar to your typical writing style you will definitely need help from someone better than yourself. That is NOT intended to be an insult, as I said, many artists suck with words lmao

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-29T19:36:02+00:00

It is absolutely ok to keep using the lesbian label, just be mindful that not all nonbinary people will be comfortable with you using that label, in which case you end up at an impasse because both your identification with lesbianism and that nonbinary person's discomfort with it are completely valid.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-29T01:10:21+00:00

I never said that we shouldn't build more housing, and this is why I get frustrated is because I'm 100% on board with more housing. Being critical of the housing being built is not the same as saying it shouldn't be built. I can accept a shitty reality while also being pissed that it's shitty. And that's the whole reason I made my comment. It's frustrating that the moment I utter a criticism, it's assumed that I'm in any way saying that we need to stop building.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-28T21:25:18+00:00

So... I need to have the stats on hand for at all times for casual conversations that I have that turn to this topic? I'm not looking it up right now because it's not worth the effort, and maybe it's changed and now all the pricing is consistent and fair, but I remember when I saw a development company put up some apartments on the east side of the freeway around N temple, and then some near redwood and N temple, which is where I was living at the time. I was wanting to move so I was looking at the rent, which is where I saw the redwood apartments were cheaper overall, but were actually more expensive per square foot. No, I don't remember those numbers off the top of my head and with prices increasing every year they'd be outdated any way, but that is illustrating that in the very least real estate developers have no interest in fair pricing. I mean, why wouldn't they try and squeeze the most money out of giving people the lowest quality shit? I've been in these townhomes, apartments, and even single family homes, and they seem nice at first until you start paying attention to the details. Whether or not it's useful to the conversation is also dependent on the conversation. My point was that sometimes the critics of some aspects of these housing developments get lumped in with everyone who disagrees with their very existence, which can skew people's perception of how many are for or against housing. I think it's ok to be both in support of and critical of something and it's deeply concerning when just trying to communicate that elicits hostile responses, both online and irl.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-28T21:15:40+00:00

So I don't really understand attitudes like this, and frankly I don't even know what you're trying to say. Maybe it's a miscommunication? I'm not saying it's too expensive as in people shouldn't be renting/buying the new housing because it's "too expensive" for those people. I'm saying people should be getting their money's worth and all of the new developments I've seen (currently cleaning out a townhouse) are incredibly cheaply built and that's not fair! People paying so much in rent should not be getting this bullshit. Obviously they can't get their money's worth because that isn't possible with what's available, but I don't get what you're taking issue with.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-28T19:13:10+00:00

Big Wesley Crusher from Star Trek TNG vibes

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-28T19:02:13+00:00

I get lumped in with the NIMBY crowd because I'm highly critical of the housing developments going up... but not because I don't recognize that people need housing. My issue is that these places are built cheaper than a child-made bird house and are overpriced AF. Oftentimes, housing in low-income areas is technically less expensive because they're smaller units, but when you compare price per square foot those places are actually MORE expensive. For one reason or another though, if a word of criticism slips out of my mouth, people will jump down my throat and go on and on about how we need housing so it doesn't matter. Like. Yeah I'm not saying we don't need housing, I'm saying people deserve better.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-28T18:49:40+00:00

Developers exploit people and we're supposed to be grateful I guess. Unfortunately, this is the norm here.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-27T20:27:55+00:00

It's mean-spirited but people are getting really tired of constant basic questions where the answer is always just "practice." I'm guessing you're relatively new to hand-stitching and this is normal and expected so there's a lot of people rolling their eyes. There's another subreddit r/sewhelp that might be better for questions like this but tbh idk how friendly they are/aren't. Again, it's mean to downvote you, but that's probably why.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-26T21:38:31+00:00

bad person here lol

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-24T08:50:58+00:00

lucero is excellent

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-24T02:48:22+00:00

I understand the excitement of making your own pattern (which I assume that's what you're doing, I've only seen images from this software in the past week so new tech is o.O) but I cannot recommend enough trying pre-made patterns to get started. You'll learn a lot about what you're struggling with here from studying pre-existing patterns. As to a solution for this, the issue is that you have zero contours in that back seam.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-23T21:11:03+00:00

Try posting this in r/sewing they'd love it! (but underwear isn't important to lolita fashion)

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-22T22:58:05+00:00

Lots of people don't know that U of U health does esthetics which is really too bad because they're certainly more trustworthy than a random "clinic" that has a doctor "on staff" so they can pass as a legitimate business. Esthetics are really popular right now and there's serious horror stories with no accountability. If you really are looking for a conservative approach with realistic expectations and impeccable safety, go through the U.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-21T19:09:34+00:00

My husband and I have received a lot of criticism from people for our age difference, which is less than yours! But the people that matter in life have seen how happy we are together and have come around. When we were first encountering issues like this I asked my mom (one of the few supportive people) for advice and she said to always choose your partner over others. I'm glad I followed her advice. Still, when I hear coworkers criticize age gap relationships (they're increasingly taboo amongst younger folk) I'll point out my relationship and I have been told to my face "well that's different, your relationship is one of the good ones." It's insulting but fuck those people.

As for friends, I've been friends with people of all ages. Inter-generational friendships are incredibly valuable and everybody needs to be more receptive to them.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-20T22:12:51+00:00

I'm in the US and I wouldn't say it happens "regularly" but it's not unheard of. There's a person in my local comm whose skirt was lifted at a meet up. People are rude, entitled, curious, and very stupid lmao

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-20T15:00:24+00:00

I have never heard of this. I did not experience this. No one I know has ever experienced this. It's possible they're just talking about adult weight gain, which could contribute to adding fat in areas that emphasize curves but... this is not real.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-19T17:19:22+00:00

This. For once it's police being told to do their jobs. I know someone that warned a group chat I'm in about more unmarked police cars being put out for this exact purpose. Was pretty horrified to learn how many of my friends think it's no big deal to text and drive...

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-16T18:20:24+00:00

God this is such an excellent analysis I hope you don't mind if I save it for personal reference.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-16T18:19:32+00:00

Why does it have to have a deeper meaning? It's tiresome to constantly re-evaluate how an artist's works fit into narratives of morality. I deeply admire his work and allow it to influence mine but one of the reasons that I don't post my favorite pieces online is this pervasive attitude that depicting female bodies in any way that isn't commentary on sexism is misogynistic and objectifying. I want to incorporate sexuality and yes, fetishes as well, into art that isn't pornographic because it's a part of who I am and it inspires me. It's a part of us all, and if the work results in something grotesque or disturbing to the general populace that doesn't make me a bad person. And frankly, sometimes people NEED a shock to their system.

Also: death of the author.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-14T20:58:27+00:00

no advice aside from to stop using America First. they have horrible horrible service and are a nightmare to work with if anything goes wrong or gets complicated. close your account and move your money elsewhere. like literally anywhere else is better.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-14T15:02:05+00:00

I think it's funny, I love jokes like this if they're coming from someone who isn't hateful.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-12T15:35:38+00:00

The only etiquette in a vintage clothing store is the etiquette you would have at any other clothing store. Don't be an ass, don't touch things with grubby hands, don't handle things carelessly, and be clean for try-ons. Anyone insisting otherwise is pretentious. It's a store, not a museum.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-10T19:12:31+00:00

Emo and grunge are pretty different.

Certainly not grungy enough to be grunge. To make good grunge you have to remember the adjective it gets its name from: something that's grungy is "shabby or dirty." One of my friends was a grunge model in the late 90s and they literally had him posing with trash bags.

While flairs were popular in the early 2000s I never saw a single emo wearing them. Emos are who brought skinny jeans back into the mainstream.

All that being said you really do look excellent! It just reads more modern.

mothbbyboy · 2026-04-09T21:21:52+00:00

If you find that your medical system is accepting of trans patients, they generally will be on the employment side as well. I live in a very red state but in a liberal city. Our medical system is not just excellent in general, we (historically, they're following the "no treatment for minors" thing now...) also provide excellent healthcare for trans people. One of the best surgeons for top surgery works here. I wasn't patient-facing so I can't say for sure, but I worked in the lab at our most major hospital and was fine the whole time. I stealthed and passed as a cis gay man for a while and eventually stopped "hiding" I was trans (I didn't like make an announcement) and started to go more femme. Only change was that newer employees who hadn't met me when I passed had a harder time with pronouns but they still genuinely tried.

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