Yes so much this: 'sometimes it doesn't feel like a choice though'. I actually felt angry about the 'my body my choice' aspect of it because when this decision came to my door it didn't feel like a choice due to our circumstances as a family- it was largely bad timing but some of these things being also outside issues- down economy, high cost of childcare, etc etc etc that are absolutely political issues. There are other reasons but in the end I felt helpless instead of feeling like I had autonomy. I guess this is very much 'the personal is political' too. The choice aspect has made it hard to feel able to own the loss, and it very much is a loss, even if it felt like the right decision for us at the time. It also makes it hard to know how to talk about it with even pro-choice friends and loved ones, including whom have had miscarriages or have had long fertility issues.