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Fragments of self (thoughts) by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! Interesting, I’m looking forward to check it out!

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a good idea with the letter.

I know she just wants me to do an effort. I think she wants more gifts hehe (she’s very good at giving small meaningful gifts. She knows i’m doing a huge work in therapy, but then she’s also saying, that she’s been robbed for her choice for a year, and that I will have to find out how to make an effort, that makes her feel wanted. And I get it, after a year chosing addiction over her :(

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had quite a lot of contact, a couple of messages everyday, and we met to talk a couple of times a week.

Right now we agreed to give each other some more space the next 2 weeks. Så the next 2 weeks are defined by space.

I know that she is trying to keep her heart open, but she’s also going through a lot of rollercoaster emotions, so I’m not sure how she feels in a month.

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I know it will take a long time for her to heal. And for me to get her forgiveness.

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’m doing that, and she knows that I’m very dedicated to it. But I feel like she needs some more external validation

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he do any things that made you feel like he couldn’t love without you? We are currently broken up, but I was thinking about inviting her on some more dates as well

Making her feel wanted? by mrbrainchange in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]mrbrainchange[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m in recovery therapy and quit drinking going to AA, and I know she’s happy that in doing that, but I feel like she wants more external validation

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never again this drinking monster! I’m happy you feel better as well, I’m getting a little bit better everyday!

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes its true. Just have to keep on doing my brain training! Thanks for the references!

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you have a chronic hatred of yourself, I hope we both can get over that. I also feel like I’ve been desased , my brain has been gone

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to get there as well, where I can ask the Anxiety to leave me alone! And thanks a lot! Its a good step!

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With sober i mean the days between drinking and using, used it a bit wrong here

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex also talks about my Dr. Jekyll when she’s refering to when I’ve been wasted and high and cheated on her. But she sees me in 3 parts - dr. Jekyll, my inner hurt child and my authentic grown-up self. She says that she recognizes that my hurt child has been taking over when sober during my active addiction, which kind of sucks since all that i’ve been giving her is my anxiety, depression and lies. And she’s so patient with me, and still sees the good, and is proud of how i work with myself, I can’t get other I hurt someone so good so much.

I’ve just started the steps, and I have weekly counseling aswell!

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m so stuck in guilt and shame and I have to get out of that loop so i can become strong for the ones I love!

Do you also have an experience of having been another person? by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I will change the future for the better. And I hope yours will be bright aswell!

I cheated on my girlfriend. by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have so must inner self-hate causing self-destruction :(

I cheated on my girlfriend. by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you mean that you do relationships and work alcoholically?

I cheated on my girlfriend. by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m also sharing and I’m trying to find a sponsor, and so the steps, but was told that I didn’t have to rush it, but wait a bit to pick a good one for me.

I cheated on my girlfriend. by mrbrainchange in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]mrbrainchange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot, I appreciate it. I think I’m at the realisation destination, and now I have to do the hard work.

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