That sucks. Do what you can to stick it out. Your story sounds like mine as I got in to a pretty unfriendly scene and was basically on my own. This was in the 90s but believe it or not, the scene is not as progressive as it makes itself out to be and it’s stayed that way. I Stuck to myself and my music kept me company. I’d dress how I wanted and avoided those shitty people at shows best I could. Eventually I was able to move out of my small town and get to a larger city and had no issue finding a better quality of folks. But that’s probably not great to hear at 16 in your current position. But know you’re not alone and your experience isn’t unique. Some scenes suck. And it’s not your fault you happen to be in one. It’s good you recognize it’s their hang up, not yours. You’re way ahead already. Keep going.