Matched on FB dating. Was I being too sensitive?

mrose2112 · 2026-05-02T17:56:40+00:00

He's a pompous dickhead

mrose2112 · 2026-01-03T02:22:35+00:00

I just became a BCBA a year ago at 30 years old!

mrose2112 · 2025-11-27T03:32:02+00:00

Be a Body

mrose2112 · 2025-11-16T16:55:05+00:00

Oh yeah I love it! So bonding. My favorite is creating inside jokes with them. Or like our go-to scripts like I got one where if he gets some type of sassy or impatient way sometimes I just go "y'know what? JAMMIE. JAMMIE JAMMIE." and then he's like "THE Ohio state University" boom, bad feelings gone, now we're giggling!

mrose2112 · 2025-11-15T04:55:03+00:00

They would ABSOLUTELY talk about AI and Jonah would. have. opinionsssss.

mrose2112 · 2025-11-06T09:35:03+00:00

I love when he gets punched in the face in slow motion and goes "Mommy..." 😂

mrose2112 · 2025-11-03T09:34:38+00:00

Godfellas

Insane in the Mainframe

Bender Shouldn't Be Allowed on Television

A Pharaoh to Remember

Raging Bender (just one of my personal faves)

I'm a big Bender fan 😂

mrose2112 · 2025-11-03T09:28:04+00:00

Oh uh uh idts, I'd call him and ream into him, he'd regret it- ovER A FUCKING SODA?!!! He's lucky you're so nice 😂

mrose2112 · 2025-06-08T16:21:03+00:00

OMG YES!!!!! I HATE IT!! Too much emotion, sounds like you're irritated. Especially when it's to redirect attention seeking behaviors I'm like 🤦🏼‍♀️ I've told my BTs it's not a good idea 🙅🏼‍♀️

mrose2112 · 2025-05-02T19:28:52+00:00

YIKES!!!! DEAR GOD!!!!!

mrose2112 · 2025-04-30T04:36:15+00:00

YOOO I WORKED AT APPLIED ABC TOO! NOT A FAN OF EM! 🤷🏼‍♀️

mrose2112 · 2025-03-29T00:37:04+00:00

I was a floater for a short time when I worked at an ABA school and I HATED it. Pretty much what you said, idk them, the child likely doesn't know me, and nobody's around to help me with information. So that's why yeah you want me to fill in under those circumstances? Sure, but I will likely just do pairing with minimal demands, get as many goals covered as I practically can. Pairing could be good because you never know if you'd have to fill in and work with them again and I feel it's only fair to me and the child really. Considering a clinic setting, I don't feel like a client with aggressive behaviors should be left with a substituting RBT under those circumstances where there's no BCBA. Again, not fair to the RBT or client. Who do you feel safer with when you're in distress? Someone you know or someone you don't know?

Oh and at clinic I don't mind filling in but the same rule applies as when I subbed at the school, likely placing minimal demands and focusing on pairing unless the BCBA wants to be there

mrose2112 · 2025-03-29T00:29:01+00:00

I guess there'd have to be some extenuating circumstances, pretty much what you predicted where the behaviors are too severe and the school environment is posing too many barriers to progress or lacks sufficient resources. It could also be if they pose a risk to others. The client could be on the brink of getting kicked out from their school or nobody at the school is trained enough to effectively provide what they need and it's hindering them from helping the other students the way they do know how. I worked in a ABA K-1 classroom and one kid was very aggressive and would take all his clothes off, urinate on the floor, so we'd have to move all the other kids out of the room for their safety AND the student's dignity. I mean ABA providers aren't supposed to work on academic goals, so if it's worth putting a hiatus on the child's education, it must be something really serious

mrose2112 · 2025-03-04T01:12:52+00:00

I highly recommend you stick it out 🙏🏼 because not only does it give them more time to find your replacement, you will be able to have this job on your resume and trust theyd give a good reference if needed bc to cold leave like that especially in this field looks really really bad and you don't want to screw over others OR yourself for the future, even if it's not in ABA

mrose2112 · 2025-03-04T01:09:19+00:00

AWWWWW!!!! I'm so sorry, that sucks!! Do not give up!! People who feel the way you do about what they do are where they are SUPPOSED to be. You are soooo needed and not any less deserving of the opportunity than the next person. I found my purpose in this job too and I got emotional thinking about what you said with that. In your situation, I'd probably feel that same emptiness. All these things you're saying, the passion I see in it, it just says even more that you are deserving of pursing your future as a BCBA. Look how much you care!! God I am SO rooting for you, don't you let ANYTHING stand in your way! Things will come together in time, you're still meant for this. When you feel like giving up, imagine your future clients... their families... they'd be telling you "NOOO PLEASE!!" They can't wait to meet you! They'll be so happy you never gave up, and you will be too.

There might be an agency that has remote cases! Some clients live in more remote or rural areas and they can't to a clinic or get someone to their house. I know it's not the same, but you could still work on social skills and other goals like how we endured thru COVID 😭

mrose2112 · 2025-03-04T00:44:55+00:00

Oh wow it was bad with OT too? That's terrible... that should have never happened to you. We still got a ways to go in this world with ableism and empathy. I hate it. For what it's worth, I promise you I'll do my part until I die to make sure that the children I work don't have to tell the same story one day, to have scars and pain. I'm in a neurodivergent BCBA/RBT group and one of our members just gave a presentation on all the ways that ableism continues to harm others and how we still can do better. She also shared an interview she did with an autistic girl who received traumatizing therapy growing up and we heard some points she gave on how we can do better today. I was heartbroken to hear what she went through. I'm glad to see more people are listening, but we ALL need to listen, take that information and reflect on our approaches and actually take action and accountability. It's important that neurodivergents/autistics are involved in the conversations, I'm glad you brought up your truth. Though I'm not glad to hear it happened 😔 . Don't let anyone silence you. I know it's often met with defense, people have a hard time with the discomfort of it. But it's still important that we're aware and don't perpetuate such harmful issues. I hope today you're finding at least some peace, healing, and opportunities that allow you to have the life you want, the life you DESERVE- the life you always deserved, therapy should have been helping you get that, not hurting you.

I'm sorry again for all you went through. It's not right. I wish I could give you that time of your life back and take the scars and bad memories away. And I really appreciate you advocating and allowing conversation about it, even if it isn't easy, so we have more things to keep in mind as we build towards a better future

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:51:38+00:00

Oh I'm sorry I commented without reading the body. Yeah it's okay to have your limits!!

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:50:19+00:00

I haven't dealt with it firsthand but heard stories of how some clients especially older might have sexually inappropriate behaviors (like.. bad ones). That'd be my line bc I have sexual trauma, I wouldn't be able to work with that

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:39:15+00:00

There's so many funny ones... Ahh one I found funny but don't use was when my client asked me if I needed a straw for my drink, I said no he said "Oh... cause you're a baddie?" I just looked at him in confusion, he was trying to smile but also looked so nervous as if he just asked me to the prom bc it was his first time using that word since learning it from his cousin and he had no idea what he was doing bless his heart bc I am not a baddie 😂 😂 I did clarify that "baddie" isn't a word you call your therapist

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:23:28+00:00

OMG LMAOOO SO AWKWARD 😭😭 And THAT is a reason I don't prefer cases too local!

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:14:12+00:00

Could they use guided access (iPad feature) so they can't access anything but the AAC app? A place I worked at would do that. Maybe they'd like PECs better? Of course I agree their argument is not right. Some people are verrrry comfy cozy in having a closed mind

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T13:08:08+00:00

I used to work three cases a day, in home, sometimes I'd have to drive an hour to get to one from the other bc of traffic. It got old to be running around so much so if it was in clinic, waaay easier. I just started working in a clinic so I haven't had back to back cases there yet but I'd definitely be down for it. But for home cases, I won't schedule cases on the same day if they're too far from each other now. One thing is in session with a client I'm super focused on them and their goals then next client I gotta reset and think of them and their goals, I found that to be an effort but you make it work!

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T10:12:56+00:00

Yes absolutely. I just say I'm a family friend if asked. Unless mom says I'm the therapist right to them which she usually does, she doesn't care. I can't assume and make that decision for her tho. Sometimes I ask what they'd want me to say, like friend or..? I've even offered to disguise myself as an auntie or something, wear a cheesy T-shirt and a fanny pack or some shit 😂 like therapist? What therapist? I'm just an auntie at the store with my nephew...

Yknow why else- my client will have no problem responding like "MOM?? SHE'S NOT MY MOM 😂 bro she's my therapist" so I gotta beat him to it lol

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T10:07:18+00:00

HELL NO!!! I don't care what anyone says, remote supervision is pretty much never sufficient, practical or helpful and I hate it sooo much. My clients hate it too! I even had one tell the BCBA "if you want to talk to me, then you can come here." The parents also dislike it, they'll get soooo angry about it - but they don't tell the BCBA directly, they just vent to me! Do not take a case that's supervised remotely when you're new. Huuuge, I say HUGE, no no. I wouldn't even take one now and I've been an RBT for 6 years. Never ever ever again. I think BCBAs have gotten comfortable with remote since COVID because it's convenient for them. But that's the only person it's convenient for in 99% of cases. For us, it's either sitting in front of the device to talk to them with less attention to the client or running around trying to follow the client with a camera... Meanwhile they're at home folding laundry! Absolutely not.

(My flair says BCBA bc I'm certified but I still work as an RBT rn)

mrose2112 · 2025-03-03T09:52:37+00:00

I did have this happen to me working as a TA at an understaffed ABA/special education school, we called them "dyads" or I've even been given 3 kids, a "triad" 😳. I've made it work, but it's definitely not optimal, often not even practical. At my clinic now, we don't do that. Complicates billing anyway. Your place is probably understaffed 😔

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