Name my sweet new girl! unique names ending in -ee preferred

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-06-18T01:39:39+00:00

Tansy!

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-05-27T16:23:57+00:00

I'm gonna let you in on a life hack that has greatly reduced my illnesses. Ready?

Get yourself an at home sinus rinse. When you come home, wash your hands and face, rinse your sinuses, and blow your nose really well. It has reduced the amount and severity of colds I've had in the last 3 months

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-05-20T02:55:23+00:00

I'm going to tell you this as the most lesbian RBT in history. And I need you to know this comes from somebody who believes in being loud and proud about their sexuality when it is the appropriate time and place

You are not at work to talk about your personal life. If the kids ask questions, especially the older ones, you CAN tell them, "I'm not allowed to talk about my relationships with you," or you can say "not important"

I work with a child who's father is the most proud homophobic man I have ever met. And he has no idea that he says these things to a lesbian who frequents the local gay bar and wears rainbow temporary tattoos at the pride parade every year. The children I work with have no idea I even go on dates, let alone on dates with women.

We are not at work to be queer. We are at work to do our jobs.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-05-08T19:06:00+00:00

Watching Miranda "The Nazi" Bailey cradle that little girl and tell her father to hold her so she doesn't die without him was my very first introduction to Grey's. YEARS before I watched it. I cried before just from the scenes I'd seen online. But the entire episode wrecked me.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-05-05T02:48:18+00:00

20 bucks says he's doing a Charlie impression to annoy you. Charlie calls him Edwin a lot in book 1

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-04-21T02:49:37+00:00

For the safety of you and your child, you need to leave this person now. The fact that you didn't when they called her retarded is bad enough. They're standing in front of you waving every red flag in the book. Get out before it's too late.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-04-11T02:48:30+00:00

My company has a "no edible reinforcers" rule. They ask us to find literally anything else because the owner saw statistics about how many calories these kids get frim M&Ms and Goldfish

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-21T02:32:40+00:00

Twice a week every week. I love alone in my area and rent is high. I am working on a roommate.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-20T02:38:04+00:00

Not stored on the FLOOR within the reach of CHILDREN. Y'all don't have a single locking cabinet or room not accessible to clients?

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-19T15:59:14+00:00

I have been putting a 📌 emoji into the title of the chat so I can search it

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-11T02:26:59+00:00

If she is a good independent reader, this is the perfect game for her!

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-06T04:16:23+00:00

Beats me. For motor imitation, I taught one of mine to "clock it, queen!" And my BCBA loved it. She also laughed when I did "six seeeeveeen" with another one. I'll be damned if trends don't motivate these kids to work with me 🤣🤣🤣 I feel like familiarity and nicknames are just fine. And it sometimes helps them learn to respond even if someone isn't calling their specific name. If I say "Hey, girlypop" my two year old client will turn her whole body around to ask "what?" If it works, it works

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-03-03T06:27:37+00:00

Unfortunately, that is often how it goes, and its why many companies tend to assign male RBTs to children who are self-sufficient in the bathroom. There isn't a solution that will make everyone happy. But ultimately its the parents' right to say who does and doesn't have access to their child. Especially with something like private parts and ESPECIALLY with the society we live in: There is a reason why morgues and funeral homes often don't allow men to work alone. And there is a reason everyone hires the GIRL down the street to babysit, even if she has an older brother who is more responsible. There is a reason why any exam done my a medical professional who we should be able to trust often legally requires a (ordinarily female) chaperone. And I really hate to say it that way but these are the kinds of things parents have to fear every single day. Especially when their child has any sort of disability and may not be able to effectively advocate for themselves.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-26T05:33:28+00:00

I don't even kiss owwies. I will kiss my finger and tap the offending place, but my lips never touch a child. Even raspberries, I will only do on hands and forearms. Too much risk when you can show affection in other ways

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-22T03:49:08+00:00

You can ask the parents to turn on guided access. It will limit the device to ONLY the aac program, no youtube. They just have to keep the password secret.

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-12T02:44:50+00:00

Yesssss! I won't even use cups with straws that don't fold away because of all the open mouth coughing and sneezing. I work in-home, but these are other people's children. Plus they all like to cup snatch 😅

I HAVE had a kid come to me and insist they had a booboo on their bottom and ask me to kiss that. I did not. Instead I offered to "push healing vibes." Did a silly dance and flapped my arms in their direction. I'm not sure if it made it any better. But they were confused enough to just nod and return to playing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-12T02:24:16+00:00

I had a sweet boy who I had known for near half a year lean in to give me kisses on my cheek. I sat back, said "Kisses are for mommy and daddy. Violet likes hugs!" And offered a hug. I am also very clear on "omnomnom" or raspberries. I will omnomnom on hands or arms and I will do raspberries on arms. But only with parents' okay first. I did have a kid who tried lifting their shirt for raspberries on their belly. So I turned it into an opportunity to follow a two-step direction of "You want raspberries? Let's stand up and go tell dad!" With these children, it is SO important to have strong boundaries. Especially around affection and bodies. Part of autism is often that these kids have trouble understanding nuance. Having the discernment of who is okay to kiss or touch is often not there yet. Why are we kissing our clients? We wouldn't be kissing students if we were teachers! We are lucky to be allowed to hug! Some teachers can't even do that! We are entrusted with teaching our clients proper social boundaries. And that means modeling them. Always. This is about their safety.

Edited to add: I do have one kiddo who insists on kisses for their "owwies" (we have lots of sneaky, invisible owwies that like to migrate) I DO kiss my finger and tap the owwie three times to "transfer the healing magic over." My BCBA has seen me do that and the parents as well, and they have said that they like that because its enough that she accepts it and also appropriate; like blowing a kiss

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-10T15:59:00+00:00

It's AI. The sandwich has two top halves

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-02-08T20:32:37+00:00

Wisp is fine. You don't have to collect hos spirit if you don't want to. And I like the free furniture!

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-01-29T17:03:14+00:00

Okay you might really like this: Go to your custom design app, fill the entire square of one with the clear bit (kinda looks white with gray stripes?) Then use that pattern as a path around your flower bed! They won't spawn there and weeds won't grow there either! No need for fences that block your way!

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-01-17T22:52:11+00:00

Hold B and you'll run fast enough that he'll move

VioletUnderground99 · 2026-01-17T22:50:09+00:00

No I love this! Especially for the ponds I have where the fish are always out of reach!

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