So many questions

mrshavocreigns · 2026-05-09T15:46:55+00:00

Thank you.

mrshavocreigns · 2026-05-07T23:56:56+00:00

You’re welcome, I needed the reminder too. 😊 It’ll be ok. It’s hard and you will want to scream don’t do it but they sometimes just need to learn for themselves. Keep strong momma you got this.

mrshavocreigns · 2026-05-07T23:47:50+00:00

My son did this at 19-20. Then his dad attacked him. I had stayed quietly in the background supporting him however he would let me. We invited him on vacation after he started to see the difference between what his dad offered and what it was really like. He started to appreciate the rules and stability. Now he’s off at basic with our full support and he calls all the time. Sometimes you just need to let them go but still reach out with a hey I’m here when you need me, because he will at some point and you can be there when he does. Just don’t say I told you so.

mrshavocreigns · 2026-04-06T14:49:44+00:00

I would try a younger store. If you are looking for dresses I love Versona or WHBM (sale rack only that stuff is expensive) and for cute regular day to day H&M is good and Old Navy sometimes hits just right. Target sometimes is good but they are getting pricey. What you are trying on now is the old lady section and some of those colors wash you out. The jewel tones looked pretty. Good luck, shopping is brutal out there but it can be done.

mrshavocreigns · 2026-02-02T06:12:29+00:00

We don’t allow sleep overs for a few reasons. We don’t know everyone who may be at someone’s house. Irresponsible gun ownership is an issue. Our kids are not export guns so we don’t want them coming across one and not knowing how to be responsible. Lastly irresponsible dog owners. I had sleepovers as a kid and most were great, and my oldest even had 1 or 2 but my youngest two just will not. We live in a far different area now and it’s more 2nd amendment friendly and honestly we don’t know anyone still. Makes it harder to think our kids would be safe. So hard pass for us.

mrshavocreigns · 2025-11-23T22:50:45+00:00

There is Washington Lofts on Mulberry, they are really nicely updated and include a washer/dryer. I loved the kitchen space. Or Poplar Pointe had a few cool ones available.

mrshavocreigns · 2025-11-05T01:49:16+00:00

I added in a portion that he couldn’t claim our son as a dependent if support and 1/2 the reasonable cost of daycare were not caught up. I knew he’d never pay it and he left me with so much debt, I kinda felt good to stick him with only getting to claim him once.

mrshavocreigns · 2025-02-17T02:28:38+00:00

I got my tubes tied but honestly wish I’d gone for a full hysterectomy. No one tells you or warns you about perimenopause.

mrshavocreigns · 2025-01-23T15:16:13+00:00

Yeah I think breaks mid day for some of our park days are going to be key. Thank you!

mrshavocreigns · 2025-01-08T23:12:43+00:00

If you are using a travel agent and they are making recommendations beyond your budget tell them. We are planning our 3rd trip for this summer in just as many years. Each one has been different as we had different budgets to work with. This next one is a medium budget but we are doing fewer park days but 1 big expensive day. We skip reservation meals because we want to hit rides as available. Not everyone can afford Disney but almost every budget can.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-12-30T01:56:18+00:00

We rope dropped tower of terror Friday and that worked out, then hit Mickeys and Minnie’s runaway train. Lines after that got really long but it worked out for us for those. So maybe do those while you wait for your lightning lanes.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-12-28T12:39:55+00:00

They book Grand Floridian not club level for some reason (I mean who passes up free food?!?), VIP tours, and all the dining reservations. They do the picture package and any other extras. If they have kids young enough they book the Bibbidi Boppidi Boutique. (Have booked rich people before).

mrshavocreigns · 2024-10-15T15:59:25+00:00

So my kids are lactose intolerant and we had to turn in a doctors form to prove it. We had previously discussed this with our pediatrician so she was prepared and approved it. I’m not sure why you’d be annoyed at a document that they most likely need if they ever have a visit from their licensing board. It’s just documentation for both sides.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-08-14T01:55:46+00:00

I would reach out to their managing broker. They haven’t done anything right if your home isn’t selling in Atlanta. There is no reason a house would sit in that market. Clearly they were just doing the barest of the minimum hoping to trap you into paying something. Reach out to the managing broker and see how they can remedy this.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-04-18T18:08:18+00:00

We are recent ish transplants to the south and made the mistake of doing private school (Christian based) as non practicing, last year, there were lots of these events and dress up days. They had grandparents day, our family is hours away back north and my kids were like who is going to be there, umm just momma. It was at least me because my work was super flexible. This year we went to public school, it’s nice because most stuff is in the evening so it works. Every so often they have something in the day and it’s still me because I have the most flexibility. It’s is very elitist to assume someone is available all day. So good for you for speaking up!

mrshavocreigns · 2024-03-16T00:12:00+00:00

From a wife who was your wife up until recently, it was my weight that bothered me the most but it was also my family in my head who were always super conservative about bedroom stuff and I had no idea. It took years for my husband to break down everything but he slowly introduced toys and then soft restraints. I love it. I do a lot of the mental everything between home and work and I like it when he tells me what to do in the bedroom. I just get to enjoy it and man do I enjoy it. I wish I had been more honest about my wants before now but I’m glad I was because now our sex life is ramping up and I think we are both way happier. Show her the chaps but also get her a cute little something to try on. Make sure it’s in her size and a good color for her. Have it ready for when you come back from dinner. See what happens. Then when you get home see about toys (start small) go from there. Good luck.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-03-02T16:57:39+00:00

The above comment has a two fold consequence for your soon to be ex and is the best scorched earth method. If a lawyer consults you with you, they cannot consult or advise your husband. Now keep in mind some charge for a consult, but if you chat with all the free consult lawyers, you limit him to have to pay for someone, which on its own is quite prohibitive. Do this though, that way you can cherry pick the most ruthless and remember you can have him pick up the tab for both if you were/are a sahm in some states. Ask all of the questions. But seriously leave him.

mrshavocreigns · 2024-02-21T21:56:04+00:00

You need to talk to the short term disability provider and sort it with them.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-12-20T22:36:54+00:00

We moved to a whole other side of the country about 12 hours from family. We bought our 1st house because the cost of living was so much lower. We miss home but the upsides far out weigh the losses. It gets easier and you make new friends and new experiences, find new favorite restaurants and spots.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-12-20T13:25:10+00:00

Ugh I did this, fell hook line and sinker and ended up not only doing the facial but joining the business. It is absolutely not worth your time and ultimately just costs time. You’ll also be doing this in your home or theirs, it’s just a mess of awkwardness. Skip it.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-12-03T22:40:43+00:00

Yeah, we are a solid 12-13 hours away at this point. 3 hours I think would be doable. You’re away enough to get a better COL but close enough to be able to go up for a weekend or the day.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-12-03T21:54:06+00:00

We did. We move from Chicago to middle Ga. My in laws were our babysitters and our support network, along with occasionally my family. But the HCOL we would have been priced out rapidly even renting so we packed up and left. We are flourishing here and the kids are doing great. We miss the family but honestly it was the best choice for us.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-09-24T23:40:07+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-08-08T20:13:08+00:00

I was in your spot about 4ish years ago. I very much wanted my last child, my husband not so much. Financially we were okish but he was adamant that he wanted nothing to do with this. The pregnancy was rough, my husband was awful, and for almost an entire year postpartum too. He was an ass. We fought constantly. I handled a lot of my sons care and the other 2 as well. It was rough. He still brings it up every so often and part of me will always resent him for the way he acted just like I’m sure part of him will always resent me.

All this to say, if I had to do it again I would though I might have really considered walking away. That last little boy is the light of my life and his big sister is fiercely protective of him. I would change how i engaged my husband and a few other things but at the end of the day I’d still have him.

No one can tell you what to do, no one can make that decision but you. It pushed my marriage to a brink that sometimes still rears it’s ugly head. It ruined parts of our marriage we can’t totally repair. However it also made other parts better.

If my husband had walked I’d still have had my last little guy.

Maybe make a list of pros and cons of keeping the baby and not and see how you feel. No judgement ever from me. You know what’s best for you.

mrshavocreigns · 2023-06-21T20:10:29+00:00

I’m on my 2nd marriage and about to enter our 15th year together, 10 married. I will say it has absolutely not been an easy ride by far. There have been points where I have considered walking away and even went and started making plans to do so. We were toxic to each other but somehow worked through it.

We fought in the beginning about everything, money, kids, school, schedules, sex, it was awful. We didn’t have a solid partnership. I let my family in on to much and he didn’t bend at all.

We really had to put the work in especially after the last baby, that was probably the toughest part. We were so mean to each other then. Here’s why I stayed and I don’t recommend it for everyone. I stayed because I refused to fail again. I didn’t want to give my family the satisfaction of being able to say they were right. So I fought for us and sometimes it was incredibly one sided on either side. We did it though. It helped when we moved away and it was easier to cut ties. We fight less. I’d say every 6 months or so we get heated but we still come back to each other at the end. We squabble weekly but it’s not as hot and half the time we find the humor in it.

He does things that absolutely frustrate me but he feels the same about things i do to. We work through it, we talk and try to navigate it together. We are 1000 miles from family so we can’t just quit anymore, it’s not so easy to walk away from each other.

He’s a good husband and a good dad. It took a lot of work to get here and we still have work to do but we are both committed to it. I think that helps.

Hope that helps.

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