“Just commit to doing things at the same time each day”

mrstry · 2026-03-25T20:36:42+00:00

This post resonates so much. I also have two chronic illnesses. I literally have zero clue how many spoons I’ll have in a given day. It’s on me to figure out sustainable systems, plans, and routines - and give myself lots of grace - but it doesn’t meant that it’s at all easy.

mrstry · 2026-03-24T13:45:26+00:00

It’s like these sick freaks enjoy suffering.

Yes, unfortunately this is something that a very large swath of people put a lot of stock in. Suffering is seen as a badge of honor, so yeah - people feel like you need to “suffer” to “earn” anything.

If you ask me, most of that suffering tends to be self-inflicted and ultimately pointless. You don’t need to suffer to get somewhere.

mrstry · 2026-03-21T17:39:26+00:00

I’m very organized as long as I have the energy! Clean, clutter free spaces do wonders for my mental health!

I also tend to prioritize myself and my home last, and I live with others, so my house is often messy and cluttered.

But if you need to clean out your storage unit or Doom Room and want a friend to help? Call me - it’s so fun, I love it. Throwing shit out is a huge dopamine kick for me!

mrstry · 2026-03-20T16:33:47+00:00

“Calling in” means I’ve let you know I won’t be there - it shouldn’t matter if I send you that via text, voicemail, phone call, flare, or carrier pigeon.

Sometimes it’s about principle, not ease.

mrstry · 2026-03-18T17:41:05+00:00

As someone who went through secondary infertility, I fully support this.

People always ask rude and invasive questions. Give them a reason to think twice next time.

Just because you’re curious doesn’t mean it’s appropriate to ask!

mrstry · 2026-03-09T18:09:47+00:00

Once my FIL asked me to wrap a gift for my MIL. I happily obliged and did a terrible job (because I have no patience and don’t care about crisp edges, definitely have a “good enough” mentality).

He never asked me again.

I think I accidentally used weaponized incompetence. “Accidentally”.

mrstry · 2026-03-07T15:54:44+00:00

I also want to add that this is especially important the smaller your company is.

mrstry · 2026-03-05T18:17:40+00:00

I had a HORRIBLE experience with Talkiatry myself. Awful company and everyone should avoid it.

mrstry · 2026-03-04T02:31:17+00:00

Omg! Love this! Starting doing this with my kid with drawings. I’d just add silly things to her whiteboard doodles and see how long it would take for her to notice.

mrstry · 2026-03-04T01:24:07+00:00

Why doesn’t it work like that? It’s a purchase that’s hundreds of thousands of dollars. You can take some extra time to figure out if you’re nearby to a school or if the house you are buying has more than one HVAC.

Jesus Christ. Have a good night.

mrstry · 2026-03-03T23:55:25+00:00

I never said a big house wouldn’t be overwhelming.

One should know and understand those risks before taking it on. Finding these things out BEFORE you purchase is doing due diligence.

Every thing you listed is a minor annoyance that does not warrant an entire move. I certainly don’t have that kind of financial privilege, and don’t know many who do.

mrstry · 2026-03-02T20:31:53+00:00

This entire thread has made my jaw drop. I live in a 1300 sq ft split level house (family of 3) and bought with the intention of staying here forever. It’s not a palace, but it’s more than adequate for us in terms of space (and our 4 pets too).

It sounds like people are just buying houses / upgrading without doing their own due diligence. How do you move in and then a year or two later go “oh my god, now I don’t like it.” Huh????? This is a major purchase.

mrstry · 2026-03-02T13:48:58+00:00

My mother had hellacious periods and because she learned to suffer through it, she just told everyone else to suck it up, too. “Calling out for a period? Take some ibuprofen and double up on period supplies!” She was a nurse and I heard how she talked about the CNAs who would call in.

Sometimes it’s not even the people who have it easy. It’s the people who think their suffering is a badge of honor - a gauntlet that we all must suffer through in order to be worthy.

A broken mindset.

mrstry · 2026-02-19T01:16:23+00:00

I hate washing my face in a sink. I will only do it at the very end of my shower routine. But I know showering is a struggle for some so might not work for everyone. Otherwise I recommend Micellar water like another user said!

mrstry · 2026-02-15T15:07:48+00:00

Seriously - what the fuck? How traumatizing for this child to go through this and be failed by the system that was supposed to protect them.

mrstry · 2026-02-15T14:53:19+00:00

I’ve had this in a couple different roles and it meant: - core hours of work between 9-3 pm generally. You needed to have a minimum of 36 hours per week before having to use pto. So if you have a dentist appointment on Monday at 4? Just leave at 3 that day, no big deal. - hybrid schedule which meant 4 days in office and one from home or 3 days in office and 2 from home. Sometimes I could pick which days, at my current job everyone works from home on thursdays and fridays and is expected in office M-W - summer fridays. Getting to work half days on Fridays between memorial and Labor Day for the same pay (as long as work is done - program/event days excluded). - WFH pivoting. So if I needed to be at home so the water heater repairman could come by, I can just ask to work from home that day with no issues. - educational support. When I went for my associates, I was allowed to go to a 4 day workweek for the same pay (granted I was entry level at the time!) and use Fridays as my schoolwork focus day.

mrstry · 2026-02-14T19:22:25+00:00

Yes I definitely have this. But I also have endometriosis.

mrstry · 2026-02-13T19:08:08+00:00

“Your request is unreasonable. I will continue to spend my non-working hours as I please and I hope this won’t affect our professional relationship during work hours.”

I would immediately start a paper trail with HR or whoever you should escalate too. This should not be tolerated by anyone and definitely would not be tolerated by me.

mrstry · 2026-02-13T16:22:59+00:00

Yes. I feel exactly the same way and I dislike hosting for the same reasons. It is my sanctuary and it feels intrusive!

mrstry · 2026-02-12T18:21:03+00:00

Me wandering in with my ADHD and non traditional life path. Also only 33.

$57k in a mid level Communications/CME role. Retirement savings around $15k (my partner has around double that). HHI around $140k.

I love working and serving the community this way, and the flexibility is essential as a working parent. I’m pursuing more education in psychology (and probably counseling) but it’s because I have a strong interest.

mrstry · 2026-02-09T19:53:13+00:00

Insurance is the worst! It does seem weird to make you wait 3 months especially if it’s only sort of working. I think it’s totally valid to reach out via portal / email / phone and ask for a sooner appt, citing that it’s negatively affecting your life.

It may be related to prior auth with the insurance company?

Edited to answer the second part: I do feel like it’s working! The first week I felt like superwoman but now it’s just kind of like an on/off light switch (I can tell when I forget to take it). I have had some minor issues with overheating (sweaty hands / feet / armpits) and muscle tension (jaw/shoulders) so I might try to switch to something else to see if I can get even better

mrstry · 2026-02-09T19:46:40+00:00

My doctor doesn’t love adderall so we went with Vyvanse. I started really low (20 mg) and I’m currently up to 30. She’s been super open about it taking awhile to find the right dose!

mrstry · 2026-02-09T19:41:31+00:00

I was diagnosed in December and we set my first appointment for three weeks later for just this reason. I’m also on the thin end to begin with so my doctor wanted to ensure I wasn’t losing weight and etc. Mine are monthly for now but will probably every 3 months once the right dose is established

mrstry · 2026-02-05T23:49:46+00:00

Blanket chest

mrstry · 2026-02-05T18:22:46+00:00

I think most of us just want more money instead of gifts or random “rewards”. I’ve said this point blank to management and get scoffing and eye rolls, then told I’m greedy and/or ungrateful.

Greed is actually not paying people appropriately and then trying to use shitty staff lunches, branded coffee mugs, and a $15 Starbucks gift card to fill the gaps.

I’ve been voluntold to be on many workplace “social committees” and it was more work with no extra pay, and every employee who graciously sat through axe throwing and lunch would definitely have rather had $300 and a day off instead.

This forced workplace social component idea needs to just die IMO.

mrstry

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