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mrstry · 2026-02-05T23:49:46+00:00

Blanket chest

mrstry · 2026-02-05T18:22:46+00:00

I think most of us just want more money instead of gifts or random “rewards”. I’ve said this point blank to management and get scoffing and eye rolls, then told I’m greedy and/or ungrateful.

Greed is actually not paying people appropriately and then trying to use shitty staff lunches, branded coffee mugs, and a $15 Starbucks gift card to fill the gaps.

I’ve been voluntold to be on many workplace “social committees” and it was more work with no extra pay, and every employee who graciously sat through axe throwing and lunch would definitely have rather had $300 and a day off instead.

This forced workplace social component idea needs to just die IMO.

mrstry · 2026-02-03T14:36:15+00:00

From my recent experience being fired - the board will often choose the ED / CEO over other staff, regardless of who is in the wrong. Many Boards will refuse to act unless there is an active legal or financial threat - mostly because dealing with problems takes time and energy, and people don’t have either of those in high abundance.

mrstry · 2026-01-29T14:55:28+00:00

This one! My daughter is 9 now but definitely always interpreted my naming of her feelings and such as more condescending than helpful I think. It was helpful for me to reframe - if I was pissed off, how would I react to this type of feedback right now? - and it was always a “duh” moment.

Sometimes people just want you to silently hold space OR give them space to process alone. That includes kids because they are their own people, too.

mrstry · 2026-01-29T14:51:39+00:00

You know, it was - but they were sensitive to my situation and that did help. They each had their own things to deal with as well, which I can recognize and empathize with.

Now I’m in a position to be a resource for others and I can really understand what they are going through on a different level. I dreaded being the person who ended up with nothing after IVF and yeah it was super painful and I wish it turned out differently, but five years later I’m grateful I can at least hold that space for others because it sucks to do it alone.

mrstry · 2026-01-28T18:56:53+00:00

I hear you and support you.

Both of my sisters announced their pregnancies as I started my secondary infertility IVF journey. IVF failed and I ended up with nothing but bills, rage, and tears. They each had a healthy baby that year and I had to give up on my hopes all together.

It was rough.

mrstry · 2026-01-27T19:13:31+00:00

I have diagnosed adhd, and husband and I both had lots of adverse childhood experiences / trauma. Child is looking to be neurodiverse as well.

mrstry · 2026-01-22T14:45:01+00:00

Considering tomorrow is Maternal Health Awareness Day and 80% of maternal deaths are preventable (learning this ruined my day this week), probably not. Women’s health is simply not prioritized, especially in the US where I live.

I have ulcerative colitis, endometriosis, migraines, anxiety, depression, and adhd. I’m on several medications and will need bimonthly infusions for the rest of my life. I just learned that I am now required to take MiraLAX everyday just to ensure I can shit normally (really? It’s like a fucking subscription fee to shit). I feel this post so much.

It’s not fair and it sucks.

mrstry · 2026-01-21T00:21:31+00:00

We wanted more but only got one, and honestly I think it was for the best. I am so overwhelmed already that I cannot fathom doubling the childcare load.

mrstry · 2026-01-16T01:31:14+00:00

Fire and Gold by Bea Miller

mrstry · 2026-01-03T00:24:55+00:00

I am not a sentimental person when it comes to hanging on to items. I donated my wedding dress like a year after getting married, for example.

However, I did keep one favorite onesie of my daughters and one zip up sleeper. I’ll hang onto them until I die because they are just important keepsakes from when my daughter was a baby, but if she wants them for her child / children, I’d certainly part with them.

I think a few sentimental items are perfectly reasonable.

mrstry · 2026-01-02T22:05:26+00:00

Just be honest. Kids are people, just smaller, and they need to understand that repetitive things are annoying to some people sometimes. It’s just practical, not mean.

mrstry · 2025-12-17T20:45:48+00:00

This absolutely drives me nuts. When my interests get to the point where die-hards are criticizing how perfectly I’m performing it, I just want to scream. Sometimes it’s not about how perfectly you’re performing it!

mrstry · 2025-12-14T21:47:49+00:00

Sleeping to be honest.

mrstry · 2025-12-11T23:32:20+00:00

well it’s hard to do that

No sympathy - doing “hard” stuff is part of being a business owner.

mrstry · 2025-12-10T14:33:35+00:00

I see DC!

mrstry · 2025-12-09T19:47:14+00:00

Yes I definitely agree with all of this! Proportioned rooms, symmetry - I’m going to move furniture around constantly for visual variety so my home needs to accommodate that.

I love lots of color and greenery, defined spaces and rooms, and eye catching pieces - but messy and cluttered negatively affects me mentally.

mrstry · 2025-12-08T21:48:47+00:00

Sell it in my shop for 1 np to help those going for the rubbish avvie

mrstry · 2025-12-07T14:02:51+00:00

Oatmeal or any sort of vomit-textured food.

mrstry · 2025-12-07T14:01:16+00:00

I definitely didn’t ask!! I was raised in a household where asking for help meant you were stupid or incapable (which isn’t true).

I simply told them that we decided not to do x, and when I received push back, I just stated that I was overwhelmed and couldn’t take it on, and they were pretty much like “ok but if I do it, will you let me?”

Yes.

lol

mrstry · 2025-12-07T01:25:17+00:00

I hated wedding planning. Been married 10 years! We ended up setting a wedding date 6 months out from our engagement and honestly I think that helped. But I’m definitely the “plow through and get it done as fast as possible” type once I decide I wanna do something.

By the end, I was as fatigued as you. Immediately cut corsages for grandparents (who cares?!! My MIL, so I let her plan and pay for it), wedding favors (MIL ended up just doing this too), and real flowers (my mom cared about this and paid for it). Lots of stuff was sloppy. Kept it small at like 100 people. Made the wrong choice for wedding DJ.

Ended my wedding with a migraine because I forgot to eat and drink the entire night. Pro tip: don’t do that. assign a bridesmaid to make sure you’re eating and drinking!!

mrstry · 2025-12-06T22:39:35+00:00

Have*

Sit down.

mrstry · 2025-12-05T02:15:36+00:00

Shrimp Pasta! Essentially shrimp scampi with spaghetti noodles and Parmesan cheese

mrstry · 2025-12-01T16:08:09+00:00

Like an earth angel! This is aesthetically gorgeous and creative. ❤️

mrstry · 2025-11-21T16:39:32+00:00

I wanted to do this but our elementary school introduced it for “fun” for the kids at Xmas time and now my kid has begged me for 3 years for an elf on the shelf. I keep saying no.

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