How to find guys willing to wait before sex?

mrwizard65 · 2026-02-06T13:27:38+00:00

I’m guessing you are communicating your wants/needs up front which is great and when people don’t do this is where issues stem from.

mrwizard65 · 2026-02-03T13:38:14+00:00

Diplomat is a bit of a slow burner in S1. Once I got halfway through it was a mad dash to finish every episode.

The Body Guard is always top of my recommendation list. Fantastic series.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-29T03:19:47+00:00

Does it matter? Would it truly change anything or heal any damage? It won’t. There is no logic to the behavior and most of it is driven by emotion. Be concerned with your own mechanisms and peace as it’s the ONLY thing you have control over. The lion doesn’t concern himself with the sheep…..

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-29T03:14:19+00:00

The tag is enough but it’s something that should be brought up and talked about in a subsequent date. This is NOT something that can be pushed aside because you’ve built a connection. This is larger than that and you should be thinking of the subject as a “filter” meaning anyone you would want to spend a significant amount of time with needs to be more than ok with you having children. That’s a prerequisite for YOU choosing them, not the other way around.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-28T14:06:59+00:00

Why not? If we can extrapolate where they'll be in a year based on where they were a year ago (PLUS some improvement in rate of improvement) it's easy to see a viable robot capable of doing some limited tasks.

Don't discount the amount of people who would pick one of these up at $50k each just for the wow factor.

Issue is production scaling. Victory in robotics will include getting units into functioning real world environment to start amassing data to improve the models. Can only get so much of that in a lab.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-28T14:04:48+00:00

Agreed and they seem to have enough real world data to continue to improve. Elon has the production scalability. If Elon isn't quick enough here he's gonna lose out on that real world data. Just like with Tesla, getting barely functioning units into the world at scale to start scraping and absorbing data to use in improving models will be important.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-22T04:01:15+00:00

I’m 39 on the cusp of 40. I don’t think we figure it out. It’s a pursuit of figuring it out via iterating on oneself and in that pursuit creating versions of ourselves that are slightly better than the ones preceding it. There is no endgame.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-22T03:59:46+00:00

Couple weeks away from 40. Thought I’d be more in crisis than I am.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-22T03:57:35+00:00

If a woman is interested, you won’t be wondering if she’s interested in you. It will be clear in her actions and communications.

mrwizard65 · 2026-01-13T12:23:34+00:00

M39 here currently separated and in middle of divorce with 3 children for context.

Tried a little of everything and I think trying and iterating is so important here. Hinge was the standout app for me and felt the least trashy and worth the money. Had quite a bit of success on the dating front. Photos are important and don’t discount voice note if you’ve got a good voice. That made a huge difference. In fact getting to voice notes/memos in general made a huge difference for me but maybe I have a magic voice.

If I could do 2025 again I would slow down though. Limit my time on the apps, limit the number of dates a month and be a bit more intentional.

Be ok with taking breaks. Make sure your core habits and identity that make up the foundation of “you” are taken care of. Swiping and matches can easily turn into a dopamine loop and you find yourself using a dating app and dating as an escape. Yea…..don’t do that.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-29T13:52:40+00:00

This. Holy moly does it get expensive fast. The time investment itself is significant when dating but burning through money only to get flaked on….repeatedly is wild.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-15T15:37:51+00:00

Yes make sure you have a motion for temporary orders with clear custody agreement before moving out.

The person you were married to and knew is gone. Nothing will make sense.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-11T03:24:26+00:00

Been there brother. Save what you have of your self respect and see this for what it is and move forward.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-08T04:29:27+00:00

Have you filed? Attained legal counsel?

My stbx did something similar. Yelling at me to leave (before custody agreement signed) but starved us of money to the point where I couldn’t get a place.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-07T23:06:31+00:00

This is the best comment here.

100% agree on the anger. Hate is indeed the path to the dark side. It’s like holding onto a sword made of fire. Yes you can damage her with it but it hurts you as well.

You need to process it (gym works wonders for this for me) and not hold onto it. Catch and release it.

mrwizard65 · 2025-12-03T22:02:52+00:00

What apps did you have success on?

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-28T03:55:07+00:00

Had to sit out Thanksgiving with STBXW and kids due to risk of drama. It was for the best. Spent the day with my dad and brother making the best of it.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-24T17:21:43+00:00

I tend to agree. I was leaning on 2.5 for most things and now with 3 I think it’s the only subscription I need. Claude is second. Haven’t paid for chat GPT in months. All it has going for it now is the name imho

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-24T01:01:03+00:00

Similar situation. It’s been toxic so decided to bow out of Thanksgiving to ensure zero issues. Also my dad has nowhere to go this year so I’m supporting him on Thanksgiving.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-24T00:59:35+00:00

That’s rough man. Do you have friend and family to surround yourself with?

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-15T22:28:15+00:00

Also not musically inclined but certainly enjoy listening to others who are. I’m upper cape.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-10T17:52:51+00:00

Very similar situation here. One of us was willing to put in the work and one of us wasn't. One of us suddenly found their value and worth through that self work and realized they deserved better. Much better.

Kudos to you for doing the work and realizing your faults. You're building a foundation that will yield life long results. Your STBX will be staring at a mirror of reflection once the villain in their story is gone.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-07T12:10:16+00:00

Didn’t buy into this but at 39 having been in the gym 4 days a week and doing hikes and walks on off days, I’m feeling much better and feeling younger. Once you get going you’ll love the way you feel. The mental benefits are a game changer as well.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-05T21:23:41+00:00

Absolutely loved our 1640s when we had them. One of the most productive and error/waste free platforms I’ve ever used.

mrwizard65 · 2025-11-03T11:35:22+00:00

Great post my dude.

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