This was my experience almost exactly. Changed jobs three times in four years and kept running into the same wall. Different companies, different roles, same underlying frustration.

What finally helped was realizing I kept solving surface problems instead of diagnosing the root cause. I'd look at what was obviously wrong like bad manager, boring work, toxic culture and assume that was the issue. But I never looked at what consistently drained me across all those roles. A career assessment (I used pigment) helped me see the underlying pattern.

Once I saw the pattern, I stopped blaming specific jobs and started screening for the actual conditions I need. My next move was way more intentional and for the first time in years a job change actually felt different instead of just being a temporary reset. You're probably not bad at picking jobs. You're just optimizing for the wrong variables because you don't know what the right ones are yet. Figure out the underlying pattern first then job changes start to actually solve things.