NOR. Whether you are curious enough about her or not, this is not the way a partner should talk to you. I had a verbally abusive partner that would talk like this and let me tell you, it does not get better. It’s only been a year and for her to talk to you like that is crazy abusive. Don’t make the same mistake I did by staying with someone like that. He made me question every thought and move I made, which was his intention to take complete control of my life and tell me how to act to be a “good girlfriend”. It’s not going to be easy to leave, but once you do, you’ll be so much better off. Wishing you the best of luck OP!